Ian, what you said was right. He never cared for you and was one who did you much harm.
Are elders caring and loving to the sheep, including the lost? Definitely not! Most of my life I was a jw and my father was an elder. A caring elder was the rare exception and never lasted very long. The WTS is not about love, it’s about literature distribution. The elders love to be told how encouraging and caring they are and love to present themselves that way, but the truth is very different. Position, power and the sweet double-honour is what they live for. Power-hungry elders can't be denied, but are often downplayed.
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