omg that was so funny i was snorting like a piggy!
Posts by dobbie
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Hubby's been sent an invite to see the elders at the hall - my fault!
by dobbie ini posted the other day about being called on when i'm d'ad and that the elder refused to leave when i asked as i am not the head of the house!
so i wrote a letter saying what had happened and not to call again or i'd seek further action, i also got hubby (as head of the house lol) to sign it and sent a copy to the main branch as well.. we got a very polite reply this week saying that of course they'd 'respect' my wishes but wish to ascertain if hubby still wants to be a jw and have sent him an 'invitation' to join them one night next week!otherwise he can send in a d'a letter if he wishes!.
so far he's done nothing about it though i have talked him out of going, but if he doesn't send the letter or turn up will they automatically take that as him d'aing himself?just wondering if any ex elders here know as i think i ought to warn him in advance.
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dobbie
I posted the other day about being called on when i'm d'ad and that the elder refused to leave when i asked as i am not the head of the house! So i wrote a letter saying what had happened and not to call again or i'd seek further action, i also got hubby (as head of the house lol) to sign it and sent a copy to the main branch as well.
We got a very polite reply this week saying that of course they'd 'respect' my wishes but wish to ascertain if hubby still wants to be a jw and have sent him an 'invitation' to join them one night next week!Otherwise he can send in a d'a letter if he wishes!
So far he's done nothing about it though i have talked him out of going, but if he doesn't send the letter or turn up will they automatically take that as him d'aing himself?Just wondering if any ex elders here know as i think i ought to warn him in advance. I feel a bit bad as if i hadn't got him to sign the letter they wouldn'tbe chasing him now (on the other hand i admit it would be good for him to leave and let us get on with our lives!)
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Finally given in - going to have counselling!
by dobbie inwent to the docs today, have finally accepted that i need help getting over (or accepting) some of the huge guilt i have for things in the past.
i persuaded hubby to have it last yr and it has helped him so much that i am going to try it.
am very nervous as not one to talk about things with strangers but if it gets good results and makes me (and then my family) happy then it is worth it.
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Choosing Life - Well over here my dr refers me and i can have it on the NHS, 6 initial sessions but can have more if counsellor thinks its needed. Hubby had 9 now. So very luckily for me cos my drs surgery has its own counsellor i don't have to pay. Otherwise tbh i couldn't afford it either.
Danielp - yes thats what hubby says that at first he didn't know what they could talk about but then he found he couldn't stop talking!
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Finally given in - going to have counselling!
by dobbie inwent to the docs today, have finally accepted that i need help getting over (or accepting) some of the huge guilt i have for things in the past.
i persuaded hubby to have it last yr and it has helped him so much that i am going to try it.
am very nervous as not one to talk about things with strangers but if it gets good results and makes me (and then my family) happy then it is worth it.
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dobbie
thanks Mickey Mouse, Shamus100 and Avishai, i was offered it about 16 months ago but thought i could do without as i have a great non jw family on my side who have been so supportive, plus of course this site has been great and CAIC site but i find i am going along just fine and something happens or someone says something and i turn into a snappy and emotional wreck and it brings things up again. This lady i will be seeing has not only helped hubby be calmer about things but has experience with other people from religions they've left too so she has some experience in this field. Hopefully i will learn finally to look at my glass as half full rather than half empty!It's good to know you have had positive experiences of it. x
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Finally given in - going to have counselling!
by dobbie inwent to the docs today, have finally accepted that i need help getting over (or accepting) some of the huge guilt i have for things in the past.
i persuaded hubby to have it last yr and it has helped him so much that i am going to try it.
am very nervous as not one to talk about things with strangers but if it gets good results and makes me (and then my family) happy then it is worth it.
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Went to the docs today, have finally accepted that i need help getting over (or accepting) some of the huge guilt i have for things in the past. I persuaded hubby to have it last yr and it has helped him so much that i am going to try it. Am very nervous as not one to talk about things with strangers but if it gets good results and makes me (and then my family) happy then it is worth it. Just wondering has anyone else had it and found it to be beneficial (or not)?
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Never Believed in the Resurrection Hope - Nor the Witnesses Crazy Ideas
by flipper ini will list a number of my doubts on this subject as it was one teaching that pissed me off - as i feel it caused jehovah's witnesses not to mourn properly at funerals and show authentic compassion to others - as well as held out false hope for a " fantasyland " paradise .
these reasons i list here actually were and are taught by jehovah's witnesses as fact !
listen to how bizarre this sounds.
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dobbie
I used to go because i hoped if it was true my family would get through but i never thought for a moment that if itwere true that i would get through, i couldn't believe that.
It used to annoy me when they'd speculate on life after armageddon, i thought it would be terrible never to have little babies or children around, others would say well there might be, thats why the other planets were created so when earths full some can go on andprocreate on the other planets too! OMG!
I used to think how awful it would be as well sharing the planet with the same ones for eternity, how boring and annoying would that be lol!
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My Draft DA Letter - What do you think?
by daniel-p indear family and friends,.
this is one of the hardest things ive ever written.
please forgive me for the brevity, but its essential for the clarity that this most emotional topic deserves.
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dobbie
I think its a great letter and similar to the one i sent in that i made sure it was polite and to the point. Whatever you have written, if it feels right to you then send it in. I was much happier d'aing than being constantly hounded and waiting for them to d'f me, i felt i could walk away with my head held high. Hubby is now in a similar situation so if you don't mind i may use some of your letter in the one we write for him! Good on you, it is a massively gutsy decision, (but personally i'd do it again tomorrow it was the right step for me).Good luck!
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It's my birthday today!!!!!
by LunaFing intoday i turn 25!
my friends are throwing me a party.
this is the first time that anyone has thrown me a party.
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dobbie
Happy 25th! Have a GREAT party!
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Mothers of any age what is your opinion....?
by restrangled inthis is not based on polictics.
it is based on what you would personally do in a specific circumstance.
please do not base your answer on a democratic or republican response.
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dobbie
I've always gone straight to the hospital with my pregnancy problems, with my last, i woke to find i'd wet the bed and he was 4 wks early, i thought i'd be sent home but it was my waters and i had to have another emergency c section. Hospitals would always rather you went in if your'e worried even if its a false emergency, if i hadn't gone by instinct with my first (after the doctor said everything was fine) and gone to the hospital for a check up he would have died in the womb. Better to be safe than sorry.
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For Those Who Donate Blood: Do You Feel It's Your Duty
by Nosferatu intoday, i decided to go donate blood for the second time ever.
it's really weird.
i don't normally volunteer for anything, but i happily volunteer to donate blood.
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dobbie
I can't give blood til my babys 9 months apparently but am going do, its my next goal. I want to do it because my other son wouldn't be here if it wasn't for the few teaspoons of blood he had when born early, it won't take my guilt away, nothing will, but if i can make a difference to someone like the person that donated the blood he received it would be fantastic.