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I'm in love with a Jehovah Witness, Is it really a losing battle?

by icon in

i have been reading all of the feed back for saddler and the others.

i too have been in a relationship with a jw for a little over a year.

i love her very much but all the abuse i have taken over the pass year from her elders, uncles, grandfather...etc has really taken it's toll on me.

saddlers

Icon im in the same situation as you are but where your girl friends family are pressureing you i have not had that as my girl friends family have left the JW so it is just her and me.

ok so the elders know and have given her the usual speach about not getting involved with unbelivers but we are still very much in love with each other but as i understand it you can not just get baptized like that you have to go through with bible studies but i may be wrong some clarification on this matter would be of help.

anyway we have come to a agrement.

she is going to ireland on the 20th of may on ministry work for 1 week so i have agreed to have 6 bible studies 1 a week for 1 hour a week to see what her religion is about.

but then when she gets back we will decide where we go from there becouse i think she is still ok with the idea of marrying me even though im not a JW.

and on my side if it turns out i dont like what i here in the bible studies then i will stop and give her the decision.

either she loves me for who i am and we get married or we end it there and then becouse im not going to be pushed into anything i dont want to do or like but i have told her time and time again i will not stand in her way when it comes to her religion.

good luck in what ever you decide

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im in love with a Jehovah's Witness

by saddler in

i've fallen in love with a jehovah's witness and i know she feels the same way about me but the problem is that im a methodist and cant find it in me to give up my faith and become a jehovah's witness as i would not expect her to give up her faith and it is driving us both crazy.

i've known this lovely lady for the past 8 years and have only now told her how i feel and every second im away from her im thinking of her wanting to be with her.

so im asking people who might know or be able to help

saddlers

I to have found that the elders are arragent of the fellings of there congregation and say that if thay marry "quote an unbeliver" thay would be shunned by the rest of the congregation.

and that it is only acceptable to marry a baptized member and that is what my girl friend wants from me.

I have however been reading some of there litriture and have compaired there scriptures from there bible to my familys bible but can't find anything that is different so cant understand why thay are taking the scriptures litteraly.

surely it would be a test of ones faith if thay can keep there faith and love a so called unbeliver not a sin.

anyway as im not a church go'er but just followed in my parents religion am now totaly unsure which way to go.

do i stay as i am and break up from her. ?

do i look deeper into her religion with the possibility of liking it and joining ?

or do i try and persuade her to marry me against the advice of her elders. ?

any response would be appreciated.

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im in love with a Jehovah's Witness

by saddler in

i've fallen in love with a jehovah's witness and i know she feels the same way about me but the problem is that im a methodist and cant find it in me to give up my faith and become a jehovah's witness as i would not expect her to give up her faith and it is driving us both crazy.

i've known this lovely lady for the past 8 years and have only now told her how i feel and every second im away from her im thinking of her wanting to be with her.

so im asking people who might know or be able to help

saddlers

thanks dr jekyell for replying

but i would laydown my life for this woman that i love.

but you said thay are surposed to lay down there lives to protect a brother os sister well what i have seen of them that is utter crap.

would thay step into the path of a car to protect another ? The answer is no

thay are selfish to think that thay are always right and that every one else is wrong.

thay are like anyother organization thay like to controll the minds of there followers and will DO , USE , and SAY ANYTHING to stay in controll

I once had a deep tollerance for all religions but after i met 2 of the elders on saturday i must say my views have changed for the worst where Jehovah's witness religion is conserned.

don't get me wrong some of there teachings and moral standings are correct and good but in general thay realy need to move into the 21st century and stop living in the way distant past.

after all was'nt it God that gave man a brain to learn from his mistakes.

is'nt God surpossed to be all seeing , and all forgiving.

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im in love with a Jehovah's Witness

by saddler in

i've fallen in love with a jehovah's witness and i know she feels the same way about me but the problem is that im a methodist and cant find it in me to give up my faith and become a jehovah's witness as i would not expect her to give up her faith and it is driving us both crazy.

i've known this lovely lady for the past 8 years and have only now told her how i feel and every second im away from her im thinking of her wanting to be with her.

so im asking people who might know or be able to help

saddlers

hi all just to say my profile name has changed from saddler to saddlers cos im on a different computer and cant remember my login details.

anyway got to say thankyou to jgnat for all of her advice and just to say you were spot on with what you said about the elders and scriptures.

my sweetheart told them last week and thay came to see her on saturday and yes thay did leave her in tears and with a lot to think about.

how could a religion be so cold and cruel thay dont even know me yet thay almost treated me like dirt and did'nt listen to a word i said all thay kept doing is quoteing scriptures which to me is there way of not dealing with things.

thay are fools if you ask me.

to treat a person like a sinner just becouse thay dont conform to there ways is utter bullshit.

but thanks for all the advice .