This sounds like a dire and terrible situation, I'm sorry you (and your father) are going through this. If APS isn't being any help, can you do as another poster suggested and call your local Sheriff's office to request a welfare check? A uniformed police check could move things faster than waiting on APS (it sounds like you've tried APS before and encountered red tape and slowness?). Also, since your dad was hospitalized just within the past week, and apparently his doctor was made aware of some of his wife's weird behavior even then (?), can you go to the doctor and tell him what's happening and maybe get some intervention that way?
If this woman is starving him and isolating him from help and family, that qualifies as elder abuse. APS is supposed to help in a situation like this obviously, but if that's not happening maybe getting the police and/or his doctor involved could get things moving more quickly to get some help for your dad.
I'm sorry this is happening, my thoughts are with you.
***Edited, after reading more carefully.
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I was locked out of my dad's house AGAIN tonight!
by Melody Blankenship intonight, monday, november 10, 2008, i went out to see my dad ([name and city edited for privacy reasons]) about 7:15 p.m. i saw his wife standing at the kitchen sink when i pulled in, and i pulled around back as i always do.
by the time i got out of my car, she had turned the lights off in the kitchen and went into my dad's bedroom.
i rang and rang the doorbell but she (rose ann andris powell) would not come unlock the door.
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Do Jehovah's Witnesses Break Up Marriages? WT 11/01/08 pgs 11-12
by insearchoftruth indo jehovah's witnesses break up marriages?.
"if one partner chnages his or her religion, the marriage will break up.
" so goes the claim of many people.
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Ummm... thank you Thomas Poole for that relevant and enlightening story
quite a different spin in the kool aid article to be studied in November from the September 15, 2008 private edition...
Does anyone have a scan of this?
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Do Jehovah's Witnesses Break Up Marriages? WT 11/01/08 pgs 11-12
by insearchoftruth indo jehovah's witnesses break up marriages?.
"if one partner chnages his or her religion, the marriage will break up.
" so goes the claim of many people.
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What a steaming pile of crap.
I notice they don't even touch the opposite scenario - JW man, non-JW woman. My JW wouldn't dare show me such a load of garbage as this. It looks to me like it's meant to soothe non-JW men who are losing their wives to the WTS by telling them hey don't complain and don't worry about it, because you'll get a submissive wife out of the deal. *barf* indeed -
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Is it rude to not include "Gifts are not necessary" on a b-day invitation?
by White Dove inis it necessary to include it in order to not be thought of as tacky?
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Actually it can be argued that it's tacky TO include it, because the implication is that gifts were forthcoming and expected otherwise and that IS tacky. An invitation is a request for someone's presence and shouldn't include assumptions/instructions about gifts at all. Further, if some guests disregard and bring a gift anyway, then you've a situation where those who did follow the "directive" could feel embarrassed.
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Successful JW/Non-JW Relationships... How do you make it work?
by cognac ini was thinking we could talk about what works for couples who have good jw/non-jw relationships.
maybe we could get ideas from eachother to help improve ourselves and our relationships!.
i'll start.
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For me I keep a clean home, worked outside the home for 20 years, did all the things I thought we correct. My husband told me on our 42nd anniversay that we live in a divided home and the bible says that if we cannot live in peace to seperate. We never go out together he is just too busy with meetings and even does more at the hall since his retirement. I will be leaving the home sometime in March or April as soon as I get my Social Security as I am not allowed to even know what we have in the bank. No funds available for me. His only love is his god, the organization and his father, brother, sister and his two children. We don't even talk since his comment on our anniversay, and that was in August.
tiffy0212, you need a lawyer, if you don't already have one. If your husband means to separate from you and divorce, you absolutely ARE allowed to know what you have in the bank, and you also can't be made to leave your home with no support and no knowledge of or access to your joint assets. Please talk to an attorney; from your brief description here, it sounds like you are on the verge of getting screwed badly.
As for how UBMs can make a relationship work with a believing JW -- it can be done, but at a cost. In my own situation (I am the UBM), I've done and continue to do all of the things Cognac listed in the original post, and they're good suggestions. But it is EXHAUSTING and also comes at a great price (crazy, meddling JW family; fear of having children; constant tension about the billion triggers that JWism plants in people's minds that can burst out at any time; on and on).
Sorry if that all sounds incredibly negative. I do think such relationships can be made to work, but there are tons of problems. I have been dealing with this crap for five years now and am exhausted. Anyone thinking about entering into such a relationship should run away fast IMHO. Those already in know how hard it can be. It can work, but yeah at a cost, likely a huge one. My two cents. -
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Senior Citizens......How does your congregation treat them?
by crazyblondeb innot as good as they use too... but then again they are following the lead of the wts.
why bother with fellowship when you can plug everyone into the telephone.. one one hand they are pushing fs, on the other they are making so many changes that several of the elderly are getting depressed, especially ever since the may 1, 2007 qfr.
with the afternoon bs soon yanked, many not allowed to drive at night, and elderships that don't care enough to orchestrate carpools....it is bad..
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How about taking out your checkbook and paying a handyman to take a look around, rather than expect someone else to do it for free?
What a cold and nasty reply. Did you even read the original and follow-up posts? This woman has given her whole life to the WTS, sacrificed her family basically, and won't listen to her own daughters when it comes to the state of her home. What she needs is for a couple of brothers to get off their sorry butts and pay a visit, take a look, perhaps show a tiny bit of care or concern for her well-being so as to give her some peace of mind. They're the most loving people on earth, right? They look after their own, right? Yeah, that's why this thread (and this board) are full of story after story about the "loving kindness amongst Jehovah's people" translating into "we'll suck you dry and then kick you to the curb." Nice. I don't even know you lola, but I found your reply arrogant and cold and offensive.
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November WT: new policy for inactive ones?
by behemot inthe november 15 w.t.
(study edition) features these two articles:.
help those who stray from the flock.
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Marking for reference. I too would be very interested to know exactly what it says, preferably well in advance of my inactive JW being assaulted and beaten over the head with it.
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Why Evolution Should Be Taught
by hamilcarr inwhy evolutionary biology is a crucial part of the curriculum .... .
optimism in evolution.
by olivia judsonlondon.
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I could just as easily point out that if macroevolution was a fact, beyond any reasonable doubt.... then why aren't Jewish boys born without foreskin. The Jews have been circumcising on the 8th day for how many years? Why do I still have to shave/wax my legs, underarms and bikini?.....
A comparable question might be, if all parents gave their child an ankle tattoo of a butterfly at 8 days old, would babies start being born with butterflies inked into their ankles?
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Barf! Puke! Ugh!!
by Frequent_Fader_Miles infacebook's all you ever wanted to know about the bountiful blessings awaiting faithful ones in jah's new order!
check out these comparisons with satan's filthy world ..... the new system verses what saten 's system has to offer:.
saten's system: unequilty, there are thousands of imigrants, but its not their fault, the country does not supply food for them because they are using the money to fight their war's instead of bringing enough food into the country and supplying jobs for them.. .
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The person who wrote that is either a young child, or a complete idiot. I'm guessing it's a kid; it's really sad to think of children and young teens viewing life and the world that way, but at least with kids the odds are in their favor to wake up as they grow up. If an actual adult wrote that, it appears that getting a clue might be far beyond the realm of possibility for that unfortunate individual.
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Why do people use so many derogative, belittling terms on here like....
by reniaa inmaybe for the same reason the bible namecalls:.
sinners.
undeserving.
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Reniaa, one important distinction regarding these terms: Words like borg, Witchtower, etc refer to the organization -- and this is indeed an organization that swallows people up and sucks them dry for its own purposes. On the other hand, terms like worldly, bird food, etc refer to individuals, tossed around as self-righteous hatefulness from a position of false piety.
I'm sorry if you feel insulted or uncomfortable by some of the terms for the WTS that are used here, but I really think you should look deeper into where that is coming from and what such terms are actually saying. I don't use them myself (except, occasionally, borg). The individual human beings who are trapped in "the borg" can get out, but first they have to see it for what it is.
As for the WTS teachings coming from nuggets of scriptural "accuracy," well sure that's certainly the case in many instances. The problem is that the WTS takes small scriptural nuggets, isolates them from context, twists them into something that is NOT remotely scriptural, and then brings down this "enhanced interpretation" like an iron fist. Often the end result is very heinous and destructive stuff that is passed off as "Jehovah's word, expanded upon and relayed by Jehovah's mouthpiece." Think about that.