Posts by jambon1

I really felt sad for my wife having to take the kids on her own at 1st but as time wore on I realised just how liberating it is not to have life ruled by meeting times. I am very tired at the best of times and meeting nights are stressful with kids.

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hello!

by handyandy in

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hello i am andrew, .

glad to finally get the chance to learn to internet to publish my thoughts with people who understood me.. i forward look to big chat.. .

goodday,.

jambon1

Welcome.

It is a big relief to get things off your chest that you may have couped up in yourself for years.

This was a thing that saved my sanity 6 months ago.

Please share your thoughts.

J

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hello!

by handyandy in

jw
friends

hello i am andrew, .

glad to finally get the chance to learn to internet to publish my thoughts with people who understood me.. i forward look to big chat.. .

goodday,.

jambon1

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Is everybody serious about this 'no chatroom' resolutuion??

by jambon1 in

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i have come across this about this years assembly in a few posts recently.

sorry if i seem stupid but is this a local sarcastic joke common to this website or is it a fact that they have included it in this years resolution?

if it is, then firstly, i am quite honestly stuck for words!

jambon1

I have come across this about this years assembly in a few posts recently.

Sorry if I seem stupid but is this a local sarcastic joke common to this website or is it a fact that they have included it in this years resolution?

If it is, then firstly, I am quite honestly stuck for words!

Secondly, could anyone post the actual words or a recording that you can play on realplayer or WMP?

Thank in advance if you can set me straight on this.

PS - Everyone in agreement say "AYE".

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Please explain how disfellowshipping is a loving gesture

by McKafka99 in

can someone please outline the rationale and scriptures used to support the idea that disfellowshipping is a loving gesture?

i am trying to understand how this behavior is justified, when in my mind in seems a simple matter; one only needs ask oneself, 'if jesus (or jehovah) were standing next to you, would jesus (or jehovah), support any shunning-type actions?

' i find it very difficult that the answer would ever be 'yes'.

jambon1

The equivelent to this action in the bible is stoning a loved one to death.

Its one of the reasons why I have stopped considering religion as a viable option at the moment. In one way or another it is ALL tainted with harsh extreemism.

Not for me.

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Love is eroding away in the Congo, why?

by thecarpenter in

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when i first started studying with the jehovah witnesses, although i am a technical, matter of fact type of guy, the thing that got my attention was the genuine love i saw in the congregation (this was in the early 80's).

it made such a impression on me that i ignored some of the serious questions i had about the organization and went ahead and got baptized (i figured things would get sorted out over time and decided to give the society the benefit of the doubt) .

the congregation i went to was a fireball, full of activity and good works and growing fast.

jambon1

if you noticed someone has missed a few meetings, not to call the person because there maybe something wrong going on in their life and you don't want to endanger your spirituality. He said to call the elders first to make sure everything is okay then to call the person if they give the go ahead.

Legalism indeed, not love.

I heard a CO advise against praying for spiritually week individuals at the public meetings. WTF?

Its more like an organisation than a congregation.

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Harassed about filling out new blood card...

by slimboyfat in

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an elder in my congregation asked me again yesterday, for about the tenth time, whether i have filled out my new blood card yet - is this normal?

it is getting embarrassing as i just keep saying i have not got round to it yet.

i am getting the feeling that it is being used as a sort of loyalty test.

jambon1

Tell the guy that you are concerned about being stalked by someone in the cong. When he asks who, point straight at him and say "you, ya bullying, controling twat! Now back off".

It should put a stop to it.

These guys need to get a life.

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may i say hello?!?

by isthisit in

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hello my name is isthisit and i have a confession to make, i'm an active jw and not happy.

i am a lurker here and have to start posting.

i am 22 and have been "born and raised" as well as being 4th generation.

jambon1

Welcome.

You will find yourself on a rollercoaster of emotions right now. I never though mine would go away but things get better, much better.

It is very hard when family are in and your seem to be in deep. The ones who love you will want to do what they think is right for you but you must go with your true feelings otherwise you will continue to be miserable.

At one time I considered not leaving just so that I didnt have to face the problems thet leaving the org creates. Fortunately I made the break and I am now truely happy.

I was miserable too at one time but that is what happens when you are trying to live a life that you know is wrong.

All the best and be brave.

PS - it will be a big help that you have worldly friends to support you. You will need them.