I bet in his mind though he feels as though he has the upper hand, he doesn't need his birth family, he has a NEW family in the truth....lol. I wish you success in your life.
Posts by snarf
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28Life Outside the Witnesses
by jgnat ina newbie poster reminded me that jw's considering an exit may not be fully informed of their choices.
what is life like on the outside, and is such a life worth following?.
i'll post a summary of my lifestyle and choices in a minute, but i thought i'd at least get the thread started.
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Life Outside the Witnesses
by jgnat ina newbie poster reminded me that jw's considering an exit may not be fully informed of their choices.
what is life like on the outside, and is such a life worth following?.
i'll post a summary of my lifestyle and choices in a minute, but i thought i'd at least get the thread started.
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snarf
I too married into a JW family like yourself, it was probably the most abusive and oppressive relationship I had ever been in. What makes me happy now, is knowing that I am secure and safe, no mind games or outrageous expectations, if I want to take an hour out of my day to drink coffe and read books, my fiance thinks it is great, he just wants me to take care of myself and be happy.I definately make WAy more than I did with the witnesses, because now I can REALLY work. I am a self-employed painter, so no more scheduling jobs around studies, meetings, or even lunches whenever someone was in the neighborhood. My work relationships have improved, I am more personable with people. The book that changed my life was "WHY DOES HE DO THAT? INSIDE THE MINDS OF ANGRY AND CONTROLLING MEN' BY LUNDY BANCROFT. When I did look for a new mate I followed the suggeestions and guidelines from the book, and basically looked for the exact opposite of my ex. I couldn't have asked for a better life. Aslo, I did research on religion and how it keeps abusers controlling in their relationships by using scripture, and how to break free, the thing I most found was , if your God is a loving God, do you really think God will be all that upset if you leave an abusive relationship to better the quality of yours and your childs life? God knows all and sees all. Great post!!!
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A "spirit-directed" post - what's your favorite....
by serendipity ini'm posting under the influence of distilled spirits and was wondering:.
what's your favorite kind of booze?
i like frou frou mixed drinks like frozen margaritas and pina coladas.
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snarf
Sangria...mmmm.mmmm.mmm. So good in the tummy. Grape smirnoff as well.
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Internet Fraud (Wilfred)
by MsMcDucket indid anyone else receive this pm?.
business relationshipmessagefrom: mr.wilfred kudjo.
auditing and accounting unit.
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snarf
I used to get e-mails like that all the time, about once a month, but I just deleted them. It is scary all the fraud out there, and it would be very easy for someone who is not on the up and up about scams to get caught up in something like this.Sometimes they even ask for your personal banking money so they can "withdraw the money right out of your account and not hassle you anymore and leave the remaining funds".
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Judicial Committees
by Honesty inin light of the following scriptures regarding jesus, how do judicial committees and their members composed of three elders even remotely follow jesus' teaching and example?.
at dawn he went to the temple complex again, and all the people were coming to him.
he sat down and began to teach them.. then the scribes and the pharisees brought a woman caught in adultery, making her stand in the center.
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snarf
Wow, that is pretty deep. It's amazing how when you seperate yourself and open your mind how you see things differently, although I am sure that the elders would have some sort of rebuttal for this.
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Ironic hypocrisy of Bethel "service"
by MinisterAmos ini normally let people make their own decisions with a very hands off approach, but after reading the "living together in bethel" (or whatever the name of the piece of crap book is) i need to vent a bit.. anyone here is very familiar with the "quit your job or at least cut way back" talks that we were subjected to seemingly every other week.
after all, good dubz need time to prepare, attend, pioneer etc.
a good friend of mine left her job at an insurance co. to pioneer.
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Too bad church and State are sperate in these matters, can you imagine all the labor laws the org. is breaking?! It is truly sad to see all these people struggling. I know of a single sister in my old congregation who is struggling, she cleans houses for a living. I came across an apartment cleaning job that would have paid her $1000 a mont, and she could work it whenevr she wanted so she could still meet her "society requirments". I have a soft spot for struggling single parents, so I told her about it, but told her she needed to jump on it if she wanted it. I have worked with the manager of the complex for 2 years and have a really good reputation with her, she had the job all she had to do was show up and put in a bid. But, she drug her feet and had to "meet with the elders" for advice, and lost out on the job. A week later she went to Louisiana to rebuild houses for witnesses that were displaced and she is still there, working for free while she digs herself farther into debt.
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snarf
As long as the answers are factual and the questions are honest, I definately think it helps those who are struggling to break free. It also helps those that have been DF'D to realize that there are others out there and they are not alone.
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Diary of an Unborn Child - switch your rational mind off for ten minutes.
by nicolaou inthis article from awake!
in may 1980 is an example of the worst sort of emotional argument.
i'm just going to post it, barf, and then comment later.. *** g80 5/22 p. 16 ***.
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snarf
Isn't that riding on the politics of the world? I thought that witnesses weren't supposed to be involved in politics? I am not going to share my views on abortion, as everyone has an opinion, and I believe people have the right to believe in their own views. I think that was a very sad and touching writing but that just shows their hypocrasy in keeping seperate from the world. They should have have written the article solely based on scriptures and kept "worldly" passages out of it.
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Sister n law wacko. PLEASE! Need advice!
by annalice inmy husband and i have not been to meetings for several years now.
we have finally had our first child after 13 years of marriage.
he is now 5 months old.
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Congratulations on your new baby !!!! I agree with Blondie, just send the letters back unopened, just write "return to sender" on the outside of the envelope and after a while, hopefully she will stop.If she does stop by, invite her in, be nice to her, but also let her know that any talk about the org. is not up for discussion, if she starts talking , kindly ask her to leave. Kill em with kindness and success in your personal life. That, in my opinion, is always the best revenge.
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Where were you when the realization hit, that the WTS was not in the truth?
by whyizit ini was listening to a testimonial by valerie acuff and she said that she was sitting in an assembly, looking around at the crowd and thinking to herself, "this is your family, these are your people.".
she said at that moment she heard a voice inside say, "these are not your people, this is not your family, get up and leave now, and don't ever go back.
" so she took her two children at that very moment and left, and she never went back.
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I was home with my sick child and couldn't attend the meeting, so I decided to look up some things on the jehovah's witness site and somehow landed on silent lambs, it struck me like a lightening bolt, there was also a person in our congregation who was on the sex offender registry and I remember comment being made about him only a week before by my teacher in "the truth" because him and his wife had a daughter my daughter's age and was invited to stay the night, I of course said no. I remember my "teacher" assured me that this guy was in "clean standing" as no new charges had been brought against him since learning the truth. I still refused though, asking why their daughter couldn't just spend the night at my place, I got a lenghty explanation on how because I was a single mother at the time, that it would be a "healthy" situation for my daughter to see how a married family operates in the home. I told her the issue was no longer up for discussion and it was my daughter, my choice, and by no means was she going to go. At the next meeting I was able to attend they had a part on how they "keep Jehovahs organization clean", and based on the child molester and what I was going through at the time, I walked out and never went back. I stumbled on to JWD that next day and lurked for about a year, and now here I am...glad to be here, and glad to be free.