Posts by Quandry

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Ive come so far but I cant move on - WHY NOT??

by GoingGoingGone in

hi everyone, i havent been here for a while but i do pop in and read whenever i can.

the economic downturn has left my jw husband with much less work which means hes home a lot, which means little jwn-time for me :( so many new ones here!

yay!

Quandry

How wonderful that you have accomplished such great things; first, the education of your children, then the beating of cancer, third, you know "the truth about the truth."You are obviously a strong person.

I know the feeling of not having friends. In the congregation we had instant friends and lots of them. In fact, sometimes I felt overwhelmed because I knew so many people and felt that I couldn't properly keep up with them all to the extent I should. Now, none of them speak to me or my husband, because we are "dangerous." Yes, my husband is "out"with me, but he doesn't want any friends...well actually he does, but is afraid of being hurt. At any rate, it equals lonliness for me. I feel that I can't leave him at home and go places or he'll be upset.

My advice to you is get a part time job. That way you could get rest in between the times you had to work. It would also get you out of the house and talking to people again.

The second thing is that you need is to compromise with hubby. At least one weekend a month, go do something together as a couple instead of going to the meetings. Maybe he would relax and feel that he could be a bit more open with you about his doubts.

Wishing you the best. I know that we are all just connected by computer but I hope you can see that we care about you.

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ALERT: Drowning Doesn't Look Like Drowning

by chickpea in

http://mariovittone.com/2010/05/154/.

the new captain jumped from the deck, fully dressed, and sprinted through the water.

a former lifeguard, he kept his eyes on his victim as he headed straight for the couple swimming between their anchored sportfisher and the beach.

Quandry

Thanks so much for posting this. I am sure we'll all be more aware as we are around people at the pool or beach this summer. I knew two people who drowned but was not present when it happened. Both were on family outings, which made it that much sadder.

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Just found out a Witness works with me-ruined my day

by Quandry in

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i work in an elementary school as a very low paid teacher's aide.

of course, most of the staff are teachers who are paid three times my salary and have at least a college degree, many with a master's.

every day i have to face the fact that i followed the "godly wisdom" from the gb and didn't get higher education (except the degree equivalent from reading all the wts and awakes-i haven't gone to personnell to see how that would work out).. this morning, a fellow aide that i rarely see was coming in the door at the same time i was.

Quandry

I work in an elementary school as a very low paid teacher's aide. Of course, most of the staff are teachers who are paid three times my salary and have at least a college degree, many with a master's. Every day I have to face the fact that I followed the "Godly wisdom" from the GB and didn't get higher education (except the degree equivalent from reading all the WTs and Awakes-I haven't gone to personnell to see how that would work out).

This morning, a fellow aide that I rarely see was coming in the door at the same time I was. I asked if she was making plans for this summer. She said she was going to New York, and didn't say anything else. I asked if she was going to visit family or just a vacation. She said that she was going on a "Church trip." I pretty much knew at this point but went ahead and asked what religion...she said, "I'm one of Jehovah's Witnesses." I told her that I was one for over thirty years but don't go anymore. I said I wasn't df'd so she could still speak to me. She just stood there, so I said, "See you later."

I was so upset. It brings it all back again. I wanted to ask her if she didn't think it was just a bit disconcerting working for such low pay with no hope of advancement because of no degree, and at the same time encouraging children to get a good education, knowing that the WTS discourages higher education. I didn't...I just left.She is young and pretty and seems intelligent. So sad.

I suppose she will speak to me in the future, if there is any job related issue that needs to be discussed.

Argghhhh! At least tomorrow is the last day of school for the year, so I won't see her until next August.

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According to WT 8/11: YOU MIGHT BE MENTALLY IMBALANCED IF YOU PROFESS TO BE ANOINTED!!!

by JustHuman14 in

according to the august 2011 watchtower magazine:.

memorial partakers.

this is the number of baptized individuals who partake of the emblems at the memorial worldwide.

Quandry

Well, this is a happifying development.....

I don't know what the current numbers are for the annointed-have they published that since the memorial?

Let me see...... the annointed are chosen by God to govern the earth, and are to be higher than the angels, but, apparently, some mentally deranged people think they are annointed, but no one knows who is really annointed, nor how many there are on earth, even though they do publish the numbers, and they take the lead in the preaching work, but we don't know for sure if they are mentally deranged or just have a happifying "pioneer spirit." Plus, even though they may be mentally deranged (or not), they take the lead in the teaching work.

Do I have this all straight?

So, if someone is a pioneer and or an elder and professes to be of the annointed, people must be very wary.....

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Help!

by DeViL DriVeR 76 in

i completely forgot about this place until today.

i had an epiphany two das ago.

i must admit i was taking "legal plant food" and still have not gone to bed.

Quandry

Welcome to the forum.

Doesn't it feel good to "open up" and get things off your chest? When you say the words, it makes you focus on the feelings, put them in order of events, and get at the roots of problems. Only then can you see clearly what you need to do in the future to feel better.

You need something good to help you go forward. You are only 34. Can you get additional education? In my case, that has helped me to put depressing thoughts to the background and do something I can feel a sense of pride in-and I am 59!

Perhaps volunteering will get the focus off yourself and on to others, helping you to move forward and not dwell on the past.

So glad you are here with us, and are able to know that you are not alone. We understand.

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WATCHTOWER WRONGFULL DEATH LAWSUIT - UPDATE

by Lawrence Hughes in

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dear friends,.

i would like to thank those who have helped me.

as a result, important legal precedents have been made and a lot of media coverage has been made which has exposed the watchtower society.

Quandry

We'll be waiting for more news with much interest. Hope things go well for you.

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I fell & Guess What???

by mouthy in

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i moved on sat...fell & fractured my wrist..... it is in a caste,thank god it is the ,left one.... i am all settles in with the help of my daughter ,sonin law,grandkids.. i was at the hospital for hours....was able to talk to doc,nurse,why.

they must not shut the door on the jw's as they have been doing.. they were very interesting took my card to give the ones they have.

been listening to.....so i feel good came out of bad....

Quandry

Oh, my! So glad you got good care right away!

Please take things easy for awhile~

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JWs good for free labor to scrub gum at stadiums

by Gayle in

http://www.voiceofsandiego.org/government/thehall/article_8627dd7a-8812-11e0-bc0d-001cc4c03286.html.

then, the wts saves $35,000 for rental.

then, at the assembly, the youth are strong discouraged to go to college for 4 yrs.

Quandry

Now, Blondie, you know that many of the elders and ministerial servants will be there...

The MSs have the worker-oversight positions---they pass out buckets and rags in appropriate numbers for the sisters (you know they aren't able to handle this type of oversight), determine which areas need more brooms, and determine which areas are sufficiently completed.

The elders must walk around and assemble themselves into small groups to discuss "spiritual matters."

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Wisdom...pithy wisdom.....

by Terry in

will rogers, who died in a 1935 plane crash, was one of the greatest wits this country has ever produced.

here are just a few of his many witticisms:.

there are two theories to arguing with a woman.

Quandry

Thanks, Terry.

Will Rogers said a lot with a few words, and I love his humor.

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I talked the first time in 20 years to a non-JW and need a divorce...

by Intel in

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this is very difficult to write (forgive me for any spelling mistake, i am not a native english speaker).. i cannot tell my complete story on this board - i eventually will, once i have broken the last "link in the chain" that has kept me captive to the borg.

i can't tell my story, because.....basically i will be known.....as a more or less "famous" jw..... i have been lurking this site for many years, wrote here under another name - this eventually was found out and i had to do "damage containment".

i had to "go back" and tow the party line....all my family (extended and close) are witnesses, all my "friends" and even work & business relationships are jw.

Quandry

Maybe it doesn't mean getting a divorce. Do not depend on your wife for your happiness. You must begin to get other interests, and try to include your wife and family. Especially try to spend more fun time with your child, perhaps at a park, or take your family for a day to a nice place instead of to the meetings one weekend a month.

They will try to take everything from you if you utter the wrong words. I hope you can fade away without losing all. Give it a try.

I wish you the best.