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6Hubby's been sent an invite to see the elders at the hall - my fault!
by dobbie ini posted the other day about being called on when i'm d'ad and that the elder refused to leave when i asked as i am not the head of the house!
so i wrote a letter saying what had happened and not to call again or i'd seek further action, i also got hubby (as head of the house lol) to sign it and sent a copy to the main branch as well.. we got a very polite reply this week saying that of course they'd 'respect' my wishes but wish to ascertain if hubby still wants to be a jw and have sent him an 'invitation' to join them one night next week!otherwise he can send in a d'a letter if he wishes!.
so far he's done nothing about it though i have talked him out of going, but if he doesn't send the letter or turn up will they automatically take that as him d'aing himself?just wondering if any ex elders here know as i think i ought to warn him in advance.
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Finally given in - going to have counselling!
by dobbie inwent to the docs today, have finally accepted that i need help getting over (or accepting) some of the huge guilt i have for things in the past.
i persuaded hubby to have it last yr and it has helped him so much that i am going to try it.
am very nervous as not one to talk about things with strangers but if it gets good results and makes me (and then my family) happy then it is worth it.
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Is there any one thing you DID like about the witnesses?
by dobbie inok so obviously there's more bad than good(slight understatement i know!
) but is there anything you did enjoy about the religion?
just wondering cos i asked myself that question and the only thing i can think of (and it seems a bit materialistic to me lol) is that i could dress up in nice clothes and see men in suits!
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Can i just ask about the public and non public watchtowers..
by dobbie infor those of you that know, is there any difference between the two?i haven't been here for a few months and wondered if the public wt is tolerant and friendly than the witnesses one,and if the witnesses one was more hardline, covering the more controversial things?would just be really interested to find out if the public one has articles more designed to catch householders out, without putting anything in them that could put them off ie discipline (shunning) or blood etc.
thanks!
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where can i find address of jws London headquarters please?
by dobbie inits ridgeway nw7 1rn,methinks
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ok does this letter to congregation sound ok?
by dobbie infollowing on again from my posts re elder not leaving wheni asked etc i am sending a letter to the elders about it and saying not tocall.
could you cast your peepers over it please and let me know what you think?of course they may d'f hubby if i get him to sign it also but its what hes waiting for so than won't matter!.
this week (elders name) called on our house whilst 'working' our street, despite our having a sign stating 'no religious callers' that he has seen before.. i asked him politely to put his bible away in view of this, he rufused as i am "not the head of the house".
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Can you threaten jws with getting police if they don't keep away?
by dobbie infollowing on from my post re elder relative (hubbys) refusing to put his bible away and leave when i have a no religious callers sign up as he knows plus i am d'ad i am going to write to the congregation from us both andsay what happenned and not to call or itwill be trespassing and i will take further action.
does anyone know if i could takefurther action/police etc orwould this justbe an empty threat?
just wantto make sure they bog off and stop doing this to us, thanks!
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Just had jw elder at door and he wouldn't leave when i asked him to! lol
by dobbie ini am so laughing my head off and want to thank jwd for giving me the strength to leave the jws and for standing up to them (i am a quiet mouse usually!).
the jws next door had the field service meeting and i told hubby(inactive ) that they'd gone so he could cut the grass, but i was wrong and as soon as he went out they all piled out of the house lol!they tried to say hello but he shunned them as he hates the way they ignore me (d'ad) esp his family.
then while he was talking to our other neighbour i saw his step father (who is a big bully and called me a murderer when i said i wasnt sure if i wanted to be a jw anymoreand my kids would be killed because of me which really hurt me) so he arranged to work our road i know just so he can get hold of hubby.. anyway hubby was hiding in the house and tried to make me see them (again) but i made him do it, hoping he'd just tell them hes not interested.
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If you are thinking of counselling and unsure ..try it!
by dobbie inmay seem a strange topic but i know (myself included) that sometimes we feel like we have no one to openly talk to, we are full of anger, hate, sadness etc at how we have/are being treated by loved ones, until the pain gets too much.
there may come a point that you think about getting professional help but are unsure maybe because of not knowing what to expect, that it might make you worse not better, that you couldn't talk to a stranger etc.
just wanted to let you know my hubbys experience so far.
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Will they disfellowship or not - cast your bets here!
by dobbie inso someone in my hubbys family who has been shunning me and i have not been able to see her kids etc and said it was my choice to leave so i must accept the consequences etc has been caught out.
she's had three affairs over the last two years, with both sexes plus watching porn sex toys etc .
anyway its her final jc meeting tonight, so do you reckon (and she has told them she can't say it definately won't happen again!
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