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  Knocking on the Doors of Classmates out in service

  by new light in

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  could anything have been more embarrassing?

  you could be at the door of the least popular munger in school, but overwhelmed with envy because, hey, at least he was doing something normal.

  in 8th grade, at the peak of childhood self-consciousness, i knocked on the door of a super popular, rich, "in" kid from my class and he answered the door.

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  I think I am still not over this....

  I went to so many different schools but from 6th grade up until my freshman year of highschool was all with the same kids. I had not told everyone about me being a JW at 1st and I was not planning on it either. All except for the one day I was going door to door in my territory where I lived, and came upon a house where Ricki and Nicki (twins) lived. They both came to the door, and after that I was called Jehovah (amongst other things) until highschool when they were not so cool anymore. I remember thinking, all that torment from you two, and your not so tuff anymore? They were so cruel about it!

  I do not think about it anymore, but when I went through it, while at the same time being a teenager, I felt the world would end! Brings back memories!
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  Am I the kid around here?

  by DoomVoyager in

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  seems i'm the youngest regular poster by a couple of years at least..

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  Nowman

  Nothing like making me feel old by starting this thread You will be older some day, darnit!

  Nikki
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  Lil sister just called..

  by *Incubus in

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  i just got off the phone with firefox.she wanted to tell me she wouldnt be calling me anymore.her boyfriend has her convinced that she should stay a witness "just in case".. i told her that i loved her whether she was a witness or not.im always here for her.i cant and wont judge her.ever.. she hung up on me crying.. .

  damn it!.

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  Hang in there! I know it is so hard...

  I have posted this note a long time ago, back in 99 I think, my mom contacted me after 7 years of not seeing each other, she wanted to see me so bad, little did I know that my dad had a huge problem with this (note, they were JWs) when he found out. The day before I was to go see her, she bought me tickets, she left me a message at work saying that she wanted to cancel the trip because she felt too guilty having me come out to see her. She was crying on the phone and told me to take care and that she loves me. I was devastated.

  A year later, my mom divorced my dad, and left the org, DFd. We reunited in 2000. You never know, stand tall.

  Nikki
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  How do you fell when you look back at your time as a JW ??

  by karter in

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  to me not all bad taught me some good life skills howerever 38 years i could have done alot with that time...............karter

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  Well, this is going to sound bitter....lost mom for 8 years, lost dad indefinitely since 1992. All over a belief. I try not to dwell on it, but sometimes this is what I think about. I have three children of my own, and thats what makes it difficult regarding me, I would never do that to my kids. Yet, I am not my parents, and I did not have the same childhood they did, they found the JWs later. I was born into it, gone 18 years later. Sad, but survivable.

  Nikki
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  What was your first "Real" job...?

  by Casper in

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  one where you were actually given a paycheck, & where did you end up after that , if you're in the mood to tell ?

  there are a lot of intelligent people here with, i assume, some very interesting occupations.... but hey, we all had to start somewhere........ for myself, my first real job was at a local clothing store, imagine my surprise when at the age of 18 i realized just how much items were marked up...!!!

  i priced the clothes at 3 times the cost to the store.

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  I worked at my grand fathers fork lift truck company, we sold replacement parts for all fork lifts types, brands. I started working in the packaging department packaging parts. You know that SSN statement you get every year listing what you get if you retired etc, or what your family would get, then there is the listing of the years you have worked with all the income details, mine is reported every year since 1987, I was 13, was that legal???

  I then went on to stay with the company until I was almost 20. I left the business eventually, but because of my starting early, it helped since I did not attend college.

  Nikki
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  How important are looks to you?

  by Layla33 in

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  i am just curious how much looks and superficial things plays a part in your decisions in life.

  i work with a young lady, she could be my daughter, well if i was young and out there early, and she's fresh out of college, from a sorority and let's everyone know this.

  anyway, she will only talk with, be friendly with the very good looking people in the office.

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  The initial attraction is what got my attention for my husband, he shaves his head, has a great sense of style, and most important, his sense of humor is awesome (plus I thought he had a nice butt too).

  I have dated men that I thought were HOT, but once they started acting so self-absorbed, total turn off for me, had no problem walking away.

  Nikki
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  Pride

  by joelbear69 in

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  i am a firm believer that pride defined as self esteem .

  or being aware of one's self worth is extremely important .

  to finding satisfaction and happiness in life.

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  Nowman

  Joelbear69,

  Can't express how I needed to read this today!

  Thanks!

  Nikki
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  Can any who grew up JW relate to this?

  by Mickey mouse in

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  confession time!

  i was raised in the troof and therefor never "chose" it.

  i find it really hard to get my head around why anyone would ever join this organization as an adult.

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  Soneone told me this morning...isn't funny that when people have baggage or are experiencing hard times, that this is when they find God? To make sure this is not taken the wrong way, this was said to me regarding a situation with my bro-in-law, and how he found God, and he has changed. I think about my parents finding the JW religion at 17 years of age, growing up Catholic, my step dad being a former drug user and my mom prego with me at 16 and in an abusive relationship?

  So, I can relate very much so!

  Nikki
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  What are you Paying?

  by sammielee24 in

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  while out yesterday - gas 3.89...diesel 4.34......food rioting got 5 people killed in haiti and at least 150 arrested in egypt...sammieswife.

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  Northern Illinois, yesterday I paid $3.34.

  Nikki
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  How is your circle of friends?

  by AK - Jeff in

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  i have been blessed to come to know several posters here personally, and to be able to count them as friends.

  i have phone conversations with several here from time to time also.

  most of these are 'long distance relationships' due to the nature of the xjw beast, geographically, at least for me.

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  I left the org 15 years ago, I wouldn't say I felt alone only because I had worked for the same company from age 12-20, so alot of people that I grew up with were not JWs and offered to take me in when I decided to leave hime.

  But, lately I feel alone. I know this is just something I am going through now. 9 months ago, I left a company I was with for ten years, I should have left a long time ago. Yet, because I was there so long, I had some close friends where we did so much together all the time. Perhaps that was not good because we worked together. Well, when I left the company, they cut me off, stopped talking to me. Its a long story. My MIL still watches my former best friend's 2 little girls. My MIL cannot stand my former friend. How is that right? She comes over every night to tell me something negative. In fact, my ex and his wife have now started to hang out together on occasion, but my ex never cared for my former BF? The company that I worked for, this former BF told me 99% of the things going that were wrong with this company, which is a major factor as to why I left. But she cut me off the day I left along with others.

  It was like I left the JW religion. I just feel that the 10 years were so wasted with people that actually treated me like crap! I have just come to the realization that I may have to start all over with friendships, I want to surround myself with positive people and not those that are going to bring me down. Its just difficult now because I have never been through something like this, and it hurts. The principal of the matter is so wrong, and I feel so screwed over.

  In the end, I will stand tall. I am human and I am not made of stone, I have feelings. Just wanted to vent, certain things have gone on lately that make me feel so bad, and frankly while my MIL is still involved with my former friend, I will never hear the end of it. Which means, its a constant reminder.

  Nikki