i don't post often, but i lurk a lot.
i have fonund the information to be helpful and encouraging.. however, i'm not sure how much longer i can take being married to the jw's.. i have a wonderful husband, but he believes everything this cult tells him.
most recently he has decided that because the end is near we don't have to worry about our bills.
So I heard from the hubby that we may have a problem with unemployement getting processed due to error with paperwork. So, now it may take longet than a month to get unemployment. Maybe this will change his mind.
VE - It can be hard sometimes to respect a mate who is influenced so much be the cult. I try to remember the man I married is still in there somewhere and that not everyting he learned is useless.
Ding - Good point I will be sure to gently point this out
i don't post often, but i lurk a lot.
i have fonund the information to be helpful and encouraging.. however, i'm not sure how much longer i can take being married to the jw's.. i have a wonderful husband, but he believes everything this cult tells him.
most recently he has decided that because the end is near we don't have to worry about our bills.
Alanv - It is true that he is a victim of the cult...so I want to try to be understanding. Also, marriage is work under any circumstances.
We are in the USA so he is getting unemployment that is part of the reason he sees no need to look for work right now. Of course this is less than his salary.
I did mention the Bible verse about the man providing I did not have the exact verse number...I will get that today.
Blondie I will ask him about the paying the money to New York. That will make him think. Since he wants to do some spiritual stuff is there a old Watchtower book I can suggest he read...maybe we study together to help open his eyes?
Thanks for the replies.
i don't post often, but i lurk a lot.
i have fonund the information to be helpful and encouraging.. however, i'm not sure how much longer i can take being married to the jw's.. i have a wonderful husband, but he believes everything this cult tells him.
most recently he has decided that because the end is near we don't have to worry about our bills.
Gayle thanks for the advice. He is getting better at not spending everything for that I am thankful. We don't have children and at this point we cannot for this I'm also thankful. The kids would really suffer.
fokyc thanks for the encouragement. Sometimes I feel like I'm the only one dealing with this situation. I forget other have been down this road. I just need to keep "a clear head"
i don't post often, but i lurk a lot.
i have fonund the information to be helpful and encouraging.. however, i'm not sure how much longer i can take being married to the jw's.. i have a wonderful husband, but he believes everything this cult tells him.
most recently he has decided that because the end is near we don't have to worry about our bills.
Yes and because I'm not a witness he claims I don't understand spiritual things. He seems to think that a new job might be provided by satan to keep him to busy to do witness things.
I explained to him that he should not rush into a job and that I support him if he wants to change careers. I suggested he take about a month of time off to do the things he wanted and needed to do. He did not like this idea.
i don't post often, but i lurk a lot.
i have fonund the information to be helpful and encouraging.. however, i'm not sure how much longer i can take being married to the jw's.. i have a wonderful husband, but he believes everything this cult tells him.
most recently he has decided that because the end is near we don't have to worry about our bills.
take 2 "so the "men" can be at home ..."
i don't post often, but i lurk a lot.
i have fonund the information to be helpful and encouraging.. however, i'm not sure how much longer i can take being married to the jw's.. i have a wonderful husband, but he believes everything this cult tells him.
most recently he has decided that because the end is near we don't have to worry about our bills.
Hello Everyone,
I don't post often, but I lurk a lot. I have fonund the information to be helpful and encouraging.
However, I'm not sure how much longer I can take being married to the JW's.
I have a wonderful husband, but he believes everything this cult tells him. Most recently he has decided that because the end is near we don't have to worry about our bills. He is naturally a spender type of person and I'm the saver type.
He also seems to think that being laid off of work is a sign that he should do more Field Service and Spiritual things as he calls it. While, I work and he is at home. He is doing stuff at home like ceaning, washing clothes and cooking...I do appreciate this. However, he has caused the debt in our family and I think he has a resposibilty to pay for it. This maybe a situation specific to this hall. In fact, it is not unsually in this hall for the women to have the jobs that bring in the most money and cover the health insurance. These ladies have to work take care of the family and do all the stuff at the hall so the mean can be at home and get together for coffee.
I'm really at a crossroads here. I'm working to support the cult...I'm not OK with that. But I really love my husband.
i have been married 10 years and i have been with my family and the non-jw in laws for christmas.
this year the hubby asked me to go to a resort with a bunch of jws over the christmas week.
maybe it was not the best idea, but i love my hubby and thought once might not be too bad.
Ynot it is on the lake. I hope to get to the spa:)
mamalove I'm not sure what kind of JWs they are, but they are always very nice to me. I would rather just have a weekend with me and the hubby. I did celebrate with family already. No CHristmas with them I'm sure.
i have been married 10 years and i have been with my family and the non-jw in laws for christmas.
this year the hubby asked me to go to a resort with a bunch of jws over the christmas week.
maybe it was not the best idea, but i love my hubby and thought once might not be too bad.
Wow Blondie! I did not know about this one. My hubby is a MS and I'm invited to almost everything. I was never a JW and I have debated with a couple Elders at the hall. I think they know I'll never become a JW so they let me ride along to keep the hubby happy...maybe?
I really love the people at my husbands hall. I'm just so sad that they are trapped.
i have been married 10 years and i have been with my family and the non-jw in laws for christmas.
this year the hubby asked me to go to a resort with a bunch of jws over the christmas week.
maybe it was not the best idea, but i love my hubby and thought once might not be too bad.
I have been married 10 years and I have been with my family and the non-jw in laws for Christmas. This year the hubby asked me to go to a resort with a bunch of JWs over the Christmas week. I said yes. Maybe it was not the best idea, but I love my hubby and thought once might not be too bad.
What do you think?
i'd like to get your advice on how to talk with my husband about the generation changes.
we have started talking about how it a little.
i would like to show him the changes using the jw publications.
Hi Everyone!
I'd like to get your advice on how to talk with my husband about the generation changes. We have started talking about how it a little. I would like to show him the changes using the JW publications. Note I have some of the bound volumes that I can use and of course his WT library CD.
What do you suggest?
I remain the "wifeofjw" for now.
