Yes! I've had pressure from friends and family for a while now and I finally caved 4 weeks ago. I'm a Face Bood addict now! Ive met people I havent seen in years! I love it! You should join! There are also exjw support groups you can join as well. Hope to see you on Face Book! If you decide to PM me and I'll request you as a friend! Cheers!
tremoka
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Pointers please in writing my letter of Disassociation!
by tremoka inwooohooo!
i've made my decision!
i'm doing it, can't live in limbo any longer.
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I live in a small town. Run into Jws all the time. I'm constantly looking over my shoulder if I'm in a store buying a b-day card. I want to openly celebrate xmas & holidays and not have to worry about a phone call or a door knocking or judicial actions. I don't want my kids to have to hide or shy away from school activities that are looked down on or forbidden. Which happened this year, my daughter was part of the school choir and they performed xmas carols at nursing homes and the local mall. I told her if anyJWs saw her it we'd be kicked out of the religion and it would cause many problems. What does that teach her? I don't want them living in fear! I do not want my children to develp a double life style complex. I'm tired of randomly being called on for congregation activities (although this rarely happens) but any contacts I may have tend to re-open traumas I've had.
I need to put this behind me and move on with my life! I've tried living low key-it's emotionally unhealthy and untrue to myself. Now if we could move away it may be another story. But there's no way that's possible.
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Pointers please in writing my letter of Disassociation!
by tremoka inwooohooo!
i've made my decision!
i'm doing it, can't live in limbo any longer.
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A few things I failed to mention.
My husband is an inactive JW who until this year believed in the 'truth' and that there was just something wrong with him. Then I bought him Crisis of Conscience and some other Mind control recovery stuff. It's been a HUGE healing for him.
It is HIS family that lives with us not mine. So I know this would stir up some major commotion in their relationship.
I could really use some thoughts and helpful guidance in this situation!
Cheers!
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Pointers please in writing my letter of Disassociation!
by tremoka inwooohooo!
i've made my decision!
i'm doing it, can't live in limbo any longer.
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WoooHooo! I've made my decision! I'm doing it, can't live in limbo any longer. It's not healthy for me, nor a good example for my children. PROBLEM. I have JW family who lives in an in law suite and I'm afraid of hurting them. I am afraid of stressing my husband out financially if they decide they can't live in the household and we loose their rent. (I know we'd be tight but I've got great business ideas for the space) I've told my husband what I need to do, he's supportive!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! He's also worried about business ties.
So, how do I go about doing this?
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My Magazine Presentation.
by ThomasCovenant ini remember back when i was a teenager that the following was my presentation on the doors for the mags.
i was not interested and wanted to get it over with as soon as possible.
that was said in one breath.
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Made my daughter do her first door when she was shy of 4. The lady took the magazines. Then my daughter started bawling, " Mommie the lady took my magazines from me!" The lady gave them back. " Oh I think she wants them more than I do!"
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What did YOU do to stay awake???
by TheCoolerKing inback when i was still a jw, i used to work night shift alot for my job.
this included saturday nights as well.
our kingdom hall had our sunday public talks in the morning and i always found it difficult to stay awake, especially after being up all night!
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It was nap time for my husband! I'd glance around the hall and oooooya I could pick out who the night workers were. It's very common. I had the kids to keep me awake.
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Remember we dress modestly when we get together!!!!
by tremoka ini've been inactive for a few years.
missed the past 2 memorials.
i've kinda faded out, haven't had much contact with anyone!
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Ohhhh I'm so glad I posted! You guys are all AMAZING! Excellent points here! I didn't even recognize the control factor in this call I was too busy feeling insulted that I didn't have the "right" judgement on how to dress.
HB- I feel like you, I trust No One.
Mrs. Jones- Unfortunately I'm on evening shift. Otherwise I'd be VERY tempted to go. I could have tonnes of fun planting little seeds here and there. Infact before I make my grand exit I plan on writing letters to a few of them.
Gopher-I never thought of them still having this control over me by not making a clean cut. Food for thought-thanks! When I shared your post with my hubby he could relate to it. He grew up with a large group of youth always elders meetings, always the elders kids that would be protected and he would be the 'fall' guy. Things would always be twisted and manipulated to protect the elders kids. He saw soooo much behind closed doors that should have been brought to the attention of a judicial committee. Yet he had the conscience that when he did anything wrong his first instinct would be to run to the elders. He's been df'd 2x. He hates the hypocrisy.
BigD-LMAO!!!!!!
FadingAway-This is the reason I left in the first place. Basing everything on appearances is so shallow, untrue to self and emotionally stunting. I want my kids to develop a sense of self and to be able to make the decisions they need for themselves rather than forcing them to hide and live a double lifestyle for the sake of "appearances". This is why I need to formally leave this religion ASAP. My hubby was bred a JW and I attribute most of his emotional baggage from the trauma he experienced growing up in the WT mindset. I can not do this to my children. It's amazing how quickly they pick up on the fallicy of it all. They see many of the other kids sneaking around or breaks in some of them confiding their TRUE feelings of being a JW. I feel sorry for so many of those kids. I seriously think they should have exit counsellors that specialize in children raised in mind control groups. I'd also like to see the school board intervene a little more, I believe that the JW lifestyle constitutes child neglect and abuse in many cases. I won't even get started with this. LOL
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We had a JW at the door today...how I handled it..
by megsmomma inmy first instinct was to tell him to go away and my husband was going to answer the door and i said, just tell him we are disfellowshipped.
(i am da'd....he hasn't ever been, but, he is "guilty by association" and conciders himself da'd too...).
so, it is one older man and he is handing out the "follow the christ" convention invitation.
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Excellent work! You definately planted some seeds there! No matter what 'trained' defense he gave the issues you brought up will make him think! It needs to be done, it's the only way. Especially when it's done out of compassion rather than anger. As I upset and angry as I am at many of them, I feel mostly sorry for them!
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Remember we dress modestly when we get together!!!!
by tremoka ini've been inactive for a few years.
missed the past 2 memorials.
i've kinda faded out, haven't had much contact with anyone!
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I've been inactive for a few years. Missed the past 2 memorials. I've kinda faded out, haven't had much contact with anyone!
So an invitation for a congregation party shows up in my mailbox. 2 sisters were to contact me about food and decorations. Never heard from anyone.
Tonight an elder called and left a message. He directed it to me not my husband or my family.
"I'm calling to confirm you recieved the invitation to our congregation party this Sunday. I'm making sure that EVERYONE in our congregation is invited. (hahaha even the nobodies like me LMAO) Remember we dress modestly at our gatherings so please ensure you are dressed in modesty. Hope to see you there."
How's that for a LOVING, ENCOURAGING, SUPPORTIVE call from someone I've not spoken with for YEARS. I wanted to call him right back and ask why he felt the need to remind me of modesty. My goodness check out all the immodest dress in his own KH or at DCs. Perhaps he called everyone to remind them of modesty! hahaha
Now I feel like going with my boobs and booty hanging out!!!!!
If it wasn't for my husbands family still in the religion I would have disassociated myself along time ago. I'm tired of dealing with crap like this. It's funny I'll be fine, I'm in the mending and healing process and then situations like this pop up and I'm very irritated again. I think I really need to cut off all ties and take the consequences with my husbands family. I can't do it anymore. I want to move on without having to look over my shoulder!
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Comments You Will Not Hear at the 7-30-06 WT Study (REMINDERS FOND)
by blondie inor what should we do if humans put their laws above god's?.
we should appreciate god's reminders.
(b) which episodes from the scriptures will be considered in this article?.
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Blondie,
Likewise, my garden has been my escape. :) This is my 1st year growing corn and it's been fun watching it grow with the kids. Although inactive for some time now, it is only recently that I've really been challenging the WTS. It's stressfull! My garden brings much needed relief.