Hi there,
I think you are looking at JWs and seeing that 'a few bad apples are everywhere'.
Try looking at them and thinking, 'A few good apples are everywhere.'
DISCERNING things and honoring your own intuitions and drawing your own conclusions have never been respected by WTS/JWs.
The bad thing about the good apples among JWs is that you can't keep or deepen your friendships with them and you can't share your thoughts and feelings with them, you can't learn from them and you can't teach them anything because with them it's an 'all or nothing' thing.
Try looking at this (it gets even more interesting after you pass the first page or so of JW history).:
www.equip.org/free/DS601.htm
It is one of several articles written by Dr. Jerry Bergman who was raised as a witness and is now a professor of psychology and a mental health professional who works with (among others) a lot of elders and ex-elders.
He has written many, many papers and several books, including "Why Jehovah's Witnesses Have Mental Problems".
Tho Dr. Bergman is actually generous and kind-hearted toward R&F JWs and has many advanced degrees, the WTS actively tries to discredit him as a 'kook', a 'liar' and a fake (and, of course, an evil apostate)..
Read his stuff. It's good.
You'll understand why he's a big target of the WT's 'spiritual warfare', i.e. lying.
You can find more of his stuff by searching his name at google.com
Best wishes. We're happy to have you.