"Hope to meet you in April in London?"
It's a maybe at the moment sweetpea. I'll let you know closer, you're on my facebook friends, so will stay in touch.
Paul
digderidoo
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8 Months sober and going strong
by digderidoo ini haven't really posted here much lately, i think it's because being old skool i cannot get used to the new format, but thought i'd check in.. i posted long and hard here the first half of last year about my alcoholism and attending aa, so thought i'd give a short update for anyone who remembers and gave me a lot of advice, which i am grateful for.. my last drink was may 30th, so i am now 8 months sober.
i hardly ever crave or even want a drink anymore, if i do it's when i think that maybe i can handle one or two on a night out or something.
but it soon goes, when my head kicks into gear and realise that i can't.. i used the aa alot in the early stages.
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8 Months sober and going strong
by digderidoo ini haven't really posted here much lately, i think it's because being old skool i cannot get used to the new format, but thought i'd check in.. i posted long and hard here the first half of last year about my alcoholism and attending aa, so thought i'd give a short update for anyone who remembers and gave me a lot of advice, which i am grateful for.. my last drink was may 30th, so i am now 8 months sober.
i hardly ever crave or even want a drink anymore, if i do it's when i think that maybe i can handle one or two on a night out or something.
but it soon goes, when my head kicks into gear and realise that i can't.. i used the aa alot in the early stages.
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digderidoo
I haven't really posted here much lately, i think it's because being old skool i cannot get used to the new format, but thought i'd check in.
I posted long and hard here the first half of last year about my alcoholism and attending AA, so thought i'd give a short update for anyone who remembers and gave me a lot of advice, which i am grateful for.
My last drink was May 30th, so i am now 8 months sober. I hardly ever crave or even want a drink anymore, if i do it's when i think that maybe i can handle one or two on a night out or something. But it soon goes, when my head kicks into gear and realise that i can't.
I used the AA alot in the early stages. I tend to do more reading now to keep my mind active on my alcoholism, i haven't given up on AA but have cut down drastically the amount of meetings i attend. I also use www.soberrecovery.com which is a massive help.
So thought i'd give an update, degree is going well and my scuba diving, two things i have taken up in sobriety.
Paul
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Ever think about going BACK?
by jeeprube ini haven't been to a meeting for 3 or 4 years now.
(it's been so long i can't really remember).
but lately i've considered going back.
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digderidoo
I did last year for the first time in 12 years. It was after i sobered myself up, i'd spent the previous 13,14 years drinking heavily, eventually realising that i had become an alcoholic.
Upon getting sober i felt a spiritual connection that i wanted to explore. The first point of call was what i was used to. I had always felt that i was forced to fade from the JW's, after going through a messy divorce, my ex wife came from a large JW family, so fading was the easy option.
I felt as though i needed to explore the JW's for myself now. The only difference now was that i went back, knowing all that i had i learnt....607 thing, UN thing, Child abuse, etc, etc . I sat in the KH thinking what a croc o'shit. Ultimately i went to one day at the convention, the thing that hit me was first of all a sister standing up on the platform saying how she didn't go to her disfellowshipped brothers wedding...next thing applause, applause from the 8,000 there. The next thing a young pioneer sister saying he she'd given up an education to go into pharmacy and now works in a coffee shop...applause, applause from the 8,000 strong crowd.
It soon hit me that this was not God's organisation. The nostalgia element was good, a bit like putting on an old pair of comfy slippers, but i'd got new ones now. It was said to me by someone on this board which really hit home....had you been brought up a Mormon, you would be saying how you had just gone back to the Mormon church for a few meetings.
If you really think you'd like to go, then go back for a few meetings, you'll soon realise how what you have learnt since cannot fit in with what you hear from the platform...you'll then have to question what your real motives are for being there.
Paul
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Guide to the UK for Americans
by besty ininspired by a recent post and a long standing amusement at the various ways some americans display their geography skillz with regard to my home nation and their country of origin in some cases.. defintions:.
geography.
1 - the british isles geographically describes the archipelago lying off western europe and includes 'everything'.
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digderidoo
lol....i yam considerabbbllly richer than the lot of yo
oi yam arr
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Guide to the UK for Americans
by besty ininspired by a recent post and a long standing amusement at the various ways some americans display their geography skillz with regard to my home nation and their country of origin in some cases.. defintions:.
geography.
1 - the british isles geographically describes the archipelago lying off western europe and includes 'everything'.
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digderidoo
"If one was born here one can still speak like the Queen if one so wishes,clipped or cut-glass English as it is known,but most of us speak with a neutral sounding ,hard to place accent.
The thing that saddens me is the loss of regional accents due to the damn T.V everybody sounds the same in a lot of the U.K and they are following the bad speech of cheap soap operas,....... damn I sound pretentious, pretentious moi?"
Wobble, I yam from Dudley (or Dudlaiy) so i dow fink yo'm right
Paul
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Guide to the UK for Americans
by besty ininspired by a recent post and a long standing amusement at the various ways some americans display their geography skillz with regard to my home nation and their country of origin in some cases.. defintions:.
geography.
1 - the british isles geographically describes the archipelago lying off western europe and includes 'everything'.
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digderidoo
The whole concept of Americans speaking American English instead of what you call British English amazes me! Whatever happened to the Queen's English?
Paul
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digderidoo
It depends on what you're doing.
I do law with London University on a distance degree. I chose this as London is one of the top, if not the top Law school in the UK, they also provide a distance degree, using both online and study materials.
Personally i think it would be wise to assess what traditional schools offer your choice of degree and then see if they offer the course externally on a distance program. That way you get the best of both worlds, an online degree, recognised by a traditional university.
Paul
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Quotes for life and living
by digderidoo ini thought it would be interesting to see what famous quotes people may have that they hold dear.
now that we do not have the wtbts dictating to us, here are some of mine.. .
the path is the goal...chogyam trungpa.
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digderidoo
I thought it would be interesting to see what famous quotes people may have that they hold dear. Now that we do not have the WTBTS dictating to us, here are some of mine.
The Path is the Goal...Chogyam Trungpa
Beware of the person of one book.
~Saint Thomas Aquinas
....in the words of Scripture, the time has come to set aside childish things. The time has come to reaffirm our enduring spirit; to choose our better history; to carry forward that precious gift, that noble idea, passed on from generation to generation: the God-given promise that all are equal, all are free, and all deserve a chance to pursue their full measure of happiness. ~ President Obama
"What doesn't kill you serves to make you stronger" ~ Anonomous, but a favourite
Be still like a mountain and flow like a great river. ~ Lao Tse.
Without going out of your door, You can know the ways of the world. Without peeping through your window, you can see the Way of Heaven. The farther you go, The less you know. ~Lao Tse
So don’t worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will bring its own worries. Today’s trouble is enough for today. ~Jesus Christ/Matthew 6:34
Do to others whatever you would like them to do to you. This is the essence of all that is taught in the law and the prophets. ~Jesus Christ/Matthew 7:12
If those who lead you say 'God's Kingdom's in heaven,' then the birds will fly there first. If they say 'it's in the sea,' then the fish will swim there first. For God's kingdom dwells in your heart and all around you; when you know your Self you too shall be known! ~Jesus Christ, Gospel of Thomas
The mind is everything. What you think you become.
~ Gautam Buddha
To God belongs the east and the west. Whichever way you turn there is the face of God. ~ Prophet Muhammed Qur'an 2:115
Inner peace is the key: if you have inner peace, the external problems do not affect your deep sense of peace and tranquility ~ Dahli LamaThe first and the final one being my favourites.
Paul
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Do JWs wear veils?
by cameo-d insomeone told me yesterday that she had studied with witnesses "up to chapter 3"...whatever that means.. she said that a man and woman came to her house one day after she had been studying and that the woman put on a head covering or veil when they started the study.
she asked the woman why she did that and the woman replied they do that when in presence of a brother.. i think she must have got jws mixed up with some other group...i just never heard of the veil thing before.. is this a jw practice?.
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digderidoo
I remember being about 13, unbaptised, and my mother's friend a sister, wore a hat whilst saying a prayer for a field service arrangement. There was confusion as to whether i should say the prayer. Because it was a congregation arrangement and there was no baptised brothers there, apparently she had to wear one because she was taking the place of a brother.
Paul
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the high cost of divorcing a JW............
by oompa indivorce is hard for everyone, unless the person is just jumping for joy to get out it.....but even then it can be rough....and you lose half your assets.....some people stay in bad marriages just because they can not afford to be divorced........ but esp if you are a born in jw.....you know what is so unfair compared to normal non-jw divorces????
?....what is so fukkin unfair?!?
!.......that you lose all your friends and family!!!!
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digderidoo
If you are the one instigating the divorce it can be deadly.
I left my ex wife 11 years ago. Everyone who i grew up with looked down upon me with judgement. Nobody knew what went on between us and my reasons for leaving, the crux of it was i felt suicidal and leaving her was such a weight lifted off my shoulders. But her family is a big JW family, so they made sure i looked the bad boy. Mad thing is they did the same with my sister in law too, who left my ex's brother around the same time. Rumours went around that both of us were seeing other people and having affairs, all lies. But what can you do when stories like that get circulated. Stories went around that i never seen my children, again lies i had them every weekend. Stories went around that i didn't financially support them, lies. They did everything to paint me as the bad guy, yet what nobody knew was that my ex wife was an extremely angry and abusive woman.
Within the JW community divorce is looked down upon, it's not meant to happen. So if you're the one instigating it, it's a long road, or it was for me. It was worth it though, in my opinion it's wrong to live a life that just doesn't make either of you happy. My ex is on her third now, she's happy, probably happier than when we were first together, so i am pleased for her. I too am in a happy place, so in the long run it did work out, i wouldn't want to go back to the sort of relationship i had with her.
Paul