Posts by DazedAndConfused

she saw the sham long before i did - though neither of us could 'put our finger on' what was wrong until we read coc, found the internet, etc.. i believe my wife leans toward atheism more than i do - i consider myself agnostic of the whole matter at this point.

DazedAndConfused

No, I have been out for 20 years and it just does not go away as hard as I try. I think that is because my parents are still very much in.

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District Convention Mischief?

by jws in

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does anybody have a list of convention dates and a hi-res scan of a convention badge?.

i remember all of those talks about behaving at assemblies and all of those talks about setting a good example.. .

what if people were to go to an assembly, looking exactly like a jw, but behaving like a jw could never get away with?.

DazedAndConfused

Yippy, molesting bees? I was sooooooo proud of myself when the new songbook came (1984?) out that I was the only one in the congo who actually had the songs down before they were used. Are you talking about that one or the newest, just released, version?

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What it was like...

by bazackward in

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after posting yesterday about help with the situation with my grandma, i got an idea for mother's day.

any of you with some spare time could probably help me out.. it has to do with better understanding my own mother.

for those of you who were born in the 50's, could you maybe take a minute or two to help me understand what it was like to grow up as a jw especially around that time frame?

DazedAndConfused

I'm not sure if this would help but there is a thread that speaks a bit about 'back in the day' stuff.

http://www.jehovahs-witness.net/jw/friends/174728/1/Comparisons-between-todays-Witnesses-and-those-40-years-ago

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Anyone from Sweden here?

by AlexHall in

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hi.. im new to the posting-part of this forum and was wondering if there s any other ex-witnesses from sweden in here?.

i v been reading a lot of the topics here and i have to admit it have helped me to start seeing the bigger picture.

it took almost a whole year as a ex-borg before i grew the courage to start reading "apostate" information.

DazedAndConfused

Welcome to the board! I am not personally from there, but apparently family roots are from there. Ever heard of Hadsell Island?

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Long time lurker, 1st time poster

by Mattieu in

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well where do i start, perhaps will go into more detail later, though briefly - 40 years young, raised in the truth (kingdom baby, which meant i was never going to make it to primary/secondary school/work/get married/have kids....) former ms, regular pioneer, learnt 3 foreign languages, served in foreign language group, married (wife still goes to meetings), beautiful kids, baptised at 15 years of age, regular pioneer at 15, grew up in divided house.. .

hmmm, will go into my issues with all things organisational later, though firstly want to apologise, for being a self righteous spiritual pratt who did things by the book and sat with other elders/mss and prejudged others for not doing enough and having a wrong attitude about all matters spiritual and organisational.

i stepped down as an ms over a year ago (they were grooming me to be an elder), havent been to a meeting in 3 months, i knew it wasnt the truth for a number of years and have struggled badly the last few years.

DazedAndConfused

I had to refresh in order to reply. Welcome to our humble abode!

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Meeting other ex-JWs

by stillAwitness in

how do you meet other ex-jws in your town safely?

i've tried meetup.com, apostafests, but they always only have about 3 or 4 members and they happen to be far away.

DazedAndConfused

stilla, I am not sure how to do that. In my experience even if you do a meetup with many people you still can come across some unsavory characters. I myself have been stalked, to a degree, by someone I trusted from a meetup. I wondered why our local meetup ended. The threats, and subsequent lack of interest here, kind of indicated to me that I was not the only one.

I can only suggest ALWAYS meeting in public and not giving out personal information. Good luck to you.

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Were there any Elders in your congregation that seemed to dislike you?

by RULES & REGULATIONS in

there is an elder in my congregation who i feel dislikes me because i'm inactive and doesn't know what to do with me.

he seems to go on his business as soon as i walk in.

a couple of times as i was talking with a member of the congregation, he rudely interrupted my conversation and took the person by the shoulder and walked away as if his conversation was more important.. once i was talking to my mom( who is very sick and has many ailments but still makes it to some meetings)and this self-righteous elder walks right in our conversation and makes a rude comment about me in front of my mom.. this was the actual coversation we had to show you how self-righteous he is:.

DazedAndConfused

For the most part everyone loved me, according to my mother. Mommy glasses? lol.

Anyway, an elder on my jc 20 years ago was friends with both my ex and I at the time of me getting df'd. I was the horrible one who resorted to adultery to get out of an abusive situation, so in his eyes I was bad, bad, baaaaaaad. He actually told me many times that if his wife B***** were to do to him what I did, she would be out on her ear!!!! That I was fortunate that this man was willing to take me back. grrrrrr..........

After this, he and my mother have had many heated discussions about this, even in the kh parking lot, with this self rightous br. berating her every chance he got.

Many years later K****, the self rightous br. had a talk at the ca. He himself was in a jc before the week was out for...you guessed it, adultery.

I guess he was the fortunate one because she took him back. He doesn't deserve her, she is a wonderful person.

Now this br. will not even look at my mother, much less talk to her because she still has the audacity to tell him things about my ex that he should find appalling and he doesn't.

I feel vindicated, but I feel very bad for my jw mother for the abuse she has gotten over the years about my situation.