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  JW family made contact....

  by LouBelle in

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  .....after 8 years of us being disfellowshipped.

  the made contact through my aunt who is still 'in' - as in she has faded but is not disfellowshipped and will pop to a meeting now and again - she does this for my grans' sake.. the contact was from my aunt and uncle (he's an elder) these were the 2 witnesses used against me in my judicial case.

  they contacted my aunt and said to forward the message onto us.

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  We have replied that we are dead to them. They need to take the council of the scripture that states that the elder in the congregations have to be like fathers and husbunds to the orphands and widows, that they have to be the shelter from the sun and rain.....and have suggested that if they are so concerned about my grans' loneliness that they prepare one of their spare bedrooms for her - this will eliviate the cost of putting her in an expensive home.

  So ... contact after 8 years .... for financial support .... no how are you .... no love .... they just want.

  Sorry we are dead and thus unavailable.

  Ha! I know this is in fact not funny, but oh, the irony in it all....they wish to shun you while taking your money and telling you that you serve Satan.

  Another thought that comes to mind-if they took money from apostates, would that not be "touching the unclean thing?" We wouldn't want that now, would we?

  Oh, and don't be sorry...obviously they are not...
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  Shattered Faith

  by new hope and happiness in

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  leaving the witnesses was for me a result of asking myself distubing questions, which infomed me " mike its not what you think, its how you think" and as a result iam what was a dub but is a dub no more .so here i am hete today !!.

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  Welcome to your new life ..... it is great to be able to think for yourself, isn't it?
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  Newby here

  by 1009 in

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  i am new here and briefly want to introduce myself.. my name is michel and i am from the netherlands.

  became baptized when i was 14, started pioneering when i got 18 and i've been ms for a number of years.

  i married another pioneer and after a while we joined a foreign language congregation.

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  Howdy from Texas to all new ones!

  Isn't it great to greet each new day thinking for yourselves? Hope you all find happiness in your new freedom.
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  Mouthy Grace is not well. Please send love.

  by return of parakeet in

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  in another thread, mouthy said she was "not well" and mentioned "kicking the bucket.

  i believe she needs some encouragement and well wishes.. mouthy, you don't need to respond to this thread if you don't feel up to it.

  just consider it an exceptionally long get-well card..

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  Mouthy, glad you've got the necessary equipment (throne) so that you can feel better!
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  MIL letter to my wife

  by AggieNostic in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  background: my wife and i are inactive, we stopped attending in 2005. raised as jws, were pioneers, i was elder etc... .

  our kids are in college, also inactive but are baptised.

  my wife went back to college, getting her degree this month at age 48!

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  We love you more than anything. You raised us well and you continue to be good parents. We love all our family, even when we don't agree. You are always mom and dad.

  Definitely this one. Your parents are the ideal couple wanted by the WTS. It is killing them to feel the way they do, but they are loyal...very loyal. Please don't take a hard stance with them. Just continue to show them love. Don't burn bridges behind you. They will indeed need you as they get older; if you answer in anger now it will make it harder for them to ask for your help later as they get older.

  What was that magazine article that was published not too long ago-that a person should not have to choose between his family and his beliefs? Could you get ahold of it and send it? Also how about just leaving them with the thought...LOVE NEVER FAILS. Then wait awhile and see if they want to contact you. Send them a wonderful card and gift for their anniversary. Kill them with kindness. I think your parents are kind-hearted and loving, and this will get to them whereas if you force them to defend their faith they will dig in with all they've got.

  My non-Witness parents are both gone now. We had a strained relationship because WE were the loyal JWS. How I wish they could have lived long enough for us to have a real relationship after we left the witnesses. You never know what the future will bring. Once they are dead there is no changing anything.
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  Hooray for me!

  by stillin in

  1. watchtower
  2. beliefs

  cleaning house and chunking out i useless trash today.

  guess what went into the trash?

  that's right, about ten years worth of magazines, all wt that i truthfully admitted to myself i never look at, and if i did it would be on the cdrom program.

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  Yes-hooray for you!

  I bought a paper shredder because I didn't want anyone to "find" the WT magazines in the trash and maybe read them as the case seemed to be in stories from the WT. I burned the first one out and bought a second one. I spent alot of time ripping pages out of the bound volumes. Wow do I have so much more room in the house.

  I also took all my meeting dresses and my husband's suits and his fancy leather elder briefcase to a local charity donation place. I imagine that probably JW men and women came in and bought them..... I have so much more room in my closet.
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  My Final Goodbye

  by Lady Lee in

  1. forum
  2. announcements

  i want to start by saying i will not participate in discussion here about my resignation as a moderator at jwn.. simon please consider this as my resignation from that position.. i have been posting on this board for almost 12 years.

  i know some of you a lot, others a little and some not very well at all.

  i have remained here for those of you who have needed support as you make the transition out of the wts, who needed someone to listen to your experiences of abuse at the hands of jehovah's witnesses, and to both laugh and cry with you as you progress out of the watchtower society.. we know that we have all experienced the cruelty of abuse of one kind or another.

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  Thank you for all your insightful posts and your willingness for so long to help others leaving the WTS. I am very grateful that you took your time to be a moderator on this forum. I think back to the time when I began posting here and reading so many heartbreaking stories. So many new ones needed to vent and be free to really state opinions for the first time. You have helped to keep this forum an avenue to accomplish that in a healthy way.
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  just arrived here...

  by sylvlef in

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  hi all.. i'm a newbie from paris, france.

  so please forgive my english grammar, it might be some times...improper.

  27, got baptised at 16 (for a girl...i never had).

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  Welcome.

  Please be patient with your wife. Do not let the WatchTowerSociety have your family.

  Show your family that you love them by doing fun things together. Take weekend trips or longer. Eventually she may begin to see missing meetings as O.K.

  You can also ask small questions along the way but do not challenge beliefs-you know how that makes their determination even stronger to be a Witness.
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  "Something amusing to get you reading my post"

  by frogonmytoe in

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  i have been reading threads on here for months, having not been to a meeting in about 3 years, and spending the year prior to that avoiding them.

  considering i am gay and now live with my boyfriend, i think we can consider me officially drifted, or fallen away, or whatever semantic nonsense the wts uses for specifying the manner of our waking up.

  anyway, i thought it about time i said hello and hopefully make some new friends with whom i can talk about things.

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  Welcome to the forum.

  Never been to Spain or England; would love to go to both someday. But glad to give you a shout nonetheless!
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  Lot's of talk on the July Watchtower?

  by noonehome in

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  so i've heard lots of talk from within about the 'new light' in this watchtower...i'm yet to look at it in any detail.

  i'm kind of surprised actually...i first heard about it here before it was even available but close to the time it did come out people started bringing it up - even our co.. some say things like "have you heard about this?

  " or "big changes," or "allot of things they said we believed, i didn't realize,"(lots of that) or "brain-overload" or " too much information, but i've never felt more pumped up" or "it's soo exciting to see jehovah's spirit lead his organization..." or "it requires time to sink in, but it's a good feeling!

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  "allot of things they said we believed, I didn't realize,"(LOTS of that)

  "I have to study it more, because it's so different to what I thought we believed," etc.

  And it doesn't even matter if they understood the "old light" or didn't or understand the "new light" now or don't...they will just nod, parrot the answers from the WT magazine, and go home feeling "even if it isn't the truth, it's the best place to be."