Posts by becca1

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American Idol

by J-ex-W in

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first guy...yea or nay?

becca1

Beat Box Guy and Chubby Guy With Glasses are the most talented and original.

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Do you like being a

by BiancaAustralia in

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im a elders daughter right so i was wondering if you the daughter like being an elders daughter?.

do you think it is a curse being a elders daughter?.

do you think being a elders daughter you get treated differentley?.

I'm an elders daughter. When I was little I think I people had pity for me. I think it was pretty obvious that I was being dragged around in an adult world and that I was an afterthought (at best) to my parents. In general, it did teach me a lot of how elders think and what motivates them.

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Thank you!

by lost_light06 in

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i've been a member on this board one year today.

i've grown from a confused jw, filled with feelings of inadequacy, to an ex-jw excited for my future of freedom from the grip of the wbts.

i dont post a lot, dont know many of you personally and still kind of feel like an outsider since im not well known by a lot of you but i do love this board and the people on it.

becca1

Great post! I agree completly.

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Today Is My Point of No Return - Or Is It?

by TheMan in

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almost every night, i would get a phone call from my book study overseer, asking how i was, where i was.

whereas witnesses, when they experience hard times, stop going to meetings?

of course, my wife and i want to leave the witnesses, and i don't want to offend anyone in the process.

becca1

With your wife being pregnant and then having a newborn, you have a great excuse for missing meetings. Send those thank you notes, continue to slide, let them gush over the baby a few times, and slip away... Like others already said, your going to be judged adversely for leaving no matter when or how you do it, so take advantage of the fact that you and your wife are "on the same page" and "get the heck outta Dodge".

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I Need Help

by Core88 in

hi, my name is corey, i live in indiana, so much to tell, allot of witness history.

i was a ms and regular pioneer for two years...got df'ed, don't know what to do or if i believe in god or not now...have had a few beers tonight, got mad at my gf.

corey

becca1

Hi core88 and welcome. Your sister's problems are all too common among witnesses. Be thankful she survived and she is in a mental facility know. Hopefully she will find the help she needs there. There is no shame in reachig out for help. For you and your girlfiend, you never mentioned that you love her. Maybe that's the issue? Dig inside for your true feelings. Don't enter into marrige for the wrong reasons. Just my "2cents".

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Active JW's on this forum

by winnie in

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having read posts over the last few months, i have come to the conclusion that there must be alot of 'active' jw's who still regularly attend meetings/field service etc.. don't you feel that by posting your many and varied topics, usually complaining/disagreeing with the wbts, that you are being hypocritical?

when you post your information, obtained sometimes in an questionable manner, doesn't it make you question your own underhanded actions?.

you converse with many on this forum who are disfellowshipped/dissasociated, yet if you knew who these ones were, face to face, you would not give them the time of day!

becca1

First: welcome to the newbies who've joined this thread.

Second: Frannie, I think you have taken a balanced view ot things and have "hit the nail on the head" with several of your comments.

Third: Winnie, I join those who have said they believe you are coming form a very painful place and are acting out accordingly. We all understand that. It's a stage we all go thru in the process of recovering from the damage inflicted upon us. I too was raised a witness so I know first hand how deeply we can be hurt.

All that being said, You have most certainly said some very judgemental and painful things. Though we understand where you are coming from, it still hurts.

Please try to understand that we all are dealing with the same issues but some have been hurt more deeply or have more to lose that others (I for one would lose children and grandchildren).Therefore, how each one choses to deal with their circumstances and their pain is up to them. We come here to be supported in our journey to recovery. We don't need to hear that our journey is flawed or that we've taken the wrong route. That just brings us back to the JW mentality of "we have the only truth and everyone else is wrong".

I wish you success in finding peace within yourself. Just remember that where there is anger and bitterness their is no peace.

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Dating Babylon's Fall

by Doug Mason in

how does the wts calculate that babylon fell in 539 bce?

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doug

becca1

The accept the same secular evidence that they reject pertaining to the destruction of Jerusalem.

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Daddy wont answer the phone when i call him anymore :(

by Messy in

i called my dad the other day crying and left a message saying daddy i need u pick up i need you and right in the middle, click my step mom (i m guessing) hung up on me.

i also emailed him pretending to be my husband several times and he always answered before, im so scared for him .

hes bi polar like my brother who died two years ago from suicide.