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WHAT AM I SUPPOSED TO BELIEVE NOW?

by bubble in

i've been disfellowshipped for 4 years now (for loose conduct - lol) .

what i want to know is, what am i supposed to believe now?

i was brought up a jw but i know that so many of their teachings and doctrines are completely false.

bubble

No OFG I definitely don't bloody believe that. Why do you ask?

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WHAT AM I SUPPOSED TO BELIEVE NOW?

by bubble in

i've been disfellowshipped for 4 years now (for loose conduct - lol) .

what i want to know is, what am i supposed to believe now?

i was brought up a jw but i know that so many of their teachings and doctrines are completely false.

Hi Daystar. I think what I meant was that people have an inbuilt instinct to believe in something higher and more powerful. Not necessarily needing organised religion for that.

Some days I'm in no doubt there is a god and the next I think there definitely can't be.

If he is there, what does he want from me?

Or is he happy for me to just be a good person. I know I don't need religion for that!

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WHAT AM I SUPPOSED TO BELIEVE NOW?

by bubble in

i've been disfellowshipped for 4 years now (for loose conduct - lol) .

what i want to know is, what am i supposed to believe now?

i was brought up a jw but i know that so many of their teachings and doctrines are completely false.

bubble

We have to believe in something. If we didn't why are there so many religions?

I have lost my faith in organised religion though. So where does this leave me exactly?

In reply to KW, how long did it take you to go to the CofE and did it feel weird?

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WHAT AM I SUPPOSED TO BELIEVE NOW?

by bubble in

i've been disfellowshipped for 4 years now (for loose conduct - lol) .

what i want to know is, what am i supposed to believe now?

i was brought up a jw but i know that so many of their teachings and doctrines are completely false.

bubble

Hi WAC, great film wasn't it? I never cried so much in my life.

Great job leaving Bethel, by the way. Was that Brooklyn bethel?

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WHAT AM I SUPPOSED TO BELIEVE NOW?

by bubble in

i've been disfellowshipped for 4 years now (for loose conduct - lol) .

what i want to know is, what am i supposed to believe now?

i was brought up a jw but i know that so many of their teachings and doctrines are completely false.

bubble

I've been disfellowshipped for 4 years now (for loose conduct - LOL)

What I want to know is, what am I supposed to believe now?

I was brought up a JW but I know that so many of their teachings and doctrines are completely false.

I know that I believe in Jesus, but I felt like I learnt so much more about him by watching the film 'The Passion of the Christ' than I ever learnt from countless meetings and memorials.

And that's all I know. I feel like I'm in a spiritual no-man's-land. The org has really screwed me up on this one. All I hope is that God really can read hearts and that he sees my confusion!!

Anyone else feel this way too?

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Should I sitll offer my JW clients a 50% discount

by jwfacts in

as a part time job on the side i have been doing income tax for many years.

i have around 100 clients and 50 of them are jws.

now that i am d/f i am not sure how many of the jws will continue to use my services.

bubble

All that legal stuff is all very well Ozzie, but what happened to being a decent human being and actually displaying some Christian qualities!

They have all lost sight of what it's all about. What about putting in to practice the golden rule eh???

Anyhoot it's their loss not mine. Definitely NOT going to the memorial this year.

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Should I sitll offer my JW clients a 50% discount

by jwfacts in

as a part time job on the side i have been doing income tax for many years.

i have around 100 clients and 50 of them are jws.

now that i am d/f i am not sure how many of the jws will continue to use my services.

bubble

I had an incident recently. I work on a cosmetics counter in a department store and a few weeks ago the CO's wife came in. I approached her and asked if she needed any help. At first she didn't get eye contact and started telling me what she needed. (How she can afford luxury cosmetics on a CO's allowance I'm still trying to work out!)

Anyway I think she recognised my voice and turned to face me. She went pale and stammered 'oo I know you don't I? oo I can't really talk to you.' To which I replied ' I'm allowed to serve you in a business capacity even if I am disfellowshipped'. She said she'd rather not, so I offered to get another consultant to serve her. She declined and left the store.

It left me feeling like shit. She was such a nice person and was exactly my age too, but the magic word disfellowshipped had turned her into a dismissive person who looked down on me because I chose to free myself from the same beliefs as her!

Now I would never serve a dub if they came into my store. They can all look ugly for all I care!!!

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Hi

by UNCLEAR in

this obviously is my first post, i actually feel like i may be sick but i felt compelled to post.

only if to just say hello.. my life has been anything but boring, pioneered for years, brought several family members into "the truth", and find myself unable to have studies anylonger because i feel unsure about the stand i have taken all these years.. i was previously married, my husband left the organization for various reason, we divorced and i recently remarried another brother, he is a wonderful man and husband, i care for him deeply we and had been friends for 15 years.

i also have a son from my first marriage who is 4, he is the love of my life, recently my son had an opertion that could require a blook transfusion and to be honest i could never deny him that.

bubble

Welcome Unclear, I was a pioneer for years like you and even then I had my doubts too. I have been free now for 4 years and although difficult at first it was well worth it. I was taught never to question but to wait on Jehovah. To research, but only within the societies literature. No wonder we aren't allowed to read any 'outside' literature, we might actually learn something that conflicts with the org's man made doctrines. It's so clear to me now that there is so much that is false within the 'truth'. This clarity will come to you too. Be happy.

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Whoo hoo . . .I finally signed up

by Woofer in

after a few months of lurking i decided to register.. was raised a dub all my life .

.got married at 19 (biggg mistake) because as you know "dating is only for marriage" (obviously not for trying to get to know someone better) and was married 11 months after i met my ex-husband.

i felt a lot of pressure from both families to get married.

bubble

Hi Woofer and welcome to the board. I am a new member myself and am really grateful for all the messages of support I've been getting from this forum. I was married really young like yourself, I was 20. I new after 2 years that it was over and that I didn't love him any more, but was too scared to leave him because of all the repercussions. It took me 16 years to finally leave him and at least I'm mature enough to deal with the repercussions now i.e. being shunned by my family and friends! It really annoys me that they think they are being right and Christian and good JW's for treating me worse than an enemy! I do see and speak to my parents and sister occasionally and sometimes I really think that they think they are doing me a favour by 'bending the rules'. But our relationship is a far cry from what it used to be. They have not spoken at all to my new husband as he's disfellowshipped too, and obviously I'm never invited over for a meal or to family functions. It's been 4 years now! The most annoying thing is that they still associate with my ex, regularly seeing him and having him over for meals etc. and he gets invited to family weddings and functions too!!!!! Where is the family loyalty, just because he is still a JW he gets treated better than me and yet he is the one who made me so unhappy for so many years. It's all wanky!

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four years of liberty

by south african beef in

hi everyone this is my first post!

got d'fed 4 years ago for liking/loving another ministerial servants wife.

happily married to her now!

bubble

Hi I'm the ministerial servant's wife s.a.b. ran off with. I not only escaped the shackles of a dead and lifeless marriage, but I now have liberty from the most ridiculous religion in the world. I am so happy now, I just wish all my brainwashed relatives would see the light too. At least my kids have stopped all association with the wittos now!