Honey if you stay with this guy, prepare to doubt yourself a whole lot more. It's the JW way.
aSphereisnotaCircle
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Feeling numb
by daniella ini guess i'm now an ex-girlfriend/ex-unofficial fiancee of a disfellowshipped-but-still-believing jw.
i am still reeling from what i discovered last week.
the same friend told me.
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Feeling numb
by daniella ini guess i'm now an ex-girlfriend/ex-unofficial fiancee of a disfellowshipped-but-still-believing jw.
i am still reeling from what i discovered last week.
the same friend told me.
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aSphereisnotaCircle
Yes, you are being verbally abused, at the very least.
Calling you names, doesn't accept responsibility for his own actions, is not interested in you doing what is best for you, he only wants you to do what is best for him.
He is cheating on you, please don't make any excuses for him on this, he cheated on his first wife and now he is cheating on you.
I don't know haw many serious relationships you have had. But in my youth and ignorance I got married to a guy who sounded very much like the winner you have. I stuck it out because as JW's, divorce was not an option. Well when I left the JW's I left the hubby too.
Now I''m in a relationship where I am treated with respect. In the ten years I have known him he has never once called me a bitch. He never blames me for anything, He makes me feel as though I am the most important person in his life.
I was disrespected as a JW, because I did not know any better. I was raised that way. But I have discovered that worldy men treat me much better then any JW man ever has.
I believe your asking for a lot more trouble if you stay with this man. And it doesn't sound like there is any upside.
Surely you deserve better.
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What to do when your JW + Silentlamb pasts ends in relationship rejection
by feenx ini find myself today completely distraught, rejected and questioning myself for the first time in quite a while.
this past friday night i ran into my recent ex and some mutual friends, and the new guy she is seeing.
the very guy who she herself referred to previously as a "man whore.
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aSphereisnotaCircle
I'm a silentlamb too, though I really don't like the term, but at least it says a lot with one word.
I had a friend that i felt I could open up to, she kept saying i could tell her anything or call her anytime. When I finally did open up she dropped me like a rock, her husband even read me the riot act, telling me that i needed to take care of my own problems and not expecting others to do it for me. I was seventeen at the time, I didn't expect others to take care of me, but I did need help, but I didn't know who to go to or how to ask.
I didn't allow myself to open up to anyone for a long time after that. But now I don't care, people can take me the way i am or walk away and find someone they do like. It took me a long time to get here though.
Please take care of that little guy inside you that got raped. You need to be his parent, and take care of him. I went back to a house I lived in as a child, it was vacant, I stood outside and looked up to the second floor window of my old bedroom. I could see my little nine year old self looking down at me. I told her she didn't have to live their anymore and would she like to come home with me. She did, and I took her home with me.
I hug that little girl a lot now, it feels so good.
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Was it better to be an elder's wife, or a CO's wife?
by AlmostAtheist ina friend of mine was asking about the cult we all hold so dear, and i was explaining some of it to her.
i told her about elder's wives, and how they have both the prestige of that position, plus the social standing.
logically, it would be even better for a co's wife.
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aSphereisnotaCircle
Restrangled, I totally forgot about how they have to listen to the same old spiel every week.
What a horrible lifestyle.
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What was the first album you ever bought? And what form did it come in?
by JimmyPage inmine was men at work's "business as usual".
on vinyl.
and my dad read all the lyrics on the sleeve to make sure it wasn't too evil.
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aSphereisnotaCircle
My first album was by Don Williams, i wore it out.
Thr first album i burned was Queens "The game" because we heard it had demon voices on it.
Unfortuantely when we burned it, it flamed up quickly and easily, and even though we leaned very close, we could not hear any demons screaming.
I was extremely disappointed, I had just forked out 12 bucks for it!
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Was it better to be an elder's wife, or a CO's wife?
by AlmostAtheist ina friend of mine was asking about the cult we all hold so dear, and i was explaining some of it to her.
i told her about elder's wives, and how they have both the prestige of that position, plus the social standing.
logically, it would be even better for a co's wife.
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aSphereisnotaCircle
I alwasy felt the CO's wives had it pretty hard.
Moving every week, no daytime job to escape to.
No garden, no pets, no children, none of the comforts that most homemakers have.
Always living on someone elses time schedule.
I always thought they looked older then their ages. Always that pleasant but I've got this look permanently pasted on look.
I'm sure the presents and consatnt groveling from the R&F might be nice, but it wouldn't make up for the other stuff.
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Did you ever see acts of randomness in the congregation?
by truthseeker inbit of a weird title i know, but it's the best i could come up with.. acts of randomness - a speaker refusing to give a talk, a party-pooper elder going to a party, a long time servant of jah criticising the cong during wt comments.. people you thought you knew doing some completely weird or out of character.. an act of randomness could appear at the end of a talk on "widening out" when a certain someone who doesn't like you decides to say hello..
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aSphereisnotaCircle
Gregor, I thought that was pretty funny.
Just a random fantasy during a boring talk maybe?
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what kind of epitaph do you want?
by Hortensia injust thought i'd carry the funeral thread a little further.
what do you want them to carve on your tombstone?
i'm inclined toward the smartass epitaph, something like "what are you looking at?
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aSphereisnotaCircle
She worked hard
She played hard
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This is really good therapy for me
by odie67 ini come here and read some of the posts.
i laugh so hard sometimes, well most times i cry cause i'm laughing so hard.
not in a mocking way.
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aSphereisnotaCircle
I laugh so hard sometimes it hurts.
My hubby wants to know "whats so funny?"
Huuby has never been a JW, so when I tell him, he doesn't understand why its so funny, so I try to ex[plain, but nothing is funny if you have to explain it.
So yes, it's great to be here where everyone else knows what your talking about.
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Did you ever see acts of randomness in the congregation?
by truthseeker inbit of a weird title i know, but it's the best i could come up with.. acts of randomness - a speaker refusing to give a talk, a party-pooper elder going to a party, a long time servant of jah criticising the cong during wt comments.. people you thought you knew doing some completely weird or out of character.. an act of randomness could appear at the end of a talk on "widening out" when a certain someone who doesn't like you decides to say hello..
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aSphereisnotaCircle
My family was poor and we seldom could afford to heat our home. We were also southerners who had recently moved north, we were not prepared for the cold winters here.
One time a natural gas truck pulled up to our house and filled our tank. Someone in the congregation had annonymously paid for it.
Another time, in the same congo, my mother found several twenties in her purse that hadn't been there before she went to meeting.
These two acts of random kindness happened in the late 60's in the North congregation in Portland Oregon.
We really appresiated the heat and the extra food we had that winter, that was true loving kindness.