just popped in to say: i left my husband.
we're still workign out the details (as i only did it this past weekend).
i couldn't take it anymore.
Hi Libelle-
Sometimes the road to freedom is tough. You can do it!
I did not read your entire story, but I can understand why you are leaving. I just told my husband last week I want a divorce. I cannot take the "attempts to scare me into it by showing how everything in the world is going wrong as a sign of the end of this system of things" either.
So happy decorating! I'm looking forward to it also
wifeofjw - Not for long!
i know a woman, became a wife .
these are the very words she uses to describe her life .
she said a good day, ain't got no rain .
@Nickolas it is true I a veteran on the board, but mainly a lurker. I have only posted when things get really crazy.
Recently, things have gotten crazy. You may gave read my post that he declared his lay off from work was a gift from Jehovah and if he got a job it would be from Satan. He has told me things are getting bad and he may leave one day to go be with the other witnesses. Go where? Is ok just leaving me?
One of my main frustrations is he promised to research the JWs with me before he decided to become one, but the elders told him NO and he would not do it. I still have the letter he wrote me stating he promised me to "read anything or talk to anyone" I wanted him to. I have been waiting for him to honor this promise for 11 years.
Thank you for your well wishes. I do hope he wakes up. I see it this way if asking for the divorce wakes him up than I did the right thing...if it does not wake him up than I did the right thing.
No Longer WifeofJW
i know a woman, became a wife .
these are the very words she uses to describe her life .
she said a good day, ain't got no rain .
Unfortunately, I cannot stay any longer. Least night I told my husband I want a divorce. It was the hardest thing I have ever done. We do not have any children...thankfully.
We have been married for 11 years. Neither of us had any religion when we got married. Although, I learned later he was studying with the JW and did not tell me. He married me because we had been living together and the brother conducting the study told him we needed to be married.
I honestly gave it all I had I cannot do it anymore. I cannot live the lie anymore. For the last 11 years I have been careful not to say anything that would upset the balance. I would never say it is a cult. However, at every chance he and the other witnesses talk about how everyone is pond scum expect the JWs. I was in line to give my condolences to a family at a funeral and a guy was making fun of the "born agains". Of course my husband was standing next to me he was upset by this display. He told me later he talked to the Elders about this. The thing is they do this stuff all the time. I cannot be nice to these people anymore when they are talking about me and everyone else.
My husband also puts the needs of the congregation before me. I have to tell him that he has to spend some time with me that I should come before the Elders and the rest of the people in the hall.
I just cannot do it anymore it is crushing me.
while it is true that the "proclaimers" book is not always as open and honest about the society's history as it claims to be, it is open and honest enough to bring into question the society claim to being god's organization.
it's a matter of (1) knowing what to look for, (2) where to find it and then, (3) to be able get the sense of what it means.. take for example the extremely important matter of the second coming of christ.... on the top of page 47 the book truthfully explains how president charles russell came to believe that jesus returned invisibly in 1874 to begin his second coming ("invisible presence").
and then a careful reading of the footnote on page 133 shows that the date of jesus' return was not changed to 1914 until 1943.. it is likely that even if some witnesses notice that fact, they do not get the sense of what it means.
Thanks! Marked
well i'm 22 years old, still in college, i live with my mom but she is driving me crazy with her jw nonsense, ive been dealing with it all my life and i really cant take anymore of this, i have a boyfriend, non jw (which my mom hates) and i could barely see him because she doesnt let me go out!
we have 4 years together and i really dont want to keep on like this, im not baptized but i am a publisher.... .
so the thing is, i want to move out with my boyfriend but i have no idea how to break the news to her, she drives me nuts but shes my mother and i love her, i dont want to hurt her but enough is enough...she's probably going to disown me, but i really just want to be happy already...so does anybody have any ideas what i can do?.
Hello cia112,
I'm sorry to hear of your situation with your mother. It is great to hear you are in college.
I think the first thing you need to ask yourself is "Do I have the means to take care of myself if I leave?"
Have you planned for all the expenses you will incur. Do you have a job? Have you created a budget? What if you break up with your boyfriend? Where do you go?
Do you have a community of people to support you if you lose all your JW friends?
Have a plan before you leave. So, when your mom asks what are you going to do about Fill in the Blank you have an answer. That way you can tell her "I love you Mom and it is time for me to leave home."
Take Care
i am just thrilled.
i hope she starts a topic introducing herself to you all!.
Welcome Whathappedned!
So happy to see you and Grandma Jones can support each other in this journey
i don't post often, but i lurk a lot.
i have fonund the information to be helpful and encouraging.. however, i'm not sure how much longer i can take being married to the jw's.. i have a wonderful husband, but he believes everything this cult tells him.
most recently he has decided that because the end is near we don't have to worry about our bills.
Hi Peacefulpete! That is a great idea.
I have suggested that he get some kinda of training and he gets very upset about it. It seems the elders and folks at his hall are against all types of education. For example, he looks to cook I suggested a community college for culinary school. His reply No, No, No.
So maybe he is just paralyzed. How long do I wait?
ok, last night my oldest son's friend was over again.
he comes up to me and says that he's feeling alot of pressure from his mom and the congregation (my mother's .
They are doing the exact same thing to a 16yr old in my hubands hall.
I'm often unable to talk to him at all they really keep him busy. However, when I do get a chance to talk to him I tell him about the things he is good at and how he can learn more about his talents in college.
I also tell me wait to get baptized because he is too young.
I'm glad he has you too talk to...that means he might be able to see a different life for himself.
i don't post often, but i lurk a lot.
i have fonund the information to be helpful and encouraging.. however, i'm not sure how much longer i can take being married to the jw's.. i have a wonderful husband, but he believes everything this cult tells him.
most recently he has decided that because the end is near we don't have to worry about our bills.
MeanGirl - I thought this was a little strange too. However, I can think of 4 women off the top of my head that bread winners in my hubby's hall and 2 in a hall in the same area. That is 6 women who keep the families that depend on the wives to provide the bulk of the income for the families. The men are unemployed or work a part-time or low paying/low stress job.
I just thought of one more make that 7. If it was not for these ladies the families could not make it.
When I read things on this board I can see that they do things a little different in my area.
i don't post often, but i lurk a lot.
i have fonund the information to be helpful and encouraging.. however, i'm not sure how much longer i can take being married to the jw's.. i have a wonderful husband, but he believes everything this cult tells him.
most recently he has decided that because the end is near we don't have to worry about our bills.
Mouthy it is so good to "hear" from you. I read your posts and I'm always encouraged. I'm glad you are well. I know you still believe in prayer so can you say a prayer for me & hubby when you can. I'll ask him to read the scripture tonight.
Sd-7 you are so right one of the hardest things to do is separate the Witnesses from your mate. I plan to work on this.
