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  Any luck kicking the bottle?

  by Ignoranceisbliss in

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  as i continue my sllllooooooowwwwwww fade one of the things that i want to do is better myself as a person.

  one of my biggest pitfalls has always been drinking.

  i don't think i am an alcoholic but at the same time i've never been a very good drinker.

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  digderidoo

  I think a big issue would be if drinking is having a negative impact on your health or your life situation.

  I'd respectfully disagree ... why wait until that point?

  Wouldn't a better definition be that if you have one drink, you feel on edge or frustrated unless you have another? Or maybe if someone were to drink on their emotions, on their feeling and fears, to give oneself confidence to be able to face situations? I used to drink to wind down, without a drink I'd feel frustrated or wound up in some way, sometimes nothing major, just in my own head.

  There are many alcoholics or problem drinkers who function quite normally with regards to jobs, family and house situations, I've met lawyers, doctors, teachers, policeman and many others who are alcoholics. From a personal point of view my health never suffered in the long term, I also never had a DWI and at one point in my many years of alcoholism had a successful business, none of which was a barrier to me being an alcoholic.
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  Any luck kicking the bottle?

  by Ignoranceisbliss in

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  as i continue my sllllooooooowwwwwww fade one of the things that i want to do is better myself as a person.

  one of my biggest pitfalls has always been drinking.

  i don't think i am an alcoholic but at the same time i've never been a very good drinker.

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  digderidoo

  I gave up the drink about 7 years ago now, though had a couple of relapses, but continuously sober now coming five years and the best thing I ever did. For years I wouldn't class myself as an alcoholic due to the stigma mainly, I always looked at other drinkers who were worse than me and concinced myself I wasn't alcoholic.

  The first step is confronting and admitting the issue, you've done that here which is a big thing. The next step is to ask genuinely whether you are an alcoholic or a problem drinker. The thing I have picked up on in your post is when you say 'I don't think I am an alcoholic ...', by saying 'I don't think' means that you don't know, although at this stage you see yourself as more of a problem drinker.

  For either issue alcoholism v problem drinking there are solutions. For the first there is AA or some other program aimed at alcoholics, for the latter there maybe counselling, or educate yourself on the effects of drinking to your body. Either way it is best to approach with an open mind, maybe even try an AA meeting and if it's not for you then try something else such as the medical profession, or counselling.

  It took me a long time to figure out why I drank, it also took me a long time to admit I'd crossed the line to becoming an alcoholic ... I was never the park bench type, I never drank in the morning and never drank vodka, never went to prison, never had medical alcohol issues, never lost my licence, therefore it was easy to convince myself that I was just a problem drinker.

  I am not saying that you are an alcoholic, I don't know, but picking up on the fact that you are not sure tends to mean that you have thought along those lines at some point yourself. If moderate drinking isn't working it maybe an idea to have an open mind on the issue. Either way, problem drinking or an alcoholic there are solutions, which start with confronting the issue head on.
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  Please post new forum feedback or questions here

  by Simon in

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  well, the switchover happened - there were a couple of things i had to fix which meant the posting was disabled for longer than i planned but it's now enabled and some people have already posted.. if you have any questions about the new format or suggestions on how to improve it, please post them here.. if you are having trouble signing in or posting then you'll need to email me instead.. many thanks to everyone for their patience during the changeover !.

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  digderidoo

  Nice new forum ... just some feedback, on signing in it asks for your email and password. I was unable to sign in using my email, though I could do using my username in the email box.
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  Steve Pinker ... evidence on the surprising decline in violence

  by digderidoo in

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  this is an interesting lecture.

  one that flies in the face of current jw and i assume most non jw thinking.

  evidence shows that when examining history mankind was more violent over the centuries than they were during the 20th and 21st century.

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  digderidoo

  In any event, the Bible says that a time 'free from care' is when the hammer drops, coinciding with Steve's research.

  He doesn't suggest we live in a time 'free from care' ... if you'd have listened to his lecture he highlights the wars and genocides that have happened both this and the last century. He is arguing though that violence has declined, very different from saying we live in a time of peace.
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  Steve Pinker ... evidence on the surprising decline in violence

  by digderidoo in

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  this is an interesting lecture.

  one that flies in the face of current jw and i assume most non jw thinking.

  evidence shows that when examining history mankind was more violent over the centuries than they were during the 20th and 21st century.

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  digderidoo

  His book "The Better Angels of our Nature" is a must-read for all exJWs.

  I have ordered the book today, less than £10 on Amazon
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  Steve Pinker ... evidence on the surprising decline in violence

  by digderidoo in

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  this is an interesting lecture.

  one that flies in the face of current jw and i assume most non jw thinking.

  evidence shows that when examining history mankind was more violent over the centuries than they were during the 20th and 21st century.

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  digderidoo

  This is an interesting lecture. One that flies in the face of current JW and I assume most non JW thinking. Evidence shows that when examining history mankind was more violent over the centuries than they were during the 20th and 21st Century. Pinker argues that we are just more savvy now when it comes to reporting, the idea that we live in a more violent society today is a myth and not supported by evidence.

  http://www.ted.com/talks/steven_pinker_on_the_myth_of_violence
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  Is is Muslim terrorist cafe seige Sydney...hundreds of hostages! looks bad.

  by Witness 007 in

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  lindt chocalate cafe martin place in city people pressed against the glass with hands up...this will not end well..

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  digderidoo

  The angle being taken over here on this guy is one of a lone madman. He is a Shia muslim, yet requested an ISIS flag who are Sunnis and been beheading Shias. It turned out he went into the cafe with the wrong jihadist flag and wanted it changing.

  Even as Islamic Fundamentalist standards go the guy was clearly mentally deranged in wanting to fight under the banner of his Shia brothers enemies.
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  Christmas markets - apparently fine for JW's to attend

  by FeelingFree in

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  this has got me really wound up and i feel the need to post.

  our friend an ex jw has just returned from a famous christmas market in germany, now my husband mentioned this to his mum as they have connections there.

  she got all excited about how amazing the german christmas markets are there and how she would of def gone to one this year if she had the time!

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  digderidoo

  We have a large German xmas market in our city, the JW's have a trolley stand there :)
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  AAWA activists burst into a Kingdom Hall in Kent!

  by raymond frantz in

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  aawa activists burst into a kingdom hall in kent.

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  digderidoo

  The link says that 'John Cedars' has said that these guys are nothing to do with AAWA ... I thought 'John Cedars' claimed to have severed links with AAWA after the Facebook debacle? Yet he is still a spokesman for them?
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  Higher Education... Some ideas for those that think it is too late

  by adjusted knowledge in

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  so many witnesses lost the opportunity to pursue higher education in their youths.

  perhaps it took decades for many here to leave and now feel it is too late.

  degree you will also earn multiple certifications from other agencies:.

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  digderidoo

  I started a law degree at the age of 38, graduated this year at the age of 44. It was through a part time distance program. I have also done an online teaching certificate. I'm now studying a Masters.

  I have recently been offered a few hours teaching law at the local college and hope to move into it full time within the next two years.

  Take a look at the University of London International Programmes, it's very cheap in comparison to other schools and a world class university.