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  State A Simple Opinion About Jehovah's Witnesses

  by minimus in

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  i think jehovah's witnesses are extremely judgmental.

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  Nowman

  self righteous

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  Does anyone Jog?

  by Hope4Others in

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  springs about here and i've seen a few out already, some say it is quite a rush and once you start you.

  can't quit.

  i've been thinking of starting this year and wonder if there are any pointers i should know since it will be much.

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  I started jogging in 2005 for 5 months straight. In the beginning, it was tough, I had to jog, walk, jog, walk etc. Then I eventually built up my endurance...then I get pregnant, stopped jogging. Regardless, this year (1/1/08), I started doing a cardio dance DVD (all kinds available), to start small, then I gradually have added more, until the weather broke (although I do not mind running when its cold, but I know I needed to build some endurance 1st).

  My point is, jogging was a great work out, I would feel it all over, it made me feel stronger. Its finally stating to warn here in north Illinois, I hope to be able to jog tonight for the 1st time!

  Nikki
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  Looking Back, Were You A Bit Oversensitive As A Witness?

  by minimus in

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  most jws that i know of are oversensitive to just about everything!

  they are super sensitive when it comes to ever being wrong.

  they have a fit if they are aren't called on by the watchtower overseer or is it still conductor?.

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  Stop being so sentative R.Crusoe, grow some thicker skin, you big baby *****

  Signed,

  Offended
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  Looking Back, Were You A Bit Oversensitive As A Witness?

  by minimus in

  1. jw
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  most jws that i know of are oversensitive to just about everything!

  they are super sensitive when it comes to ever being wrong.

  they have a fit if they are aren't called on by the watchtower overseer or is it still conductor?.

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  I was oversensative when I 1st left in 1992, I was 18 feeling scared, worried, excited, and wanting acceptance (there were probably a few other emotions in there too). Because all my close JW friends could no longer talk to me once I was DFd (inclucing mom and dad), I felt the need for acceptance, so therefore I was a people pleaser. Not that I do not like pleasing people, I enjoy doing things for others because it makes me feel good, but I used to worry so much about how people thought of me. When people joked around, I did not always get it...hence lack of experience. Or someone talked to me with a certain tone, and I would worry about it way too much. Deep down, I know why I felt the way I did.

  I was raised in the industrial business, and to this day, I am still in the industrial business (special print fasteners, research, buying, and selling). Having been oversentative due to the JW thing and also combined with me being young, I just needed to toughen up a bit. So, fast forward to me being 34 now, I am much stronger, my joke telling is outstanding (HA), learned to pick my friends more wisely, I have thicker skin, and the list goes on. It just takes time, I find that I do not have to fight all the battles so to speak, its that "dirt off your shoulders" type of thing that I had to practice, "practice makes perfect". Being in the industrial business, with my line of work, you just can't be sentative, you need to be strong and fair.

  So, I am happy that the experience of being a former JW helped me with my future/career, my thick skin, and as I matured along, it got easier and easier to be "non-sensative" in a balanced way. I am still learning and always will be, part of continuous life experience.

  Nikki
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  What Was The Silliest "Offense" That You Were Counseled For?

  by minimus in

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  when i was a teenager, i was told by an elder that because i smiled a lot and was known for my good sense of humor, that i should come across as "more serious".

  so before i was appointed a ms, while in my late teens, i transformed myself into a much more "serious" brother.. were you ever told that you needed to work on something that you knew was stoopid?.

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  I was conseled by my mom the pioneer (at the time) and dad the elder about how I should not want to ride the roller coaster at Great America in Gurnee, Illinois named "The Demon". Yes, I tell you, dad's BFF (another elder) suggested it to him, and my dad thought it was such a great idea. So, I did not ride "The Demon" for a number of years until I left, but when I did ride it again, I rode it again and again (if the lines allowed).

  This roller coaster is special to my heart, because it a reminder that I am free, I know, I know, cheesy but someone can relate.

  I also got counseled for dancing all the time! I was just a bubbly kid who liked to dance and sing. In fact, I was so spiritual one year (Ha) that I only listened to the oldies (50s/60s), movies too. My parents were so proud .

  Nikki
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  Off Topic Question: Has Anyone haggled with Jiffy Lube over a new engine?

  by feenx in

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  yes that's right....lovely jiffy lube effed up my engine and it is toast.

  i'm waiting to hear back from the district manager, whom i'm sure i will have to call myself.

  i am anticipating them to fight it, even though a garage has put the blame completely on them.

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  Years ago when I was a witness teenager, my mom's always got her oil change from Jiffy. Well, she had a brand new compact car, and got the oil changed at Jiffy (reular pioneer) and from that point on, there was an oil leak (she did not notice) but eventually her transmission went out. She sued Jiffy, and won, got a new car, some money etc.

  Hope you find this hopeful.

  Nikki
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  What Was Your Standing In The Congregation?

  by minimus in

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  were you "loved"?

  well respected?

  considered a "loser"?.

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  I was a good little JW girl on the outside, I was an elders and pioneer's daughter. I was a regular pioneer. I wanted to marry a strong brother, get married at 18, work part time, etc. This is what I wanted when I was in the mood to be a good JW girl.

  I was a typical young JW living a double life. The only time I got in trouble with the elders was when I left when I was 18, and I never chose to talk to them. I did not feel there was any point in meeting with them because I wasn't going to repent. Wanted out of the JWs and really needed to leave my parents.

  Nikki
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  I need some advice...my first post!

  by Dehliah in

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  i've been around for awhile, but never registered for fear of giving my personal information (yes, that's how much the borg scares me.

  i was raised in the org, and left when i was 18. i realized that every religion firmly believed that they were correct, and that forced me to re-evaluate the religion on its merits, as opposed to my insistent belief.

  needless to say, i saw the man behind the curtain.

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  I left home when I was 18 too. I did not see my mom from 92-2000, my dad I have not seen since 92. It was tough, but I chose to never go back. I think it's terrible that many of us have struggled so much because of leaving the JWs, that in itself is just ugly.

  My parents were major JW. I was not. Eventually, through life experience that includes trying to enjoy life and make improvements as you learn, things will work out and the JW thing will be further and further away. Luckily for me, we were the only 3 JWs in my familiy (A Great Aunt was), all the rest were not and I had their support and low and behold "worldly people".

  Hang in there and take care.

  Nikki
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  Time to simplify

  by RollerDave in

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  funny how life can be.. you chase your dreams, mean well, do your best to live large, and twist life bu the nipples; but there's only so many hours in a day, only so many days in a week, and only 365.25 days in a year.. i realize i'm swamped.

  i find myself rolling around like a big fat chicken on wheels that has been separated from his head quite suddenly.. i think i have become the victim of my own success.. the more you have, the more maintenance and upkeep you have to procrastinate.. i'm only a man, i can only avoid so much work!.

  barely got the boat winterized before the cold, evil fingers of minnesnowta's dominant season could work their frigid havoc, boy, i am starting to wonder if i am really 'boat people.

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  RollerDave,

  Your email really got me thinking. If you (in general not you RD) as a person will do all ones self (I'll even give you some help from the family) and then add to it because its exciting because you may be down and out about the "weight on your shoulders" all around you, then eventually they will have a heart attack so to speak. I admire the fact that you wrote reality. I think simple is better, but it can be boring too. Yet, how about balance, this is the hardest for me.

  I would say you are well on your way to improving your life, take it one day at a time, as you know it will take time, be patient, and make room for whats important to you now. Just because you acuired all of that over the yeas whether it be impulse, or just a good deal, who knows...but that was memorable in your life and you did get enjoyment at one point, don't be too hard on yourself.

  Nikki
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  For the ladies. Do you think that when you.....

  by NotaNess in

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  dress to impress, get all slathered up and have your little or lots of flesh showing, depending on your blouse, skirt, pants or shorts....that people(men) are not supposed to stare at you?.

  seriously, if your at home in your closet deciding which outfit you're gonna wear to work, school or out to play, and thinking how you'll look more attractive in this or that....do you not know that guys are gonna stare at you?

  but you see these females on occasion that will get all in an uproar when some guy is staring at them....but hello...didn't you choose with pin-point accuracy, the exact top that's gonna reveal your cleavage at it's fullest?????

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  I like getting dressed up, and when I dress down, its almost like getting dressed up because its something different. I love fashion, and I like to feel good about myself. I think woman know when they look real good on those particlular days (if all of them, but lets be human, we woman have days where we just do not feel as good as other days) and enjoy the respectable stares they may notice, or maybe they can feel it. Basically, I admit that its great to feel confident and get some attention. I need it, not horribly bad, but I need it. I ask my husband once in while if he still thinks I am thin, only on days where there is insecurity in the air. Its not a quality I have, but sometimes you need some re-assurance.

  Thats how I look at it.

  Nikki