Under believer I read your topic and I agree 100%. The analogy of gays coming out is in my case accurate. I led a double life for many years, for fear of losing family and friends. I finally admitted to myself and went through a lot of mental hell, having to divorce my wife and live my own life. Because of fear and misinformation I married thinking that would change me. Very bad for her, me, my kids and all whom I knew all my life. I only wish that young men and women in the org today that have issues (gay vs straight) they do not marry get away and start a new life.
As for active jw's I can understand and I think this board is great to help them. I know it helps me, because usually there is no one locally you can talk to.