and at the same time I'm hardly appreciative of those who say they love "gays". It comes across as faintly condescending, as if it's necessary to put out there that you love some afflicted, downtrodden group.
I meant no disrespect or condensention, I apologize if I offended you.
As JWs we were taught that homos were disgusting, they choose to be gay because of their un-controlled lust, and gross thoughts that they linger upon instead of banishing from there heads.
My ex-JW husband was/is a gay man. he tried despretly to be straight and did everything the society told him to do, he was considered the golden boy in his hall. Well as you can imagine, after many years of marraige and a couple of kids, it finally all come crashing down on our heads, he was coming out.
The first thing I did was research everything I could find in the societys literature. the society realy didn't have a lot to say about it other then it was forbidden and your gonna die of you do it. No understanding or insigtfulness and no cures (haha), just "jah hates you"
However, I remember one article in particular, I think it was from the early 70's and it actually spoke a little more about it. In this article, they used the terms homosexual and pedophile interchageably. This really made something in my head go pop, i started getting an ldea that they did not have all the answers and started looking outside the org.
I wont bore you with all the details but I read everything I could get my hands on. I rationalized homosexuality in all sorts of ways. trying to make what the bible society said and what I saw, fit together. I even had a really good theory going for a while but that eventually lost all believablility also.
We went to marraige counseling for eight years, going through several counselors. We fired two in a row that basically said that he needed to come out and i needed to get on with my life. But we didn't want to hear that. We found a christian (worldly) counselor that believed it could all be sorted out and we could live happily ever after. And a few more years of our lives were wasted.
Anyhoo, for me, it took quite a bit of reading and experience to completely debunk everything the society said about this issue. If I had not experienced it, I would probably still have irrational fears about homosexuals like some of the posters here do. I would like to see everyone get over it just like getting over the idea that women or minorities are inferior somehow.
I hope this is somewhat coherant, Im all hopped up on cold meds so maybe it isn't. Sorry if I offended.
