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  Fluff: Ladies, what makes you crazy?

  by serendipity in

  1. social
  2. relationships

  in the last topic i started, i asked "what makes a chick crazy": http://www.jehovahs-witness.com/20/116188/1.ashx.

  one of the posters suggested that women talk about what drives them crazy.

  so ladies, what are the annoying habits of the people closest to you that drives you loco?.

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  snarf

  People that chew their food loudly or talk with food in their mouths, just drives me batty.
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  YOUR LAST MEETING.........................

  by vitty in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  ........................at my last meeting, the elder was talking about 1975 and said "it never happened, it is appostates using a time when (some) brothers took the info in the wt wrong"...................i just blinked and finally woke up.. i had been on this site lurking for a couple of weeks, and realized thing werent right, but to have some creep say on the platform " it didnt happen"............when this ruined my and my siblings childhood, just made me snap.

  on the way home, i told my hubby "that was the last meeting im going to"................boy was he pleased.. .

  so if you didnt get df ......................what happened at your last meeting.?.

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  snarf

  October 2004. A talk was being given about how Jehovah keeps his organization clean. After 2 years of abusive hell from a witness family, I knew I was at a breaking point. I got up in the middle of the talk, gathered my belongings and my daughter, went home and booked a trip for the two of us to Maine for a week and never went back to the kingdom hall. I knew I would have a parade of "friends" calling and stopping by so we went off and had an amazing week of fun as far away as we could get.
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  Meeting your online love

  by Cabin in the woods in

  1. social
  2. relationships

  i was just wondering if you had met someone online and had a significant long term relationship with him... would you be brave enough to meet him?

  obviously not alone at first but how would you check someone out before you met them other than a google search of his name.

  even some place like jwd where there is a significant level of trust .

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  snarf

  I met my fiance online. I did criminal background checks on him, reverse phone number checks, just to get a better idea of where he lived for more in depth background checks, and I also chatted with his family and friends several times. He was in Iraq at the time so it was really easy for me to have time to research him. I met his whole family before I met him, and when it did come time for us to meet, I asked his mom and little sister to go with me. His little sister and I were instant friends , we talked online for 4 months and also hung out about 10 times, so I felt really comfy with them. It really took all the pressure off us, cause with family around nothing but talking is gonna happen and I figured if we didn't hit it off I could hang out with his sister and still have a fun mini vacation. I also made sure my family that lived in that area knew I was going there so I could meet up with them (they live 13 hours away), so I got to see my little sister and nephew as well. Thankfully we hit it off and he was who he said he was. I believe honesty is the key to online dating, as well as research. You can learn alot about a person by asking the right questions, and if you have a brief history of where someone lived you can do background checks for free by using the local court sites. Make sure you do your homework, and never ever meet alone for the first time, at least. Always have a friend or family member with you. If they like you, then they will understand.
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  I need advice regarding child support

  by snarf in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  i know this is a forum about jehovahs witnesses, but with so many intelligent people with varying ideas to solutions on problems, thought i would post my problem here.

  my daughter's father is $35,000 behind on child support.

  i have always tried to be suportive of their relationship and made sure they could see each other on his weekends.

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  snarf

  Thanks for your posts. I have always kept my head when I get upset with her Dad. I grew up in a split family and my parents always threw us in the middle of their fights, so I would never do that to my daughter. I don't think she even knows what child support is...lol.

  Serendipity...WOW ! Makes my problem seem very small. As the saying goes...what doesn't kill us makes us stronger.
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  I need advice regarding child support

  by snarf in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  i know this is a forum about jehovahs witnesses, but with so many intelligent people with varying ideas to solutions on problems, thought i would post my problem here.

  my daughter's father is $35,000 behind on child support.

  i have always tried to be suportive of their relationship and made sure they could see each other on his weekends.

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  snarf

  O.K. I know this is a forum about Jehovahs witnesses, but with so many intelligent people with varying ideas to solutions on problems, thought I would post my problem here. My daughter's father is $35,000 behind on child support. I have always tried to be suportive of their relationship and made sure they could see each other on his weekends. He takes her every other weekend like clockwork, always has. Most of the time I would drive her to the city where he lives about 40 miles away and drop her off, then at the end of the weekend would drive back to the city and pick her up. I have recently stopped due to the gas prices and plus I am always exhausted at the end of my work week. He still comes and gets her on his visitation weekend, but he has made no more attempts to pay support. I am registered with the state child support agency for collection, but the only time I have recieved money is when he was on unemployment and it was garnished or recently when they levied his bank account, which awarded me a whopping $140.00. I have tried a few times to keep her on his weekends but he always puts her in the middle of the fight and tells her that I don't want her to see him anymore, not true. She loves her father very much and I always felt that a relationship for her with her father was more important than a monthly check, but I am starting to get very angry about the fact that he isn't helping to contribute to her material needs. He is working 2 jobs, one as a waiter part time, and another full time job somewhere getting paid cash under the table I assume cause the state has no record of him working anywhere. He has 3 roommates so I know his monthly living expenses aren't too high.

  I was just wondering if anyone out there had any good suggestions to remedy this situation. I really don't need the money, I have always provided for her on my own, and she has everything she needs plus some. But, I just feel he needs to be held accountable for his responsibilities. I have assured him in the past on several occassions that the support would go into a savings for her so she could use it for her first car, college, or living expenses when she turned 18 and moved out on her own ( not like that is any of his business) to motivate him to pay.

  Any suggestions would be appreciated.
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  What Things Were You Shocked To Find Out About, While In The Org.

  by Warlock in

  1. watchtower
  2. bible

  these are just 3 things that i was shocked to learn when i was in the org.

  they may not seem like big things to some, but they are to me.. 1. speakers at the d.a.

  had food catered to them.

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  snarf

  That a woman had to stay in a marriage if she was being abused or if the children were being abused. Oh, of course she could seperate for safety reasons, but to recieve a scriptual divorce he had to be "proven" of adultery.. GIVE ME A BREAK!!!!!!
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  love and fine works

  by saturdaymorningblues in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  i just want to say that i wish we all returned to exercising 'love and fine works'.

  after all, its by us doing so that our work is rewarded with the precious gift of everlasting life.

  nowhere else can we recieve such a gift except from our heavenly creator 'jehovah god'.

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  snarf

  Saturdaymorning blues,

  Who are you to judge our heart conditions? Jehovah is the only one who knows our hearts, so he is the only one who knows who will make into paradise earth, not you. Also, as Dansk pointed out, Jesus did not shun anyone who was deemed "bad" by society. He showed unconditional love, even as he was dying on the cross, he did not turn his back on them as the society does. Just because most of us here have turned our back on the Witness society, does not mean we turned our backs on God.

  Go somewhere else and preach, maybe out in service....it is Saturday you know.
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  Funny (and sometimes annoying) things your pets do.

  by outbutnotdown in

  1. social
  2. humour

  i have two cats.

  brother and sister.

  good cats and i love 'em, but the male cat is really clingy.. it's usually no problem, but every time i answer the phone, the male cat immediately jumps on my lap, demanding attention.. it makes it really challenging when i am at the computer, attempting to search files, etc.

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  snarf

  I have a dachsund and he is the sweetest lil thing. He LOVES to lick feet though, and I hate it. I think he senses this so everytime he walks by he licks my feet. He is a walk by licker...ewwwww!

  My daughter has a cat, and the cat must think she is its mom, so she goes to her dads evry other weekend, so while she is away, the cat constantly meows throughout the house looking for her until she comes home.
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  Do you have trouble with 'Renters' in the block?

  by AK - Jeff in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  i live in a lake area, out of town.

  my neighborhood is mostly single family homes.

  but there are two small rentals in the area close by - a duplex and a tri-plex.

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  snarf

  I am currently dealing with this issue myself. The renters across the street from my house are pitiful!! They have 2 dogs that are kept in outdoor kennels all day and they are basically ignored by the owners unless they are screaming at them to shut up. The dogs bark and whine all hours of the night. Also, they have an old truck that they rev up (it is really loud) and just drive it around the block revving away. They also carry their fights outside and scream awful things to each other.

  Our neighborhood is sick of it, so we have banded together and make nuisance calls to the police whenever there is a loud disturbance. It is working. The police are going to take it to the city council and the district attorneys office to see if the neighborhood can have them evicted for public nuisance. They have pages of calls that the neighborhood has made to the police, so proving this issue is no problem. The landlord seemed uninterested in moving them out, he probably just wants the money, but now since the neighborhood and police are putting pressure on him, there are rumors that he will not renew their lease.

  Maybe you could talk with your neighbors and a police officer in your area and see what you can do. Remember police are people too. They undrstand the fact that working people don't want to be kept up all night by dogs barking, people screaming and engines being run loudly. The city council and district attorneys understand what it does to property values as well. I live in an area that is growing, so they want to attract people to the area, not scare them away.
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  UPDATE! 'Local Needs' Part on Apostates!

  by drew sagan in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  i'm not kidding.

  it has been less than two weeks since i discussed with an elder some of the problems i had about the wts.

  one discussion.

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  snarf

  Wow, that is amazing, all because you asked a few questions. Maybe you should remind them about how Jesus taught. He never answered a direct question. He taught by asking questions to help the people fully understand for themselves. Tell them you were just following Jesus' examples to fully understand the Org...