Unfortunately my grams was psychophrenic. She was a JW from the early daze. When she and my gramps got married and her mental illness really started to shine thru, he tried to get help, but when the elders found out, they told him that if he was a better dub that her mental illness would go either go away or lessen. He tried and tried, but it never got any better. My mother bucked the elders and their advice when she drove her mother up to a mental institution and had her committed. That was a haunting moment for my mother, to have to institutionalize her mother. My grams was a regular part of my life. We saw her all the time and in the early days when she was not soooo bad, she would spend the week-ends with us. But eventually mental illness took her for good. The only people other then family that visited her, where her old time JW female friends and eventually they stopped.
When my grams died and my mother wanted the elders to give her funeral talk, they said "no" and this devastated my mother. Do you know that not one old time elder came to her funeral. And one elder even had the nerve to tell my mother that he did not think my grams would be in the "new system" because three months b/4 she died, she took a blood transfusion. This put my mother in such a depression that she did not get out of bed for 2 weeks. I had some choice words for that guy! I was the one that had to deal with my mother's depression because not one elder or JW stepped in to help. And me the inactive one.
I saw a special on the History Channel yesterday about Jim Jones and his cult and it so reminded me of the WTBTS and what they say to bring the fold back in line.