Kerj,
You will be able to move forward, I know it. Its really too bad, but there are good woman out there (I am sure you know this). You are also a great dad, you took on that responsibility and you will be rewarded.
Nikki
Nowman
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Well its over....
by kerj2leev inafter 13years of marriage, today it finally came to an end!.
it felt very strange as i entered into the court room, my attorney on the right and hers on the left.
we were the first group of 15 or 16 case to be heard today.
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DID ANYONE ELSE GET PASSED OVER W/THE KN TRACT?
by juni ini live in a small, rural town pop.
2000. my daughter and i did not get any visit or tract.. i thought this was supposed to be a final warning - a life saving work.. not complaining, but just curious if you didn't get one.. juni .
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The JWs came to my door for the 1st time, since I ve lived there for 4 years. I thought it was interesting because she did not tell me that she was a JW, just explained that they were handing out tracts for a special campaign, I said thank you and closed the door. Then I through the tract away, it gave me the willies.
Nikki
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JW restrictions on sex, lead to over hype that made sex disappointing.
by free2beme ini remember being a teenager and my hormones were on overdrive.
the young witnesses i knew, male and female, were all feeling the same thing.
we would bring up sex, in one form or another, all the time.
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I have to start out by responding to the 1st person that started this thread. I too grew up as a JW and was fascinated with sex, I was full of hormones as a teenager, and I facinated about sex all the fricken time. Yet, I never acted on it because I was too afraid. Eventually, I was taken out of public school because I was so boy crazy. My parents never taught me anything about sex, it was very hush hush. Most of my friends were getting married at 18, and how I evied them because they were going to get to have sex, how funny the mind of teenager works (especially a JW mind)!
When I left home at 18, (I was later DFd for fornication but not until 3-4 months later), I had a boyfriend. He was very patient. I felt I loved him but I was so afraid of having sex. Anyway, our 1st time was on New Years Eve. It hurt like hell! But, I knew it was going to get better and boy did it ever. He couldn't keep up with me! (Im not bragging, just seeing the memories).
Anyway, through time and experience and gaining confidence, my sex life had been great up until the point that I felt an eventual non-attraction to my 1st husband. I lost all interest in sex with him, it was terrible. We eventually divorced, we have good relationship now, but I felt it was horrible to stay with someone I was not attracted to anymore, I did not want to have sex with him. Poor guy. I later realized, I was not ready for marriage and "till death do us part", a lifelong commited relationship.
Even though I got married later than JW standards (I never married in the troof), I still was not ready. Three years ago, I married a 2nd time. We have been together for 7 years though, my biggest fear for the longest time was that I was going to get "bored" again, so far it hasn't happened. I think sex is a very important part of a relationship. With my 1st marriage, we did not have sex because I was not attracted to my husband anymore (and by the way, there was no one else). I have found this to be the case with alot of woman, their husbands complain that the wife doesn't want to have sex, and I know the real reason, the wife has lost attraction!
Maybe one of the reasons I was so wishy washy was because of my upbringing, or maybe I am genetically made up this way, who knows. All I know is that getting married later in life, getting many things out of my system, has helped me to be more experienced in bed, and has helped me have a stronger relationship that I WANT to work hard at.
I was probably all over the place, sorry***
Nikki
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Just got back from Walt Disney World...
by rwagoner inwe just got back from our first trip ever to walt disney world.. wife, son 8yo, daughter 2yo and i took the amtrak train from boston to orlando and spent 6 days at disney.. wonderful time of year to go...warm temps, very light crowds, epcot food & wine festival and we attended a special halloween party at night at the park and the kids trick or treated at disney !!.
here is a link to our pictures - you have to register to view them but its free.. http://www2.snapfish.com/thumbnailshare/albumid=140023088/a=77324514/t_=77324514.
anyone else make the trip to see the mouse ?
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I took my 9 and 7 year there this past spring break. We stayed for 9 nine days. It was the best family trip we ever had. I loved Animal Kingdom, the new Mount Everest roller coaster was awesome! Of course, our second favorites were Blizzard Beach, Typhoon Lagoon. Oh hec, we loved it all!
Nikki
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Who is DF/DA or Fader???
by mama1119 ini was just wondering, how many dfed to we have on here compared to da or faders??
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Left cold turkey in October 1992 at 18. My dad kept calling me to ask if I had commited fornication yet, after 3-4 months, I eventually did, and when dad called me, and he asked me, I told him yes. I was announced at the next Tues. night meeting that Nicole so and so has been DISFELLOWSHIPPED.
In the beginning though, I left because I could not take my parents anymore and what went on behind closed doors. Later I realized (after research) that I had grown up in a "cult" and felt a weight lifted off my shoulders that I had made the right decision. My dad is still a JW and I have not seen him since 1992. My mom was also disfellowshipped in 2000, which is the year we reunited after 8 years.
Nikki
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Give yourself a JW nickname
by JH inat the meetings, i didn't make many comments so i'll call myself:.
brother mute.
give yourself a jw nickname.
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Sister double life
Nikki
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Hello/Goodbye (I Don't Know Why I Say Hello/I Say Goodbye) - What Gives?
by BizzyBee inseveral posters (whom i will not name because it doesn't matter) have basically said good-bye lately.
we all responded as usual, with genuine sentiments - how much we will miss them, etc.
but, quite frankly there is something almost disparaging or critical implied toward the rest of us who choose to remain on the board by those who "move on.
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I kind have wondered too why people say "goodbye" too. This was very addicting for me at 1st, I couldn't wait to log on. Then it calmed down a bit, I did not get bored, just needed a break some times.
Nikki
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1992 murder conviction is upheld - William Carlson
by Dogpatch inremember this guy?.
1992 murder conviction is upheld.
by barbara bell.
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I had looked at this over the summer, I googled Ilinois Departement of Corrections and found "inmate search", Willie was there! I saw so much of Paul and Sandy in him. I recall that he was not even up for a parole meeting until 2039 (it could have been 2069 too!), but it gives you all that information. But, more recently I had heard they were moving the "real bad" out of the Joliet prison, so what this means, I do not know.
Nikki
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1992 murder conviction is upheld - William Carlson
by Dogpatch inremember this guy?.
1992 murder conviction is upheld.
by barbara bell.
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Check_your_premises,
Its no problem. I understand what you are saying. Its exactly how I said it though, we thought Willie was a good little JW boy, we all knew his parents were extrememly strict, but when his parents came up to be murdered, we all suspected Wille, don't really know why. It was a gut feeling, that turned out to be correct, thats really all I can say about it. He was a loner, but so were other quiet JWs.
As for the person who posted about the door being wide open, I don't know what to tell you. I know my father went through that basement window on a Sunday evening, maybe that person went past the house on another day, who knows. But, those who were involved in the case know my father was there and he had to testify.
It was a creepy, freaky time period, again one I will never forget.
Nikki
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1992 murder conviction is upheld - William Carlson
by Dogpatch inremember this guy?.
1992 murder conviction is upheld.
by barbara bell.
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For me, I did not know Willie had some serious issues. I went to Highschool with him, he would tell his parents about me at school. Therefore, I was in huge trouble alot with my parents. My opinion of Willie was that he was a good JW boy. He used to sit between his parents at the hall. Because I was an only child also, my parents had me sit between them later on when I was getting into trouble.
My point is, I do not think people knew Willie had issues. Yet, when Paul did not show up for the bookstudy at our house (he was out conductor), there was a feeling right away that Willie had done something. Then when Paul did not show up for an out of town talk on the next Sunday, we all knew something was seriously wrong, and we all knew Willie had done something, and we were just hoping we were wrong. My parents called the police. They sent me to a friends house. The cop was too big to fit through the basement window of their house, so they sent my dad in. At that point, Willie was no where to be found. But, my parents knew (me too) this involved Willie. Then you know the story.
My mom told me a couple of years ago, that in the late 80s we had a get together at our house. The Carlsons were there, Sandy and my mom were talking. Sandy says to my mom "Willie will never forgive me for what I did to him", and my mom says "what do you mean, "what you did to him"? They were both interrupted, and they never talked about it again. I will never forget that. People slept over at our house for weeks, it really affected the Libertyville hall.
At the funeral, I had someone come up to me and say, "Now, Nikki don't you go and do something like that". I was so hurt. It turns out this woman who said this to me wound up murdering her 34 year daughter this past April (she was handicapped). Still a JW, she just snapped. I think Willie just snapped, he obviously was sick. Who knows what really happened in his childhood. I was one of those kids with strict JW parents, but I just left at 18, I did not want to kill them.
Nikki