Posts by Nowman

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What Was It Like To Grow Up A Jehovahs Witness?

by The wanderer in

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what was it like to grow up a jehovahs witness?it is fair to say, that as a convert from roman catholicism my understanding .

of what it was like to be raised a jehovahs witness is limited because of not.

having had any family in the organization.

Nowman

I felt that my life was normal up until a certain point. It was normal to have a very difficult time at school, it was normal to feel humiliated, it was normal for my parents to beat me until I was 16 years of age, it was normal for me to walk around on pins and needles, it was normal that I would have goals of regular pioneering, it was normal to date and marry someone at 18, it was normal for young person to not truly understand what religion they were apart of, it was normal for me to sit between my parents at the KH watching me constantly, it was normal for me to get in trouble if my parents felt that I did not study hard enough and I wasn't prepared enough in their minds, it was normal for my parents make everyone around me feel uncomfortable because they were so strict (people were afraid of my dad), normal, normal, normal.

I really thought that I was suppose to have this kind of childhood, I really did not know any better. Yet, when I got to highschool, and things were happending at home that were not right, the "worldly" people told me that my life was not right. But, it was normal to think that they were the ignorant ones, not me. The last straw was when I was 16 and had taken clothes that they bought me and changed into them at school, they did not allow me to wear some clothes purchased by them, they found out some how, I got home, I got beat, and then afterwards, my mom cut 8 inches of my hair. I knew something was wrong, why did my parents go insane for changing clothes at school that they bought me? I guess because I went behind their back, this I realize. I felt my parents "snapped" with me all the time. Anyway, too depressing.

Anyway, left at 18 on a Monday night, after I had been out in service all day with my mom, I was a regular pioneer, and never went home.

A JW childhood can make or break you depending how much you can handle as a person, I tend to be a very positive person, and because of this, it helped me get through it, especially the aftermath and how it effects you after you leave! Its been 15 years (almost)! Ya Hoo eeee.

Nikki

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ANOTHER SHOOTER NOW - IN CALIFORNIA

by sammielee24 in

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as i'm sitting here working on my computer a news story flashed across the screen.

there is a guy holed up in yuba city, california somewhere that has called in a threat to make the va tech massacre look like a holiday!

the schools are either in lock down or going into lock down now as they try to find where the guy is - they did show a picture of him and apparently he is equipped with an ak47 and some other miscellaneous things like bombs.

Nowman

There was a lockdown at my kids school (elementary) and today for the entire district in Northern Illinois. The highschool by me reported some kid had written something on a wall about how the same things was going to be done here but even worse than in Virginia (I do not remember exact words), the highschool was actually closed today, all the other district schools were on lock down.

Nikki

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Alec Baldwin goes off on daughter over the phone

by MsMcDucket in

i guess he and kim basinger are having a custody battle.

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http://www.tmz.com/2007/04/19/alec-baldwins-threatening-message-to-daughter/.

Nowman

Sorry, I feel Alec regrets what he said to his daughter on the phone, we do not know the entire situation, we really do not know what has set him off. He made a mistake, yes he has anger problems, issues period, but so does Kim. This just comes with the territory. Really, that little girl is really going to have issues because of both her parents! I am just saying we do not know the situation that made him call his daughter and leave that message. Was she playing both her parents? Who knows.

Nikki

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Love And Marriage Was The Watchtowers Way An Advantage?

by The wanderer in

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love and marriage was the watchtowers way an advantage?the thought of one man and woman bonded through matrimony was always appealing.

the society used to stress chaperons, however, i think in todays day and age.

however, did the societys way prove helpful in certain respects?.

Nowman

Here is my opinion. I also believe in love and marriage, but it helps to be truly in love with someone. Because of the society's rules about dating (only if your intentions are to marry), I found too many young people in the org got married too young. 18-19 years old, this is too young. Even myself at 18, I wanted to marry so bad just so I could have sex.

Marriage is what two people make of it. My parents were strong JWs, and it ruined their marriage, in addtion to the two people involved. For me, my 1st marriage failed, which I feel I was too young to get married (I was not even a JW at that time), I really got married because I was prego with my 2nd kid! Just seemed like the right thing to do. Now that I am older, my kids are older, and I married again at 29, mentally I was ready to commit myself in my marriage, you know?

No, I do not believe in the JW process of marriage.

nikki

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One night stands

by Crumpet in

how do you stand on one night stands?

and why?

i was really against them and said i never would again.

Nowman

I slept with my husband on the 1st date!

Nikki

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1995 The Year That Saw A Turning Point

by The wanderer in

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1995 the year that saw a turning pointduring the 1980s, the thought that this generation will not pass until all .

of these events occur was the watchtowers theme.

the countdown .

Nowman

I never even heard of the 1995 thing until I came to this board, but theres a reason why. I left in 92. My parents were still very strong in 1995. Anyway, after my mom was DF'd, and I came to this forum in early 2006, I asked her about it. I asked her, "what did dad and you think", her answer was nothing, she said she would never question my dad or the organization, I am so curious to know what my dad was thinking but have not spoke or seen him since 92.

Nikki

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IT IS TIME FOR A___CONFESSION!

by Terry in

there is an old-fashioned definition of the word "confession" which is the public expression of one's deepest faith and belief.. take a deep breath and give a one or two paragraph summary of your deepest belief.. i'll go first.. from the time i was a small child i had a deep and abiding reverence for god as a father.

(my own father i never even met until i searched and found him when i was 25 years old.

) my grandmother had been raised in a catholic convent.

Nowman

Brigid,

Yes I feel poetic today too. Because of this thread, I actually took the time out to send my husband an email expressing how much I apprecaite it him because he is the stepdad to my 2 older kids, and we just had a baby together on 2/5/07, and he is just so willing to share the responsibilty, 50% 50% without me asking.

Nikki

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IT IS TIME FOR A___CONFESSION!

by Terry in

there is an old-fashioned definition of the word "confession" which is the public expression of one's deepest faith and belief.. take a deep breath and give a one or two paragraph summary of your deepest belief.. i'll go first.. from the time i was a small child i had a deep and abiding reverence for god as a father.

(my own father i never even met until i searched and found him when i was 25 years old.

) my grandmother had been raised in a catholic convent.

Nowman

Brigid,

Beautiful post.

Nikki

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IT IS TIME FOR A___CONFESSION!

by Terry in

there is an old-fashioned definition of the word "confession" which is the public expression of one's deepest faith and belief.. take a deep breath and give a one or two paragraph summary of your deepest belief.. i'll go first.. from the time i was a small child i had a deep and abiding reverence for god as a father.

(my own father i never even met until i searched and found him when i was 25 years old.

) my grandmother had been raised in a catholic convent.

Nowman

Terry,

I have just read your post today from 4/17. It really made me think and therefore I will make a confession. I really do not know for sure if I should believe in God or Jesus or not. I am an agnostic. I have always felt this way since I can remember, even while I played the JW part. I just never admitted it to myself nor did I tell anyone else up until I left when I was 18. Since then I have not put much thought in God or Jesus. Yet, since I have been participating in this forum, I find myself thinking about it more often. Not in a bad way, just wondering. I just do not feel I need confirmation right now, I figure "lets see what happens". Maybe some people cannot accept this, which I understand, but for me, its OK. I have a very fulfilling life, and I feel good inside, that a great thing.

This is just me. Perhaps I worry about other things that are a bigger deal for me, then they would be for you. To be honest, I really do not take God or Jesus too seriously. Is that bad? Maybe, maybe not. I really do not know for sure. I do not feel God or Jesus in my heart at all. When I look at my life, I feel fullfilled, happy, I have a great husband (he cute too :), my kids are adorable and I love them to pieces, I have a great job, I work hard, I live my life...Am I suppose to feel God or Jesus and this is the reason while I feel happy? No, I do not pray, I do not feel God or Jesus in me at all. So, how come I am happy without God or Jesus in my heart? I do not know and its OK.

Terry, I apprecaited what you wrote very much.

Nikki

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Has anyone been in one of the dramas while a JW?

by Nowman in

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it probably was one of my few happy moments of being a jw.

my mom, dad, and i were asked to be in the modern day drama, think it was in 1988-1990 (not sure exactly).

i played a worldly girl named "dolly winters" who was considered a bold and brazon girl who eventually studied to become one of jws because of a good example jw that she went to school with.

Nowman

Effer...

Sound like you were in the same drama I was in, did you play "Dolly Winters" and you were tempting a JW boy at school named "Randy" and one of your lines was "huh, is she your girl"? I think you were in the same one as me which I did mention this in my 1st post to start the subject, please let me know, what a small world...

Nikki