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  HAS ANYONE HERE HAD THIS EXPERIENCE?

  by juni in

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  i posted this earlier at the "shunning" topic by jh ----.

  also there are those that do come back who have never righted their wrong, but continue on with a bad heart and have a smug attitude.

  and if this individual is "popular" w/the elders, are treated differently.

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  In the hall I grew up in once your name was smeared whether deserved or not it was pretty much all over.

  When I was DF'd at age 16, the elders never really had a meeting with me, it was just accusations and sriptures to back them up. They were so ready to hang me.... they were drooling over the excitement of it.

  After the decision was reversed by a second comittee they still couldn't stand me. There was just one elder who apologized to my parents, but of course not to me.

  In later years, it was found out that some of the very ones who were the harshest, were guilty of the very things they accused me of at the time.

  One was having an affair at the time he wanted me out, one had a 350 pound 12 year old daughter who wound up being mentally ill, his wife died of a heart attack at 40 (she was always a nerveous wreck), another produced the worst kid in the KH. He was the little Bethelite at age 25 who came back and was made an elder. He was the harshest and one of the ugliest men I have ever met in my life.

  My point being is once anyone is DF'd it is really all over no matter what hall or location.

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  I fell in love with a JW.....

  by hampstead in

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  we both fell in love.

  hard.

  we are not two little kids, although it has felt like it at times.

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  I feel so bad for you!

  It is sad to say but you have been given an open door and I would use it and run like Hell. You do not say how old you are. If she has been a pioneer all this time and a JW she knew better. You will continue to take the fall for the lapse in her non-JW behavior, and even if you were able to marry, you may pay the price for this courtship for the rest of your life.

  You also made the statement about being her head. Yikes, that is a scary.

  I would suggest moving on. It is the best thing for you. Decisions to become invovled with a very controlling religion for someone you love rarely works out. Especially when you have been given the "heads up" before hand...(she dumped you because the religion said so.) Do not carry on and get to the point where children are involved and you have a change of heart about the religion.

  I know this must be difficult to hear, but until she volunteers to leave, you will never be able to measure up to this religion in her mind. It will be one sick road for the rest of your life.

  Move on.

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  How do you feel about the name Jehovah?

  by JWdaughter in

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  do you use it anymore?

  do you care?

  do you cringe when you hear it?

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  DITTO to Jamelle's response! I can't figure out how to copy and paste other's responses in this forum.

  I think this person summed it up to a T.

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  Attending meetings by phone!

  by nsrn in

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  continuing saga of my elderly parents:.

  mom has a broken shoulder (now 8 wks!

  ) and still can't use it at all.

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  My mom is 72, and all she has to do is dial in on her own phone when her back goes out. She has admitted to falling asleep during boring talks, especially on Thursday nights.

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  What Were You Doing When You Found Out about 9-11 5 Years Ago??

  by mama1119 in

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  everyone has a story about what they were doing and the emotions that followed after the twin towers were hit...what is your story?

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  One more thing, my husband was in Germany on business due home the next day. He didn't get to come back for 2 weeks.

  It was very frightening to have him overseas and me alone with 2 boys.

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  What Were You Doing When You Found Out about 9-11 5 Years Ago??

  by mama1119 in

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  everyone has a story about what they were doing and the emotions that followed after the twin towers were hit...what is your story?

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  I was at work and the entire office staff were glued around a 9" television watching as it happened. They closed the office, sent us home to go pick up our kids at school and fill up our gas tanks.

  I'll never forget pumping gas and total strangers were all asking each other if everyone was OK and was there anything anyone needed help with. I have never seen a community pull together so fast and truely be concerned about the well fare of unknown neighbors.

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  Ever know of a great family movie, the Witnesses found demons or evil in?

  by free2beme in

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  i remember growing up, the witness children were often ones that were left to see all those g rated movies from disney.

  yet even those at time, while accepted by just about every religion out there, were considered demonic.

  for example, the following movies were said to show witchcraft and in or congregation we were encouraged to discard them and not own copies of them; sleeping beauty, snow white, the little mermaid, bed knobs and broomsticks, and fantasia.

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  I remember ET was a no no.

  My father was a big movie buff, he saw everything. I remember letting him baby sit my son, and he let him watch anything he was watching. I use to have a fit about it.

  He was no longer an Elder at the time, but I was still way too influenced by the WBTS.

  Now I realize my dad did me a favor.

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  THE JW MALE

  by Dansk in

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  i honestly believe most jw males stay in the orgnisation because they are given control, i.e.

  married males have ultimate control over their wives and children.

  i know a woman who was married to an elder and who said that prior to becoming a jw she would never be submissive to her husband.

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  Dansk, you bring up a funny subject for me.

  My grandmother converted from the 7th day Adventist to Jws way back.(early 20's) She was notorious, for being in charge. She was the first woman in North Dakotah to wear pants and made headlines at the time.

  My mother her last child, has been just as fiesty, fighting elders as she sees fit. She was also top dog as far as the religion goes in the household I grew up in. She made sure my Father became an elder.

  Here is the point, I grew up in a atmosphere of women dominated religious nut cases and they ran the show, there was no denying them.

  Myself, and extended female family never had much respect for elders.....but, since my father died they have suddenly become prophets in my mother's mind.

  You asked about the JW Male? No such thing where I grew up!

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  Have you found as an X jw that you contribute more to society in general?

  by restrangled in

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  We have contributed to Troubled children, including movies and players. Also free information advertising to the troops in Iraq, Iran, and Afghanastan.

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  Have you found as an X jw that you contribute more to society in general?

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