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  I never have done right by you...

  by Sparkplug in

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  in talking to my mom the other day (who is doing so well btw) she turned to me and said straight and as sane as can be, "i have never done right by you, don't do as i have done to you to you kids.

  " she got teary eyed and i changed the subject fast because i did not know how to take it nor could i talk with the big lump in my throat.

  i have known this my whole life, and i don't even speak it as plain as she has spoken it, but hearing out of her mouth as she sits in her wheelchair and knowing she means it from her heart and from pure love, well it messed me up a bit.

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  Hah ! & I'm on my way to bed.

  Seriously, one of my wife's big issues is that her mother has never been open with her about her past. And it would seem that a lot of her early life in Germany is a mystery, even to her husband. In my m-i-l's demented state, she was constantly "having to go, having to get out". Why? We don't know. When we go into her documented past (like when she arrived here), it doesn't add up with what she told her family. So many unanswered questions, No answers. I have watched my wife's anguish over this, because she feels that she doesn't really know who her mother really was.

  I am glad for you that you had something from her...

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  A tough decision

  by DJK in

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  my wife and i have lived in this home for four summers now.

  for the first two summers we enjoyed watching the butterflies, dragonflies, hummingbirds and the rare hummingbird moth.. at the beginning of our third summer we had a new visitor that found a location to biuld a nest on a shutter of our house.

  it was a bird called the eastern pheobe.

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  Hi DJK,

  A hard decision. I live out of the city in the mountains & have a lot of birdlife around. But we also have some birds that are feral (ie not native) that attack & kill the young of the natives.

  As much as I dislike it I do support the local wildlife authorities in their campaings to catch & euthanase a proportion of the "ïntruders" so that the native birds have a hope of surviving.

  I suppose that it is a question of balance.....

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  I never have done right by you...

  by Sparkplug in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  in talking to my mom the other day (who is doing so well btw) she turned to me and said straight and as sane as can be, "i have never done right by you, don't do as i have done to you to you kids.

  " she got teary eyed and i changed the subject fast because i did not know how to take it nor could i talk with the big lump in my throat.

  i have known this my whole life, and i don't even speak it as plain as she has spoken it, but hearing out of her mouth as she sits in her wheelchair and knowing she means it from her heart and from pure love, well it messed me up a bit.

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  A worse, more upsetting situation arises when a parent can no longer express themselves due to progressive dementia, has "done bad" to their kids and has not come clean with the kids.

  This happened to someone close & it tore them up. Badly.

  h9k
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  Got new glasses progressive lenses any Ideas?

  by hambeak in

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  i got new glasses today with progressive lenses and transitional lenses get darker outside.

  trying to get used to them.. anyone out there that has these and will it work i have a 30 day guarantee and return policy from lens crafters to go back to the old bifocal.. go back to the eye doc wed. to recheck for glaucoma.

  at least it is not a blur anymore for the 12" from my face forward.

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  Hi Hambeak!

  Have had progressive lenses for the past 10 years - when I first got them I ended up putting them aside as I had heaps of trouble (like going down stairs & trying to read the speedo in the car). Then my ordinary glassses got trashed. That forced me to use the progressives & I now would not swap them for anything.

  I spend much of my day in front of a screen so I have a pair of single sighted glasses without tinting for that use - the progressives were (and still are) a pain in the neck (quite literally) when looking at a screen.

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  grammer and spelling

  by Hortensia in

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  i noticed someone correcting spelling for a couple of posters.

  it reminded me of a couple of things that really bug me.. "momentarily" as in "thank you for holding.

  someone will be with you momentarily.

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  Be very thankful that no-one started on mispronunciations.

  That would be World War IV.
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  grammer and spelling

  by Hortensia in

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  i noticed someone correcting spelling for a couple of posters.

  it reminded me of a couple of things that really bug me.. "momentarily" as in "thank you for holding.

  someone will be with you momentarily.

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  I forgot about the European difference in spelling certain words.

  I believe that is the North American and Microsoft difference (peculiarities?) in spelling certain words.
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  Any one enjoys gardening?

  by greendawn in

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  in the new ground floor flat that i purchased there is a garden area outside which is l shaped each leg being about 15 by 2 metres or about 50 by 7 feet (the rest of the outside is paved) and as the weather got better i planted a lot of the usual vegetables, aubergines, yellow peppers, tomatoes, courgettes, strawberries, cucumbers, runner beans a total of about 50 plants, and many flowers.

  if all goes well i will not be buying much vegetables this summer.

  i mixed in natural manure two months ago to give it time to get digested and hope i will not need to use any chemical pesticides.

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  Have about 3 acres that has been developed from scratch over the past 20 years. Much organic needed to improve the soil as we live on a sandstone plateau and the basic soil is poor. Biggest feature of the garden is several hundred azaleas (including the deciduous mollis variety) and rhododendrons. They are now well established and are a real show in October / November. (Must get a digital camera.....) The current show is the autumn colour from Japanese Maples, Liquid Ambers etc that are now deep orange - red: really spectacular this year

  Also have a vegetable patch & get giant zucchini in addition to asparagus, cabbage, cauliflower & tomatoes. Grew potatoes once - really successful - now have potatoes coming up all the time where the bed was. Biggest vege patch disaster was when we had an infiltration of deer (feral here) that ate the cabbages! These buggers could jump any fence that we had up.

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  Worst flatulence experience? Here is mine... Can you top it?

  by What-A-Coincidence in

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  i had been having bad gas for a few days...when i mean bad, i mean clear the room bad and call in hazmat, it was so bad my dog left the room crying.. anyway, i was at the mall and i had to let one go and a man passed by and he said, "dam, they must be repairing the sewage pipes.

  " i said, yeah, huh.

  i was having a bad day but i just had to laugh.

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  Never hold your farts in. They travel up your spine, into your brain, and that's where crap ideas come from.

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  Classical music anyone?

  by zagor in

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  lately i've been listening more and more to classical music.

  went to several concerts, opera and a ballet..

  just wondering if anyone else loves classical music or maybe modern incarnations like styles of vanessa mae, maxim mrvica, bond, amici and alike.

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  nvrgnbk,

  YES!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

  Emerson, Lake & Palmer tragic from way back.....the movie of this was great too!

  By the way, thanks to all of you talking about youtube, I had a look last night and found soooooo much of interest. A wonderful way to waste an evening!

  Now in the doghouse for staying on the computer watching videos (you're too old for that!)

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  My self-worth does not actually depend on another poster's opinion of me.

  by Frannie Banannie in

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  i've been trashed and bullied by one poster for posting info off the internet that i was offering to someone in need of hope.

  i began a thread on the subject of whether it is right or wrong to offer hope to someone in desperate circumstances in order that the poster could see that theirs wasn't the only opinion of any value.

  while most who responded were in agreement with the validity of being encouraging and offering hopeful info that can be looked into or not, it's the viewer's choice, that poster has continued his bullying, stating that i'm mentally, literally incompetent, basically stupid and irresponsible, though i'm so incompetent that i shouldn't be actually held accountable for my well-meant ignorance.

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  Hi Frannie,

  I see that this person decided to PM their abuse to you rather than having the guts to "put up" in public. A typical bully - very good at dealing it out, very bad at taking it.

  Best to recognise them as a lower life form and then ignore them - which they don't like 'cause they get their jollies from obtaining a reaction.

  Keep caring,

  h9k