LB,
I have to agree with you 100 percent. My wife and I are 12 years apart. Me being the oldest. When we got married she was 21 I was 33. Everything seemed perfect. Now she is 31 and I am 43, she is not even close to being the same person she was back then. If I met her today I would not EVEN marry her. We have very little in common and just seem to be hanging on because its the right thing to do.
Before I got married a good female friend of mine told me that people make major life changes between 21 and 25. I said yea yea yea. But you don't know my girl. Was she ever right. There is nothing about her thats the same. Looks, attitude,interests, views. Everything is different.
If I was to ever do it again(which I won't). I would marry someone closer to my own age.
Diamond