Glad you are back home now, nothing like being in your own house. Take care
Posts by dobbie
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192UPDATE ON DANSK
by Physio init's been a long time since i posted here but i often read your messages when ian (dansk) logs on.
as most of you will know, ian will be going back into hospital on monday for an allogeneic stem cell transplant and will be away from the forum for a good few weeks (hopefully he'll be back home within 4-6 weeks).
last time he was in hospital many of you sent messages to his ward and i know they cheered him up immensely.
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Can i have some advice re fading hubby please?
by dobbie inbasically i di'ad last year and at first hubby was petrified and was more like a jw apologist than a supportive spouse.
however this year esp the last few months, where even his own mother has told him she won't set foot in our door even to see her grandchildren he is v v disgusted with the religion.
the problem we have tbh is moving on properly and i know what it is, he doesn't believe it anymore, yet he says shes still his mother even though shes never been good to him and he knows she's totally cut him out if he left (she only v seldomly texts or rings him if she wants something).
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dobbie
Basically i di'ad last year and at first hubby was petrified and was more like a jw apologist than a supportive spouse. However this year esp the last few months, where even his own mother has told him she won't set foot in our door even to see her grandchildren he is v v disgusted with the religion.
The problem we have tbh is moving on properly and i know what it is, he doesn't believe it anymore, yet he says shes still his mother even though shes never been good to him and he knows she's totally cut him out if he left (she only v seldomly texts or rings him if she wants something). This is a mother who abandoned her 2 yr old son and left him alone for hours til her husband got home, then after hubs dad was given custody she got drunk took her kit off and fell to the floor in front of her 2 boys and said she was prostrate and she'd kill herself if they didn't tell the judge they wanted to live with her - the first judge said they were better off with dad but it was appealed and the 2nd one said he was catholic and as hubs dad had no religion and his mother was a jw she should have the kids (unfortunately dads girlfriend was catholic but they thought they'd stand a better chance if they didn't mention religion. And of course they wanted to live with her after waht she did (they were older then obviously) even though the judge didn't believe the 2 boys.
Anyway sorry to go on,i know he doesn't want to be in it, hes disgusted by the shunning and esp the paedophile that was let off recently but is not interested in Bible or doctrines as he never understood half of it and never studied. But he's at a place where i was and i wish i could help him make the final step and leave properly as its just hanging over his head waiting for them to contact him again. I probably sound selfish but i know he can move on and get on with life he would have so much support from my and his non jw family. Its all because of his nasty mother who has never had a good word for him!He is better off without her, she is toxic waste.
Has anyone got any ideas on how to help him from here?I haven't pushed him over taking the plunge and leaving as i feel its up to him, but i'd like to help nudge him in the right direction!Any advice anyone?
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Why use the word apostate?
by greendawn inwhy should we define ourselves by what the fds defines us?
our enemies who seek emotional control over us even after we left their destructive cult have invested a lot of effort to demonize us with the word apostate and when we use the term ourselves we do their work for them.
most so called apostates simply thought about things deeply and came up with many questions that the jws instead of answering in a logical manner labelled these inquiring minds as demon inspired apostates doubting the god appointed fds and expelled them from their org.
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dobbie
If thats what they want to call me its fine by me, but in actual fact i tell hubby that they are the apostates and i can't wait for them to start chasing him up again so i can say 'sorry but i don't speak to evil apostates'!
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Departing for just a little while
by LearningToFly inyou all have been such a great source of validation to me for the reasons i left the cult.
yes.. i do call it a cult now.. i didnt before coming here.
much healing has taken place in my personal life with this recognition.
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dobbie
Take care LTF we will miss your posts for now, sometimes a break is the best thing for a while, it can suddenly become over whelming coming here so often, at one point i'd be up half the night reading past posts and i was like a zombie! All the best Debbie
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Say Hi to MrsRoller!
by mrsroller inmy name is becky aka mrsroller.
i call myself that because the notorious rollerdave is my hubby.
i met dave when he was in his early thirties and it had only been a few years since he had left the jw's.
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dobbie
Hello MrsRoller and welcome!
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dobbie
Pintail on the average jw i think they will just think what they are told to, that she is obviously a lying apostate!
Can't remember on which of her videos it was now but i scrolled down to read the comments and one of them was on there saying she deserved that to have happened to her! (shunning) !Heartless g*ts!
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Lol Hubby's gonna get drunk as a skunk...
by dobbie inand i really don't care!!!
his dads coming up and they are having a real ale steam train trip combined with a pub crawl, last time his dad drank 32 pints!
!but i realised that this time i'm so free from the wt influence i hope they have a great time, get totally sloshed and can't wait to see them staggering home!
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dobbie
'Can i come' Lol WT of course you can!If you think you can get here by 8am tomorrow morning!
Danny that's up to them if they want to drown themselves with drink!I'm not going, can't drink at the moment though hubby has bought me some pear cider so i don't feel too left out lol
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Was there a recent post about jw kids not mixing with worldly ones?
by dobbie inor did i imagine it?i'm sure i saw this recently, that in one of the upcoming mags they were saying about after school activites and only associating with 'worldly' kids in school and not outside, but i can't find it anywhere!does anybody remember this only i wanted to mention it on another website where someone's asking re jws and having friends and i wanted to 'enlighten' them!
thanks
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dobbie
Well i was sure i had, but i'm starting to wonder if i dreamt it now lol cos i can't find it!
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Father Ted...
by avishai inwho else likes this show?
i just recently discovered it and think it's the funniest thing ever!!.
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dobbie
Was it the chap who played Father Ted that died i think, he wasn't very old poor bloke.
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Was there a recent post about jw kids not mixing with worldly ones?
by dobbie inor did i imagine it?i'm sure i saw this recently, that in one of the upcoming mags they were saying about after school activites and only associating with 'worldly' kids in school and not outside, but i can't find it anywhere!does anybody remember this only i wanted to mention it on another website where someone's asking re jws and having friends and i wanted to 'enlighten' them!
thanks
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dobbie
Or did i imagine it?I'm sure i saw this recently, that in one of the upcoming mags they were saying about after school activites and only associating with 'worldly' kids in school and not outside, but i can't find it anywhere!Does anybody remember this only i wanted to mention it on another website where someone's asking re jws and having friends and i wanted to 'enlighten' them! Thanks