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  Say What's On Your Mind

  by minimus in

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  go ahead.....speak your mind!

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  Nowman

  Its a beautiful day in Illinois today, 19 degrees right now, clear sky and sunny. Then there is me who is 8-1/2 months prego, I have 4 more weeks to go if I make it to my due date. Its my 3rd child, but its been 7 years since I had one. Its suppose to be a girl, her name will be Delanie Parker, cute, huh?

  I feel that my belly sticks way out there, it kind of gets in the way of things, but then you feel the little human being inside of you, and realize how awesome the whole process is. I am still working up to this point, I sell special nuts, bolts, and screws, Ha! Its a tough job, very technical, but I have been here 9 years (since I was 23), so I must like it.

  I know my baby shower is this weekend and I am not suppose to know. Yet, I have this little Italian, devious, Gramma, who says to me after I am about to hang up the phone with her, "Now, don't you go making plans for the 21st". She was so proud of herself. You just can't be mad at her though, shes my favorite.

  Nikki
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  AHHHHH! I'm PREGNANT!!!

  by Jez in

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  just thought i would pop in here to tell you all that i am 3 months pregnant!

  it was quite a shock.

  my husband and i have been married for 5 years.

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  Congratulations! Thats awesome!

  I am personally due in 5 weeks, so excited. I too have two children from a previous marriage, Haley who is going to be 10 in April and Dylan who is going to be 8 in March. This is my current husbands 1st also, and he is just so very cute about the whole thing. I am 32 and he is 35, we always said we would have a least one together. One of my best friends is 37 and she just had a baby girl, they watched her more closely because she was over 35 but all went well and she has a beautiful baby girl named Ava.

  Again, congrats to you and your husband.

  Nikki
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  Am I done having children?

  by whyamihere in

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  i have a question to the parents on the board:.

  how did you know your last child was your last?

  did your family feel complete?.

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  Nowman

  I was an only child and always wanted brothers and sisters. Currently, I have a 9 and 7 year old from my 1st marriage. I am currently pregnant, due in 5 weeks, yikes! It is my 2nd husbands 1st child, we are very excited. This is the 1st time I felt good during my pregoness. I was so sick with my 1st two. I thought to myself, maybe I will have more, I am 32...Then I sometimes watch these TLC specials with couples with 6-12 children, and think to myself....no way. I will never say never...I think I am done...but you never know. I was asked if I wanted my tubes ties after the birth of this child, I said no. I figured I would wait and see how it goes with having a baby in the house again, and I will remind myself that they grow up too. They get more expensive too. So, as of last night, we are not having more. But, in 5 weeks, when we have our little girl (if the doc was right), we could change our minds.

  My point is....ITS OK TO CHANGE YOUR MIND.

  Nikki
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  I think I'm screwing myself

  by nonamegiven in

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  get your mind out of the gutter, not screwing myself that way haha.. for those that don't know, i'm df'd, trying to get reinstated so i can get family/friends back in my life than fade away faster than the only good radio station you can tune in on a long road trip.

  basically, i can't keep my mouth shut.

  my mom and i were talking the other day.

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  nonamegiven,

  It seems you have alot more to lose (friends/family wise) then I did at the time I left 14 years ago. My parents were the only ones in the org at the time, sure I had very close friendships with many people, but I also had many "worldly" people I knew too. For you, it would be very difficult, you are married, you have family in that cult. Maybe you opening up your mouth to family may not be such a good thing, but its not such a bad thing either. You are damned if you, damned if you don't. My advice would be NOT go back and then fade, it will just turn out the way it is now in my opinion. The way I see it, this is your life right now, we do not know what will happen in our future after death, so why waste so much time? Sure, its dificult, but over time, it gets much better. Also, read your post again, doesn't it seem strange, silly, that you have to go through all that so that family and friends can associate with you? Just because of this religion? This point really gets to me. I read posts of current things going on in the org these days, its so very strange and abnormal. These people are tormenting themselves, I wish they would get a life (I am speaking of those still in the org). But they do not know any better. The latter statement is how I came to forgive my parents for not seeing or speaking to me. Mom, 8 years. Dad, still have not seen him or talked with him in 14 years. Its too bad for him, but not for me. Like I said, it was very hard at first, but overtime, you go on with your life with freedom from the cult, and learn to deal.

  Nikki
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  worldly friends as a young jw..

  by candidlynuts in

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  i was reading this thread here http://www.jehovahs-witness.com/10/126156/1.ashx .

  regarding child custody "coaching" etc..... and in it is a discussion about kids having "normal" friendships with worldly kids... many of us grew up jw and i was wondering what your personal experience was regarding having worldly friends.. .

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  Nowman

  Before 1985, I was allowed to hang out with kids at school, I lived in the city of Chicago at the time. But, in 1985, we moved north to a new congregation. I started going to a new school of course and I was allowed to hang out with kids from school. But, all of a sudden, I was told that I was not allowed to hang out with them anytime out of school. I was devastated, I had close friends. One of my best friends from school actually started to study with me so that we could be together, that was the only time my parents agreed. As I got into my teen years/highschool, it got harder, I lived for going to school to have freedom away from my parents.

  It was so strange looking back, I have a 7 and a 9 year old, I love the fact that they get very involved in school and hang out with their friends. Its so special for me because I did not get to do that.

  Nikki
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  In Your Opinion, What's The Best Vehicle To Drive?

  by minimus in

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  what is rated the best??

  what do you like?

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  I personally love my Nissan Pathfinder (2005), in the spring of 2007, my husband will get a Nissan Maxima (he has a Acura RSX, sporty) but we have a baby on the way in Feb, so he will need a 4-door (mind you, it was his idea to do this).

  Big fan of Nissan these days!

  Nikki
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  What Did YOU Do At A Typical Witness "Get-Together"?

  by minimus in

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  did you sing kingdumb songs, take turns reading the bible, play bible games or did you have "fun"

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  We had alot of get togethers when I was growing up, at our house alot. We had a ping pong table in our garage, (in the winter, we would heat it) we would all crowd in there. In the summer, I would have volley ball parties too. Bon fire parties, etc. Really, there was no drinking, I really enjoyed myself most of the time because there was always some boy I liked.

  Later on though, my parents would not let me go to alot of things after I turned 16, then 2 years later, I left home and the org...

  Nikki
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  Favorite Christmas Music

  by jayhawk1 in

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  what is your favorite christmas music?

  do you go for the classic stuff?

  dr demento stuff perhaps?

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  I love Harry Connick Jr.'s xmas music, big band style. It doesn't hurt either that he himself is pretty sexy.

  Nikki
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  For those baptized as a JW/minor, how did you feel on your baptism day?

  by Gopher in

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  i was petrified that day.

  i felt nervous and slightly sick that morning, so i couldn't even eat breakfast.. leading up to that baptism day ( i was only 16 ), i didn't want to tell anyone about it.

  maybe because i came from a cold-hearted congregation where the other kids my age didn't like me (i was too serious), i didn't want anyone else to know.. i felt relief after the dunking was finally over.

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  I was 15, and I was very excited and nervous. I got baptized at Sportsman Park, in Chicago. When I climbed the steps to the swimming pool, I saw my stepfather, he was surprising me, he was going to baptize me. It actually wan an emotional moment. My parents were so proud of their only child. I have not seen him in 14 years, he is still a JW, so he disowned me. Too bad for him.

  Nikki
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  Name only One - one only - the best only!!!!

  by AK - Jeff in

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  your absolute favorite song of all time.

  no lists.

  just your absolute favorite and artist.. mine:.

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  Sharin the night together by Dr. Hook, reminds of when I was a kid in the early 80s, I had it played at my wedding and I sang the whoe song to my husband on 8/23/03.

  Nikki