Everyone's advice is good. I would only add to enjoy your life at every stage -- don't always be looking for fulfillment in the future (that's JW thinking). To borrow a line from an old sitcom: "Why do they call it the human race? Do they think they're going to win?"
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For the over 50 crowd: What advice...
by serendipity in.
for those of you who are over 50, what advice regarding living a meaningful life would you give to the younger crowd?
do you wish you took a different path earlier in life?
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Stay at home Dads and Moms
by jayhawk1 infor those who read what i say, may know i am going to college full-time.
what you do not know is i have had a role reversal that started today.
my wife has taken a full-time job during the week while i work at a part-time job on the weekends.
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***How do you guys do it? How do you stay organized? What do you think?***
Don't ask the guys!! Ask the moms!! :-) We've been taking care of children and homes for generations!
First, treasure the fact that you can spend more time with your daughter -- the experience and memories cannot be replaced.
Second, get a notebook or use the computer for making a schedule and to-do lists.
Third, get a book or two about housekeeping -- I recommend Don Aslett's "Is There Life Beyond Housework?"
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How do you answer this question??
by LuciousJ inok, i'm now da'd as many of you already know.
it's so fresh that my stomach turns everytime the subject comes up about religion.
however, something that does puzzle me a bit.......is how do you answer people when they ask you the question "what religion are you?
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I don't answer if it's asked casually -- it's nobody's business but my own. If you feel compelled to answer, you could say with a smile that you never discuss religion and politics. Maybe not the most polite thing to say, but it's better than revealing information that's still very painful to you.
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feeling blah - angry at the cult...
by EyesOpened ini posted awhile back, been "lurking" pretty much daily over the past months and from reading everyone's posts - i actually have gotten to know some of you... sort of... if you read my profile you will know i was a lifer, pretty much knee deep in the 'borg (picking up the slang.... i stopped cold turkey last fall - didn't go to memorial, special assembly day, district convention, circuit assembly... no field service in almost a year... these are all firsts... and i am 40 years old.... guess what, i have ignored phone calls, messages from the cong elders, everyone was panic'd for the first 3 months or so... then it all stopped... no calls... they have written me off i guess... of course it has helped that i moved 45 minutes south of my congo, back to my home town - where everyone in the congs around here know me... the rumor mill has told them something is up, but since i'm not df or da, they don't know how to act - so they just ignore me.... i just need to vent abit - feeling down lately because of the things i have learned - feeling betrayed by my parents for joining such a cult.
blaming jw's for ruining my sister's lives, blaming jw's for wasting my life... i want to go to a meeting and yell during the public talk about how foolish everyone is for belonging to this cult... .
it seems i have accepted the loss all of my conditional friends - hundreds of them in central indiana... i see them at the mall, at restaurants and they look right past me... kinda funny now, but it still hurts when my former friends - even the best man at my wedding - refuses to talk to me or even call to ask what is going on and why i stopped... i am invisible.
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***what have you done/doing now to diffuse the anger/dismay/hurt?***
Living your life as best you can and lots of time will eventually blunt the sense of betrayal. But it will never go away entirely. -
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Would you die for your brother......
by loosie ina thought popped into my head today.
remember how inside the congregation we were taught that we should our love our brothers so much that we would die for them?.
now why were taught to trust and love our brothers and sisters so much mush that we would do that for them?.
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lesterd:
***But obedience to the principle is what brings reward.***
That's always been my problem with JWs and christianity in general--like children cleaning their rooms so they'll get an ice cream. Remember the racist cop in the movie "Crash"? He risked his life to rescue a woman he detested -- because it was the right thing to do. -
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Why Did Adam & Eve Need An Immune System???
by enlightenedcynic inhere is a question i would like answered intelligently if possible.
i asked my wife and another brother during an informal gathering of friends and was given the typical "wait till the new system, jehovah will answer all questions" response.
for the last year or so i began to seriously doubt the existence of a "loving, caring god".
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***If they did, then why would a "loving, caring, God" also create organisms, bacteria, and insects that would assault this immune system.***
Bacteria ate straw in Eden, just like lions, tsetse flies, and intestinal worms. -
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None at all. When I stopped going to meetings in the late 1970s, not one called or visited to find out why. I guess they had no problem abdicating their shepherding responsibilities either.
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What Good Are Watchtower Apologists To This Site?
by minimus inpersonally, i like them here.
they provide themselves a purpose to make lurkers question the "apostates".
that's fair, imho.
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The ranters and babblers get tiresome quickly. The shoot-and-run trolls are sometimes amusing. But occasionally, well-meaning JWs come to the site, and I find it interesting to hear what they have to say.
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just feeling the pain
by lesterd inlong story, will get to the end.
did it all as a jw, married a pioneer, both multi generation witnessese, da ourselves 15 years ago, shunned by all our families and life long friends.
lost her six years ago to cancer, she made a last minute return for the "love" of her family, so i lost her too.
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***Her father, who was the only dad I had known my adult life passed away last night he was 95.***
I'm very sorry for the loss of your father-in-law. It's obvious you still have love for those still in the org; it's a tragedy for them and for you that they don't feel the same love in return. -
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I had a bad dream....
by loosie ini dreamt my husband and i were at a kh for a wedding.
there were about 200 people there.
we were watching the bridesmaid walk up.
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Renee:
***For those of you who don't know me...I had a severely messed up childhood in this cult.***
Yowza! My JW nightmares pale in comparison to yours. I had a relatively normal and happy childhood before the JWs came into the picture in my early teens. I feel great compassion for those who had to live with the JW misery and more from birth. Hope your nightmares grow less intense with time.