I was first introduced to the "truth" when I was 6 years old and my mom became absolutley captivated by all the "wonderful" things she was "learning." Things quickly changed within in weeks, I was no longer allowed to associate with my "worldy friends" and of course came the torture of sitting through those tedious meetings that literally epitomized monotony. To have everything that you valued at 6 years old such as friends, holidays, birthdays, and organized sports suddenly ripped away from you was what I like to call real shock and "awe." Like any other 6 year old I quickly rebelled, I would never sit still at the meetings and basically I became the menace at the Kingdom Hall that had to be controlled. Since my Mom couldn't control me the elders decided that they need to exercise their "theorcratic authority" and began to tell me that "if I didn't start obeying my mom and causing a disruption at meetings I would die at Armeggedon," which they always loved to constantly remind me "was around the corner." (LMAO yeah this was back in 1991)
For a 6 year old child I was bright enough to know that I didn't have the resources, the will power, and the strategy to stand up to these "powerful tyrants." To ensure my own survival I began to purposefully live a lie. I went to meetings, I commented all the time, "Loved" field service, loved talking to people, hated everything worldy, Oh I was the perfect role model of what a JW child should be. Perhaps, that is why I am such a good actor today and can deceive anybody I choose at will and not get caught. Of course, I had my own little group of friends in the congregation I would associate with and don't get me wrong I have lot of fond memories. I remember all the parties we would have at each others houses when we were teenagers...but there was always something missing at those parties that we all harangued about for hours on end GIRLS...
"Sigh" I remember all the dates I passed up when I was in High School because it was not "right for a christian to become unevenly yoked with an unbeliever." However, some have asked well why not pursue the girls in the hall? LMAO right...thats what I tried to do...but could I even get close to a girl in the hall without the "Loving" elders always keeping a tight rein upon the associations between the opposite sexes. OF COURSE NOT!!! Infact I had this one elder tell me " the advantages of being single in Jehovah's service" afterall he was single and loving it... " Jehovah was all he needed..." or maybe it was more like " I am gay and I don't like women but I can't tell." Speaking of that there were a couple of people in my hall who I seriously think were Gay. "
When I was 17 it was very evident that me or my friends were happy and we couldn't figure out why. Of course I pointed out to them as to what their source of unhappiness was and that was the smothering forces of the congregation that wouldn't allow them to GROW and BE MEN...Infact my ex-bestfriend is still living at home with his parents...and not even working...he just free loads off of them. Some of my friends agreeded with me but their responses were ones " what can we do...we don't want to fall away from Jehovah eternal life in the paradise is more important..." I almost flipped out at their attitudes of defeatism and resignation...
So when I turned 18...I just stopped going to meetings, Hung out with my friends at school, and dated a "worldy girl.." who became my first gf...
My mom could never figure out why I was angry growing up and sometimes depressed...
hmmmmmmmmm..........mom...Maybe its because I WAS FORCED TO GROW UP AS A JW