are pedophiles such from the getgo (like homosexuals claim), or is it something that forms over time, gradually gaining strength as one gets older?
This is an interesting question. One that requires some thought. When I was 16 I was attracted to my girlfried who was 14. Was I a pedophile? We were both children according to the law. When we both turned 18 and 20 repectively and were still together, were we no longer pedophiles? Since someone earlier has defined pedophile as an adult that is attracted to children, then I guess for a period of 1 year and half I was, and she wasn't. However, I think most young men after puberty are attracted to girls 13/14 and up. And many women vise versa. Admitting these thoughts is difficult for many, especially patriotic people that think the laws of their society are the same way God sees things. The 18 law is really way off. This age was selected because of the Rockerfellers and the National Education System's control of wages and who goes to college and who flips burgers and keeps the rich families rich, and the poor families poor. But that's another story...
As far as your husband goes, some things are better left alone. To go and warn others of the past is really tactless in most cases, and could cause trouble or harm to you or your current situation. I found this out the hard way testifying against someone once. Slashed tires and broken windows aren't cheap...Besides, all the warnings in the world cannot stop what someone intends to do in most cases. Case in point, if I warn my friend that Joe Schmoe is looking for him and wants to hurt him, then Bob Dobbs comes along and hurts my friend, what good have I done? What fruit have I produced in the spirit of love? What good could come of it?
Just something to think of.