Like Blondie, I too come from a very dysfunctional family that I pretty much gave up on long before I left the dubs. They were irrational THEN, I certainly have no desire to talk to that wall of insanity NOW.
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Have you put your JW family behind you? Are you content with your decision
by nicolaou injust feeling a bit fed up.
it's not always like this i know but i'm wondering if life would be far easier for me and my wife if i just drew a line under all my efforts to maintain a relationship with my jw mother, brother and sisters.
all the rejection, judgementalism and condescension gets a bit much after a while.. how many here actually said 'goodbye' to their jw family and can honestly say they did not regret it?.
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Rejecting the Kingdom Message Results in Death
by The wanderer in<!-- .style1 { font-family: verdana, arial, sans-serif; font-size: 12px; } .style2 { font-family: georgia, "times new roman", times, serif; font-size: 18px; } .style3 {font-family: georgia, "times new roman", times, serif; font-size: 16px; } --> rejecting the kingdom message results in death"now what do you have to look forward to?
" "you are back at square.
this is what my best friend said to me regarding the rejection of the truth.
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You know, I really doubt that the hope of "everlasting life" is really what keeps witnesses "in" anyway. Fear is really what it comes down to. If a witness could overcome the fear, by means of excercising rational thought, and thus prove the organization false, not having everlasting life would not be such a big deal. I know in my own experience I am able to appreciate life as it exists today, with its ups and downs, even knowing full well, that someday I'm going to die. Once the "wieght is lifted", (the WTS dogma of how everything in this system is SO BAD), it is much easier to just simply accept, that we are all someday going to die. Enjoy life while it's here...
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Barf Alert! - Governing Body 'believes we are in the time of the end'
by drew sagan inwell looks like the governing body is getting 2007 off to a great start.
here is a little audio clip that somebody pointed out to me: .
click here to watch 'jw-governing-body---time-of-the-end'.
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Hmmmm, they never say things like we're really living at the time of the end???? Is this guy cracked?
Those were my thoughts exactly.
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WERE YOU A SICK WITNESS???
by minimus inwhile you were a jw, were you generally feeling ill?
------did you know of persons that were initially pretty healthy but got depressed and sick because they never felt they could do enough??
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How true! JWs have conditions many, if not most people never even heard of, like CFS. Depression and illness, (usually psychosomatic), are very big problems in the dubs.
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Apostates do you still read Watchtower literature? And if so Why do you?
by booker-t ini was just wondering how many ex-jws still read wt literature and if so why.
i have noticed alot of posters here know what the lastest wt or awake magazines are talking about and i was just wondering why do you bother to read that stuff since you left the wt?
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No. I don't even own anymore literature, except for a NWT and Reasoning book. I prefer the "clean house" method.
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Do you still call it "the truth"?
by True North indo you find youself still calling it "the truth" even though you are an ex-jw?
for instance, in one posting i just read, the poster wrote "when i was in the truth..." .
not a big deal, perhaps, but really not such a good thing either as it's a habitual holdover from the program of mental conditioning we were subject to.
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No. I made an effort to eliminate that term from my vocabulary early after I left. Even when talking to jws, I'll use the term, "the Organization", or in a more negative connotation, "the Watchtower", (they hate that).
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HELLO!! Newbie Alert!
by Do Not Call inhi folks, .
i,ve been lurking for ages and had a password months ago.
only today i've been able to get in.
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done4good
Welcome, DNC!
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Working in IT
by Chameleon inhello.
if you work in it, what exactly do you do, and did you go to school for it?
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Oh, went to DeVry University in KC, with a degree in Telecommunications Management back in the early '90s.
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Working in IT
by Chameleon inhello.
if you work in it, what exactly do you do, and did you go to school for it?
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I'm a network/systems engineer for a software company specializing in E911 telecommunications applications.
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The serious conversation with the wife about the cult
by OnTheWayOut inif you needed my background, this thread will tell it-.
http://www.jehovahs-witness.com/6/121888/1.ashx.
my wife recently asked me about not commenting at a wt study.. our discussion was the topic of this thread-.
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OTWO, You are handeling this very well. Your wife is smart, she will come around when she is ready, (I can't help you with knowing "when" this is), but it will happen. My only advice is don't be toooo quick to "speed things up", if you don't have to, and from what it sounds like, you don't have to. My experience with this is, that people tend to loose their delusions only when something happens that forces change. Basically, "When one door closes, it will FORCE another open".
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