Posts by dobbie

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..Comfort Food..

by OUTLAW in

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you`ve just come down with a bad cold or you`ve got a terrible case of the flu..maybe you`ve been partying all night.you`ve just woken up.you feel like the cat crapped in your mouth and pulled your eye lids over your chin to bury it..lol!

!..what foods do you enjoy to comfort you,when your not feeling well?...outlaw

dobbie

That was a lovely way of putting it outlaw ha ha!

When i feel ill my husband makes his speciality (actually its the only thing he can cook) Volcano eruption he calls it!He cooks loads of peppery mashed potato and models it up on the plate into a huge volcano, then fills the top with baked beans which spill down the side - the lava-luckily i have been veggie for years and am used to beans etc otherwise after eating all the beans he uses there'd be a volcanic eruption of a different kind coming from me!

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HELP!!! I am new to this and not quite sure how to get started

by hambeak in

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i have 2 jw's coming every freaking saturday to my auto repair shop (going on for about 9 weeks now) trying to get me to come back into the organization.

any suggestions on how to let them down easily?

a lot of them are my customers.

dobbie

Hi hambeak depressed thing good idea but MAY backfire on you if you try it - will probably try to place the 'comfort for the depressed' tract on you, which will mean another return visit! I think some jws actually like people to be depressed cos they think it will make them more likely to listen to their 'good news' i know i was on antidepressents when i started studying - They dug out all sorts of awake articles on the subject.Hope you can sort it out there's nothing worse than feeling they're hounding you - i've left the answerphone phone on all day just in case they ring me up!

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September km- They're coming for you

by sspo in

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in sept. km under announcements, loving provision from jehovah, elders are being reminded to make the yearly visit to all those that have been df or da.. make sure you have some good coffee or a six pack for them.. treat them kindly and with respect, the gb is very much interested in all those that they kicked out.

dobbie

Have just seen number 10 in Blondie's post - i always thought relatives were allowed to talk to expelled family members and that the parents/children that ignore df'd da'd ones were just extremists. But now i can see it there in black and white from the wts themselves!Will have to show this to hubby he says if he left properly he'd be cut by his mother and i can see it now.Sorry to prattle on but i've never seen anything from the wts before about not associating with ex jw that are family members - evil twits.

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Nearly Lost my Son Yesterday

by XJW4EVR in

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i got a call from the ex, she was in tears, and said that our son was struck by car while riding his bike to work.

when i got to the er, he was lying there in the bed.

he was bruised & scratched.

dobbie

What a terrible thing for you all. It makes us realise how precious they are to us. My best wishes to you and also to your son for a speedy recovery.

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Serves me right

by dobbie in

last week i had to go to my allotment in the evening to pick some stuff for my dad.i went past the house i used to attend for thursday night book study, it was thursday night and when i saw all the cars parked outside for it, i just had a huge grin on my face cos i felt so free and happy not to be there, it was the meeting i dreaded most, i used to hate it!no one used to talk to us - even my mother in law would'nt say hello not even to her grandchildren!

(the only times she spoke were on two occasions which really surprised me until i realised it was because she wanted her youngest son to sleep at ours both times, so they could go away), anyway i got to the allotment which was awful cos my little ones did not want to be there, my eldest shut the door on my 18mth old so i went and left a big bucket of produce lying in the middle of the car park.

on the way back theres a lane with a part where only one car can get through so after checking no one was conimg the other way i stated to drive up it, nearly at the bit where its wider and a boy racer appears out of nowhere making me stop.bearing in mind he only had to reverse back one car length i waited for him to go back.the git and his girlfriend just stayed there laughing at me, i had the little ones and didn't want trouble so i started to reverse(which i just can't do!

dobbie

Arthur - lol!never thought of that, shes like that all the way through though so i don't think it will work in her case!I am having fun picturing me doing it to her though

Jwdaughter - yes i always try to keep my cool when driving - i get so many people trying to cut me up, pulling out on me at the last moment on roundabouts etc, i think i must have a sign on my car saying come and get me!Theres so much road rage nowadays i always avoid confrontation in case they decide to retaliate, having kiddies in the car would'nt stop them.

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Do you LONG to be disfellowshipped?

by nicolaou in

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question to all the inactives.

we all know why we try to do the 'slow fade' - family & friends - but be honest, don't you sometimes just wish that those bloody elders would get on with it and df you?

aren't you sick of the pretense that isn't really a pretense.

dobbie

I would rather they d'f me than me d'a, i think it will make me feel better about it, i know they don't announce it from platform anymore, which one it is but i still think its better that way cos i don't want to cut myself off from certain ones, but if d'fd they will cut me off first(though why the though of that seems better i can't explain!)I have reached the point where i am either in it or not, there is just one function in a few weeks i am having where i want jws to come to then i am going to live how i want and with so many jws at my boys school and in my husbands family it will only be a matter of time, so yes i have reached that point now where i am wanting them to do their worst, so i can get on with my life, and to be honest they'll probably be glad for me to go, i've been in and out for years.

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Serves me right

by dobbie in

last week i had to go to my allotment in the evening to pick some stuff for my dad.i went past the house i used to attend for thursday night book study, it was thursday night and when i saw all the cars parked outside for it, i just had a huge grin on my face cos i felt so free and happy not to be there, it was the meeting i dreaded most, i used to hate it!no one used to talk to us - even my mother in law would'nt say hello not even to her grandchildren!

(the only times she spoke were on two occasions which really surprised me until i realised it was because she wanted her youngest son to sleep at ours both times, so they could go away), anyway i got to the allotment which was awful cos my little ones did not want to be there, my eldest shut the door on my 18mth old so i went and left a big bucket of produce lying in the middle of the car park.

on the way back theres a lane with a part where only one car can get through so after checking no one was conimg the other way i stated to drive up it, nearly at the bit where its wider and a boy racer appears out of nowhere making me stop.bearing in mind he only had to reverse back one car length i waited for him to go back.the git and his girlfriend just stayed there laughing at me, i had the little ones and didn't want trouble so i started to reverse(which i just can't do!

dobbie

Last week i had to go to my allotment in the evening to pick some stuff for my dad.I went past the house i used to attend for thursday night book study, it was thursday night and when i saw all the cars parked outside for it, i just had a huge grin on my face cos i felt so free and happy not to be there, it was the meeting i dreaded most, i used to hate it!no one used to talk to us - even my mother in law would'nt say hello not even to her grandchildren!(the only times she spoke were on two occasions which really surprised me until i realised it was because she wanted her youngest son to sleep at ours both times, so they could go away), anyway i got to the allotment which was awful cos my little ones did not want to be there, my eldest shut the door on my 18mth old so i went and left a big bucket of produce lying in the middle of the car park. On the way back theres a lane with a part where only one car can get through so after checking no one was conimg the other way i stated to drive up it, nearly at the bit where its wider and a boy racer appears out of nowhere making me stop.Bearing in mind he only had to reverse back one car length i waited for him to go back.The git and his girlfriend just stayed there laughing at me, i had the little ones and didn't want trouble so i started to reverse(which i just can't do!) they drove me back laughing and mouthing at me until i felt so intimidated i ended up in the hedge!I was stuck cos they were on top of my car and i could'nt pull forward so i ended up reversing all the way back with the result that my little car is absolutely plastered with scratches.I was really shaken up why do these morons act like this especially with kids in the car?Anyway next day my dad had this brilliant stuff he polished in so it looks much better, but i did have to laugh cos i know what the jws would have said about it - serves you right, if you had been at the meeting it would'nt have happened!In all honesty though if i had to relive that experience would i rather had gone to the meeting?NO!(There are some very honest people about though cos when my stepdad went back to the allotment the bucket of spuds etc was still there, and they were delicious!)

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advice please

by miller in

i am not a jw and never have been.

actually i only just discovered what it really means to be a witness.

i grew up thinking it all rather harmless door-knocking and not having christmas, (which seemed pretty grim to a kid in itself) now, however, i have begun a relationship with a jw, well, an 'inactive' (i think you say) witness.

dobbie

Hi Miller do you know what i think the most important thing for your man is?Your support which he definately has.Sass ny frass has said what i was going to as well, try to get him to look at this site so he can see he's not alone, until i found it i really thought i was the only one having doubts.I am inactive and hubby too and for a couple of months now i have been suffering constant nausea from the worry of it all, wanting to leave the org but scared re armageddon and shunning etc, even my neighbour is a JW.The only things that help has been to regularly visit this site, reading the crisis of conscience book by R Franz (nearly finished) and the total support of my hubby who says i must do whatever i want to be happy.His family are jws and his mother and her hubby have as little to do with him as poss, the only reason he can't leave at present is because hes not ready to have them cut him out totally, which he is sure they'll do. Once you've been indoctrinated with all the rubbish its very hard to get it out of your head, i have to remind myself that i never thought i'd be good enough to get through armageddon anyway. I do know though what a great support it is to have ones that you can freely talk to about it and for them to listen to you, i'd have gone nuts by now with the worry of it all if it was'nt for my husband and this site. Good luck to you both.x

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Ever ask an elder why there are two gods described in the Bible?

by free2beme in

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face it, there is one very true statement that can be said about the bible.

that is, that there are two completely different gods described.

the old testament, is talking about a angry, vengeful and wrathful god.

dobbie

This is something i can't understand, why God would kill even innocent ones - he wiped out Jobs childrens just so basically he could stick his tongue out at Satan - but the jws say it doesn't matter, he replaced them with more and they'll get a resurrection - bit like wts and blood, don't worry if your child dies you can always have another, and they'll get a resurrection!Makes me feel

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Are things really worse now?

by NikL in

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this morning amidst the news of the possible terrorist attack involving planes from the

i told her that nothing happened.

she of course pointed out that this time it didnt but maybe next time.

dobbie

I'm sure there was a post on here somewhere going back to different times when such things were being said, hundreds of years ago.Just wish i could find it again cos i want to read it again myself!