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  My SIL might be 'fishin'....?

  by AK - Jeff in

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  my wife 'faded' during the same time i da'd myself.

  we are absolutely both on the same page.. it is interesting [and on another level disturbing] that 'status' plays so heavily in the minds of jw's and their relationships.

  as many others have related, my wife sometimes is engaged in conversations with jw's she meets in public, while all those same jw's will totally 'shun' me - sometimes in the same moment.

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  betterdaze

  To the well-known celebutante ex-Jw from Indiana:

  BetterDaze -

  
  
  

  You are very kind aren't you?

  Yes, I am kind. Very.
  
  I would never jeopardize anyone’s fade.
  
  Ever.
  
  Especially not to nurse my own personal grievences.
  
  That is simply how our characters differ.
  
  
  

  THIS IS A DISCUSSION FORUM FOR GOD"S SAKE!

  Correct, Elder RighteousMuch. This IS a discussion forum.
  
  Not the Watchtower study you read the paragraph and all our answers must be regurgitated in perfect agreement.
  
  This is not the Kingdom Hall, I am not some spiritually weak sister, you’ll get no obedient zombie head-nodding from me.
  
  I call it as I see it. You are welcome to disagree.
  
  
  

  How bout this> You mind yours and I will mind mine.

  Some words to the wise:
  
  “If you don't want it seen, or discussed, just leave it at home?”
  
  ~Former unknown ex-Jw from NJ

  What happens in Faderville, stays in Faderville.
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  How about a new happy thread...the best thing that happened to you this month!

  by restrangled in

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  2. friends

  the best thing for me..... my son stopped over and he realized he needs to buy a home....so we quickly did a run on the internet in our neighborhood and he found a jewel.. whether he gets it or not....it was fun for both my husband and myself to go see, help him ask questions and give him the ok.. it's probably just a dream, but reminded us of our younger days.. how was your day?

  something happy please!!!!

  we have enough horrible negatives going on right now..

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  betterdaze

  Started a belly dancing class one month ago and it has fixed my lower back pain!
  
  Three years of agony. I could barely move and the weight started piling on. I'm having a blast and losing inches.
  
  ~Sue
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  My SIL might be 'fishin'....?

  by AK - Jeff in

  1. watchtower
  2. beliefs

  my wife 'faded' during the same time i da'd myself.

  we are absolutely both on the same page.. it is interesting [and on another level disturbing] that 'status' plays so heavily in the minds of jw's and their relationships.

  as many others have related, my wife sometimes is engaged in conversations with jw's she meets in public, while all those same jw's will totally 'shun' me - sometimes in the same moment.

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  betterdaze

  Spike Tassel nailed it.

  Of course the local JWs know what you believe, you have over 9,000 posts logged, quite a few of which share personal identifiers.
  
  Whenever you have a JW interaction, you write about it and use people's real names just to rile them up at your old Kingdom Hall.
  
  And you know very well you've been identified here before — it is so dishonest to pretend otherwise!
  
  
  It is your indiscretion on a public discussion board that may lead to your wife's disfellowshipping. You are the one handing the elders the bait for the hook. Yes, you.
  
  
  If your wife has "elected to lay low," why publicly betray her confidence by posting about this incident? How can she possibly "lay low" and keep the peace with her family after your disloyal tattling?
  
  Now, I want to believe you love your wife, but if you wish to harm her (and her mother and your marriage as well) this is really the way to go about it.
  
  
  It appears you are allowing your personal resentment for SIL and other JWs to cloud your judgement. Please consider how your words here affect your wife and her mother in the real world.
  
  ~Sue
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  Can we blame our ancestors for our own shortcomings?

  by undercover in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  in a recent thread about an nfl player being allowed to return to play after being convicted and serving time for a felony, it was suggested that maybe his ancestory played a part in his attitudes and actions.. those of you were playing along at home know the deal.... is it fair to lay blame on one's ancestors in how one acts in today's society?.

  i think not.... my ancestor's came here from scotland, when their lands were taken from them back home.

  they came here with nothing and had to start over in a land with next to nothing, eeking out an existance in the mountains of tn and nc, always struggling.

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  I'd like to take the opportunity to share that it was a black gentleman who knocked on our door and offered my mother a Free Home Bible Study. She purchased a certain blue book from him.
  
  As she tells it: "Well, I was raised Irish Catholic and I'll die Irish Catholic, but Vatican II says we can read the Bible now, and I've always wanted to know what the priests were keeping from us...
  
  ... But please, send someone else, you're not safe in this [predominantly white] neighborhood, and my husband wouldn't approve of you [any man] coming around while he's gone at work."
  
  So the Kingdom Hall sent a Puerto Rican sister who "passed" for Italian, LOL!
  
  
  Can I blame black men and Latinas for my Jehovah's Witness upbringing?
  
  ~Sue
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  A T T E N T I O N PLEASE

  by purplesofa in

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  i wanted to draw attention as to how a new poster worded the opening to their thread.. .

  with renia now gone i feel more confident to tell my story without being belittled.. .

  http://www.jehovahs-witness.net/jw/friends/179341/1/my-story-my-sins-and-their-consequences.

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  betterdaze

  Have any of you considered that maybe HE is a watchtower hire?

  Don't you think WT would like to see this board in division and chaos?

  Have you never heard of a "plant"?

  Cameo, the same thoughts have occurred to me.

  Imagine if we each had a nickel for every time he/she/it deliberately derailed a topic into oblivion?

  ~Sue
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  Satan- Perfect Scapegoat for Witnesses Ignoring Real Causes of Situations

  by flipper in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  in a recent thread i started on music i couldn't help noticing how many had to throw their alleged " worldly music " out because parents, or elders told them their music brought them " under the influence of demons ", or listening to music was how " the demons got inside us ".

  this superstitious belief that " satan " is to blame for each witnesses demise is really a passing of the buck of responsibility so it sidesteps real issues involved.. for example : check these familiar expressions out we all heard while we were jehovah's witnesses .. .

  1. if a person was stumbled and said, " i don't want to go to meetings anymore.

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  i mean what does a demon get out of morphing with a bowling ball in the closet?

  
  
  LOL @ oompa! So true, when you put in perspective now.
  
  ~Sue
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  SMOKING

  by elder-schmelder in

  1. jw
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  will we be able to smoke in the "new system"?.

  i think that we would because our lungs will be perfect and can cleanse themselfs.. .

  elder-schmelder.

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  betterdaze

  Doe, I stand corrected on the huffing and puffing.
  
  As per usual, you blow smoke out your ass.
  
  ~Sue
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  SMOKING

  by elder-schmelder in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  will we be able to smoke in the "new system"?.

  i think that we would because our lungs will be perfect and can cleanse themselfs.. .

  elder-schmelder.

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  betterdaze

  Now you are trying (and failing) to put words in my mouth that clearly do not exist.
  
  Do you even realize, JD, that this huffing and puffing on a public message board is an embarrassment to your person?
  
  "You, you, you."
  
  Please work out a counterpoint, or something or other, that is not re-directed to insulting my personal habits, which you so foolishly assume to know.
  
  Otherwise, I urge you kindly once again: You and your ill-will and your horse can get out. You are trolling for trouble-making on a topic that obviously does not concern you.
  
  ~Sue
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  SMOKING

  by elder-schmelder in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  will we be able to smoke in the "new system"?.

  i think that we would because our lungs will be perfect and can cleanse themselfs.. .

  elder-schmelder.

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  betterdaze

  Thank you very much for the recommendation, brinjen!

  ~Sue
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  SMOKING

  by elder-schmelder in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  will we be able to smoke in the "new system"?.

  i think that we would because our lungs will be perfect and can cleanse themselfs.. .

  elder-schmelder.

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  betterdaze

  JD, Where you are wrong: You make claims that show a due lack of understanding regarding the facts about nicotine addiction.
  
  For one thing, it's not a responsibility issue so much as it's physical addiction issue.
  
  Your "little sympathy" follows by natural course: Your opinion as a non-addict and you're entitled to it.
  
  However, even giving wiggle-room to your personal attitude on the matter — and I must admit I hate smoking, too — it does not excuse your non-sense statements coated in arrogance.
  
  ~Sue
  
  P.S.: I'm no mind-reader, but... Have you lost someone close to you, that makes this subject such a personal battle? I totally "get" that.