Dear, frustrated
you poor dear, 3 years ago i was in the same situation, so i decided that for 6 months i would take the elders advice,
by the end of the six months, my family life was better, i got a great part time job, i made many new friends, and for the first time in 10 years i had accomplished something and was proud of myself,
besides the elders dont give advice from there opinions the speak from the bile.
and god says throw your burddens apon him and he will refresh you, i have many,many friends who also have been threw the same thing,
give advice thats always upbuilding, it shows compassion and love....