The internet has changed my life, in many ways. One way of course is the easy research abilities that the internet affords me. Another, perhaps more dramatic, and life changing way is, my first wife, discovered cybersex, and the ease of finding someone else to invest her life with. I'd become disabled from a construction accident, was told by Washington State Labor and Industry, (L & I) that since I could no longer work in construction, I had to go to school, read college and learn new skills that would enable me to rejoin the workforce. We, (my first wife and I bought a computer as a study aid.) Several months later, we got our first internet access. Then I started school full time. Several months after we joined the internet, I came home to find her seated at the computer, dressed in a flimsy baby-doll nitie, sans panties, enjoying sex with someone she'd met online. Here I might mention, she'd cut me off from sex at least two years earlier, telling me she was no longer interested in sex! LOL Not long after finding her enjoying sex online, she iniatiated sex with me again. At first I was happy as a newly wed. Even condoned her sexual behavior on line. I was to learn soon, within a couple months that she was actually using her self as bait, looking for a new mate. A mate that would be able to support her like she was used to before my accident. She found a fellow in California willing to pay for her to fly from Washington down to his home, where he wined her, dined her, and whatever else. She came home, announced she loved the guy, (why not, he owned a 5 bedroom home, lol) and would rejoin him as soon as our divorce was finalized. Needless to say, he never invited her back to his home in California. She moved to Western Washington soon after she initiated the divorce, and went through several men since then, finally marrying a widower two years ago. I in turn, met my second wife online through a personal ad on Yahoo. We've ushered in the 7th New Year this year, that we've been together. Strangely enough, after my first wife, remarried, her JW siblings and relatives ceased to shun her, accepting and even visiting her in her home with her non JW husband.
ramtrucker
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Has the Internet changed your life?
by Fisherman ininformation at my finger tips.
no one can have the upper hand on me beccause of information.
medicine.
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strange email
by pobthespazz injust had a very strange email from someone called "fearless" that said on the subject line "chinese missile shoots down us aircraft" it came with an attachment but oe would not allow me to open it, i presume it must be some spoof or spammer but has anyone else had anything similar?.
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ramtrucker
It's worse than spam. It's someone trying to take advantage of the world's latest headlines by infusing the e-mail with a virus and then sending it to millions, hoping to infest the curious one's computer system with a virus.
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Bermite discovered at excavation site!!!!!
by jimbo inpowered substance discovered along side excavated trench.
it was quite suspicious in appearance with a pungent odor.
excavator dug 90' trench for installation of utilities to the shop that i converted from a barn.
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ramtrucker
In the late 1970's I worked construction for a general contractor in Pasco, Washington. One of our jobs was building a dentists office in what had been rural Pasco some years before. We ran into a very hard, nearly concrete like material, brown in color, that taxed our picks and shovels while leveling out the earth for the footing/foundation in what would become the basement of the office building. We did a little research and found that the site was where once an old dairy barn had been located. We were putting the building up on the location of the wash out from the barn. Jerry
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Medical "treatments"
by merfi inas i sit here with pinkeye farmcat eyes (this is one of the worst things i've ever been through lol it's horrible!
please send me 'aw merf, get better soon' vibes and a cyber hot-toddy.
gawd, i'm a whiner today.
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ramtrucker
Don't remember exactly how old I was, but it was before I turned 5 y.o.a. I'd wake with my eyes matted shut and start crying, (probably yowling). My father used his time honored method of dealing with it. Spank me. Same went for earaches, if I cried with an earache, he'd spank or whip me. I didn't think about it as a kid, but reflecting back, and knowing how his brother beat his son, (my cousin) when he had ear aches, I have to wonder if they didn't learn their "healing" methods from their mother. She was a strict disciplinarian. I guess I was lucky in a way, it always seemed like my Uncle beat my cousin harder than my dad did me. Ahhh....the memories.
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Moving again... What do you think of these places?
by Bryan inwell, we thought we'd be here for at least 2 years.
last week my wife was told that her office will close jan. 31st!
this is actually kinda' normal for bechtel.
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Hi Bryan I lived in the Tri-Cities, from the early '60s until 2000. Oddly enough, after I'd completed a year of college, (retraining because of an industrial accident), I had a mock interview, which was presided over by a rep from Bechtel. Later I applied for work as an office clerk at Bechtel. I was 59 at the time, and other than the college training, inexperienced in anything but construction work, so I feel I was passed over for work because of my age, 59, and my inexperience. The Tri-Cities is one of the few areas in the U.S. that is still booming. The place has grown remarkably so, even in the past 6 years since I moved to my new home, some 60 miles S.E. of the Tri-Cities. There is a huge variety of people living there, with the three cities, kind of representing a different type of people in each city. Kennewick used to be considered the "bedroom" of the community so to speak. They all have grown to the point that their separate identities are not so evident now. If you enjoy boating and fishing, the Tri-cities has a lot to offer with the Columbia River wandering through the middle of the burg. There are several good golf courses in the area if golfing is your bag. It seems that every contractor has moved to the area to build houses, apartment buildings and condominiums. Unless things change, the Witnesses use the Tri-cities as one of the District Assembly sites in the summer. There will probably be at least 3, more likely 4 assemblies there during the summer. The last one I went to was with my father and siblings. I sat in the stands above the main concourse, sweltering as the temps outside were in the 90s-100s, and looked down at my used to be in-laws looking up at me. LOL... The Tri-cities can fool you. The area was semi-desert and arid, where once upon a time the climate in the summertime was very dry. Because of the huge amount of irrigated land that's being watered from damns built along the Columbia, the humidity can sometimes be similar to cities on the Gulf Coast. All in all, I'd say the Tri-Cities is a good place to consider living and working. The clean up work at the Atomic Energy Reservation, (Hanford) will go on for many years, although the clean up is going well according to the news. You probably are aware that one of the two atomic bombs dropped on Japan was built at Hanford. Hanford High school, (Richland) is proud of that heritage, even their logo is the Hanford Bombers. Hope this helps.
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Because it's fun - Can it really be that simple?
by Nellie inlast night in gabbly i asked why celbrate xmas.
the answer i got was, "because it's fun.
" can it really be that simple?.
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My wife and I enjoy Christmas. We've been a couple since spring of 2000. She's always enjoyed celebrating the holidays, whereas I was raised a JW from the age of 11 or so. My father started studying with a pioneer in 1949. As a family we enjoyed Christmas for a couple more years then stopped celebrating it. I still remember the sled I received as a boy of 8 at Christmas of 1948. Our winter here in Central Washington State was very hard that year with lots of snow, so it was a welcome gift. My first wife, with whom I was married for 38 years came from a well established family of JW's. She was the youngest of six siblings, one of whom had married a Catholic. Although her family doesn't celebrate Christmas, it has always seemed like it's a time for them to get together. They drink, not to excess, but get happy, eat a lot of food, including the traditional foods most "worldly" people enjoy, and in general hang out over the holiday season.
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Since your spouse is going to die at Armageddon, can we agree to date?
by free2beme inmy sister was always married to a nonbeliever as a witness, which means that her husband would die at armageddon and she would need to look into another mate.
so when thinking about this, i remember a few in the kingdom hall that were attractive males and females, that had spouses that would die at armageddon for being nonbelievers.
so wouldn't it make sense, since we did believe this, to court these ones and explain that after their spouse gets the holy crap beat out of them for their lack of faith, that we would like to be first in line for some possible dating in the new system.
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It's kind of a thread drift, but a similar thought: My now ex-wife's elder brother in law, an elder from Florida made a comment some years back, that one of his fantasys was to be present when Crazy Horse, and Sitting Bull were resurected after Armageddon. He commented that they'd probably leap from their graves, dressed in full Indian regalia, brandishing tomahawks, ready to do battle with the white man, and would be totally surprised to find themselves in such a peaceful, New World. Come to think of it, he made the comment while we were attending an Assembly in Vancouver, British Columbia in 1975...I wonder now, 31 years later, how he feels about the idea.
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Since your spouse is going to die at Armageddon, can we agree to date?
by free2beme inmy sister was always married to a nonbeliever as a witness, which means that her husband would die at armageddon and she would need to look into another mate.
so when thinking about this, i remember a few in the kingdom hall that were attractive males and females, that had spouses that would die at armageddon for being nonbelievers.
so wouldn't it make sense, since we did believe this, to court these ones and explain that after their spouse gets the holy crap beat out of them for their lack of faith, that we would like to be first in line for some possible dating in the new system.
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Thank you for the welcome. I'm doing a lot of lurking, reading this and that in the forum.
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How many here were mistreated by their "elder" fathers?
by hubert ini am starting to notice some posts about ex-j.w.
's being mistreated, abused, by their fathers who were elders.. i wonder if this is quite common?.
hubert
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My father wasn't an elder. However, he did enjoy applying the "rod of punishment"... In his case, it was his hand, a belt, a stick, a broom handle, shovel handle, whatever came to hand. I've even been punished with a length of Romex electrical cable, that was handy...he folded it to a handy length, then applied it to my legs, buttocks and back. And there was a folded length of barbed fencing wire that came easily to hand when I was around 9 years of age. I was the eldest of 5 children, so basically I can say I caught the worst of his punishment. He started with me when I was right around two weeks of age. Our home was a tent with wood walled sides, located not far from a logging camp in the Blue Mountains of Northeastern Oregon. His reason for spanking me at such an early age, as he's stated several times over the years was that after I had a spanking, I'd go to sleep much sooner. The spankings and beatings continued until I was just months short of my 19th birthday! I was helping him carry a heavy water heater downstairs into our basement to install it, and slipped, nearly loosing my hold on the water heater, causing a scratch on the exterior of about 6"...When we got the water heater in place, he turned around and struck me in the chest with his fist, knocking me across the room, with me ending up on my butt. When I regained my senses enough to get up, I advanced on him with fists doubled and warned him that it was the last time he was to use any sort of punishment with me like that, as I would kill him next time. Two weeks later after an assembly at Portland, Oregon, 1959, he told me he should give me $20 and a blanket and set me on the street there in Portland!... Two weeks later I moved out, and have never looked back. We have maintained a relationship of sorts, and he has apologized for his behavior when I and my siblings were young, but it's left an indelible mark on all of us. Not only did he punish us kids, but during my younger years, I saw him turn my mother over his knee and paddle her behind till she sobbed with pain. On at least one occasion, I think I was 5, I advanced on him with my little hands doubled up, telling him he wasn't going to hurt my mother. I was backhanded under a table for my attitude that time. My father became a witness when I was roughly 10 years of age...in all those years, the elders kept themselves out of our family affairs, although I know at least one elder, the father of my best friend knew of his cussedness.
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Since your spouse is going to die at Armageddon, can we agree to date?
by free2beme inmy sister was always married to a nonbeliever as a witness, which means that her husband would die at armageddon and she would need to look into another mate.
so when thinking about this, i remember a few in the kingdom hall that were attractive males and females, that had spouses that would die at armageddon for being nonbelievers.
so wouldn't it make sense, since we did believe this, to court these ones and explain that after their spouse gets the holy crap beat out of them for their lack of faith, that we would like to be first in line for some possible dating in the new system.
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Hi all, I'm a newbie here. Back in the '80s, my first wife was still active in the "truth". I myself was working for a fruit juice concentrating plant, which was family owned. The general manager, (son of the owner of the business), was a JW elder. I'd gone to work for him and his family because they "needed someone" who was dependable and able to run a crew. I was put in charge of the graveyard shift. The shift's were 8 hours long, but because of production needs, I often worked 12-16 hours a day, 6-7 days a week. The hours I worked left me extremely tired, so my now ex-wife often went to meetings without me. Especially the Congregation book studies, Service Meetings, and Theocratic Ministry Meetings. The elder that I worked for just happened to have one of the congregational books at his home. On those nights that my now ex-wife went to book study, he arranged for her to sit beside a newly converted, younger by several years, fellow that he felt was lonely and could stand having some fellowship. (read flirting and companionship by my wife) Quite often, she would tell me about the "ice cream socials" they enjoyed after the meeting, sometimes even going out for pizza after the study. It's kind of a thread drift here, but on one occasion, my boss came to my home with two other witness brothers to encourage me to try to get to more meetings! He was the one that assigned me to my work hours, which basically kept me so tired I could barely function when I wasn't working. Quite often when I got home from work, I'd fall asleep in my easy chair after sitting down, while my ex prepared my morning meal. I'd wake to find myself with a cold cup of coffee half raised to my lips! To illustrate just how hard I did work, on one Friday evening, when I punched in, I had a note from the elder, (general manager) telling me not to send the crew home until I'd run all of the fruit, (apples) through the processing plant. I worked my crew through the regular shift which ended at 7 Saturday morning, and through the entire day, and Saturday nite, and all day Sunday. We finally finished the lot around 7 p.m. Sunday evening. The General Manager came in after Sunday's Watchtower Study and Public Talk about 6 in the evening, and was amazed to see my crew still at work. He told me to never allow that to happen again!....And here I was following his orders.