Posts by dobbie

elders who will not make shepherding calls to comfort their brothers and sisters but as soon as that brother or sister puts one little foot out of line those same f-----g (sorry about the language but it really angers me ) elders can not move fast enough to form a judicial committee and then are so unmerciful - it makes me want to vomit literally

dobbie

Nothing angers me personally anymore as i've gone past the stage i was at where iwas so full of rage at them all. It saddens me though to think of all those bringing their kiddies up in it, and the fear of not being able to leave because of the shunning, if i were to feel anger at any of them it would mainly be to the ones at the 'top' like the gb or elders etc who make the rules and implement them, tho i'm sure half of them just go along with it and know its not right ie blood etc

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You know that monster

by John Doe in

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that lived/lives under your bed when you were a kid?

the one you were afraid was going to grab your feet when you got up?

what was his name?

dobbie

Do you know i still don't hang my arms or feet off the edge of the bed, even though i've now got one with built in drawers so nothing could get under my bed lol! Mind you i had a wardrobe monster as well, i have to make sure the doors are shut at night!No wonder i'm a bad sleeper lol

If you are thinking of counselling and unsure ..try it!

by dobbie in

may seem a strange topic but i know (myself included) that sometimes we feel like we have no one to openly talk to, we are full of anger, hate, sadness etc at how we have/are being treated by loved ones, until the pain gets too much.

there may come a point that you think about getting professional help but are unsure maybe because of not knowing what to expect, that it might make you worse not better, that you couldn't talk to a stranger etc.

just wanted to let you know my hubbys experience so far.

dobbie

May seem a strange topic but i know (myself included) that sometimes we feel like we have no one to openly talk to, we are full of anger, hate, sadness etc at how we have/are being treated by loved ones, until the pain gets too much. There may come a point that you think about getting professional help but are unsure maybe because of not knowing what to expect, that it might make you worse not better, that you couldn't talk to a stranger etc. Just wanted to let you know my hubbys experience so far. The anger and hurt he had been feeling at our treatment by friends and family got to such a point that he just couldn't function anymore, all he did was shout at home andsit looking at the wall, at work it got so bad he failed important tests and was in danger of being removed from his safety critical position, he shook constantly and couldn't sleep, stopped laughing and was not the man i knew.

I persuaded him to see his dr who, after signing him off work for his depression, (off for four months in all) and putting him on anti depressants, after a while he sent him to the counsellor. Although he didn't want to go and was really nervous he was so glad he went, she spoke to him of all aspects of his life, didn't ask any awkward or embarrassing questions but whatever he spoke about gave him a different way of looking at these things. He has been 6 times now and hopefully won't need to go anymore but it has helped him so much as he would not burdenme with his feelings (daft i know!) and it has proved a much needed outlet for his feelings and he says it really helps tospeak to someone unbiased and inconnected with it all. He is nearly back to normal and is being daft again like he used to be.

Yes the problems still there, but he has accepted things much better now and can shrug his shoulders at them. Just wanted to say it really is worth a shot, it may not be right for everyone but you won't know unless you try so if you are thinking about it and wondering please go for it! x

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I'm on Face Book now:)

by White Dove in

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please send luck my way.

i'm swimming into uncharted waters with tons of technology that scares the s*** out of me!

just follow my avatar and jwd site with over 120 people from here in the group and i'll be there.. it's so new to me.

dobbie

Hi WD, i'm not very good at that sort of thing either, am on facebook but still learning and trying to understand half of it lol!Have joined JWD group there can just about manage that lol!I think its a better way of keeping in touch than by email and more fun! Sent you an add Dobbie

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First Time Blood Donor

by AudeSapere in

there is a blood drive at work this coming tuesday.. i'm scheduled for 10:00am and this will be my first donation.

does anyone have any suggestions to make it successful?.

i volunteered about 2 years ago but got sick the day before and so i was declined.

dobbie

Let us know how you get on! This is something i want to do but have to wait until my baby is 9 months apparently they won't accept me before then! Am not sure what to expect either but want to do it to say a big thanks and give something back because one of my kiddies would have died if it hadn't been for the transfusions they had. Sounds daft but it will make me feel freer from the jws as well, like taking a huge step away from them and that awful blood doctrine. Enjoy your free cup of tea and biscuit!

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Mother Pregnant With 18th Child

by snowbird in

there were 13 of us - one baby girl died in infancy, however.. here's the link: http://www.msnbc.msn.com/id/24537885&gt1=43001.

sylvia.

dobbie

I admit i would have liked a bigger family(not 18 though!) but have been advised to stop at no 3, but although i stay at home i struggle now to give each child the time and attention i'd liked to, the washing machine is constantly on the go now, i dread to think what it would be like with 18 kids!

I wonder why they've name all the children with names beginning with 'J', i'd totally get all their names mixed up if i did that, two of mine have similar names and i always call them by the wrong one! (of course that could be an age thing!)

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As A Former JW, Do You Feel You Should "Apologize" For Past Actions?

by minimus in

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do you believe that you should now apologize for whatever actions you made when you were a witness?.

do you think that if you were an elder that you should contact those that might've felt oppressed by you and your "theocratic" actions?.

if you were a zealous preacher, do you now feel you should go back to your former bible students and tell them the error of your ways?.

dobbie

Well i have apologised to my closest family (non jws) for being a jw all those yrs and missingout on all the celebrations, not participating in things etc, i feel bad about alot of things but its only now that i have moved on from it all and have got over it all,shunning etc that i have said sorry and spoken about it all, mainly to my mum. Some of it was unforgivable and i can't change it so i have to carry on and make the best of my time and be there for others to try and feel i am making some amends however small.

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Will they disfellowship or not - cast your bets here!

by dobbie in

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so someone in my hubbys family who has been shunning me and i have not been able to see her kids etc and said it was my choice to leave so i must accept the consequences etc has been caught out.

she's had three affairs over the last two years, with both sexes plus watching porn sex toys etc .

anyway its her final jc meeting tonight, so do you reckon (and she has told them she can't say it definately won't happen again!

dobbie

Well i went up and spoke to her today as she looked pretty rough and ended up talking things over. I thought she is going to find it hard to leave and i know what it feels like so she might be glad of some support if its needed. She is going to take a break from the religion and see how she feels after a while, she is also going to research it to see that she does believe it for her own sake not just cos she was brought up in it - i'm just hoping she doesn't come here now and see all my bitter rantings lol but then i have been so mad at the whole lot of jws i can't help it!