Posts by LisaRose

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I need help, friendly suggestions, or a shoulder to cry on...

by FreedomFrog in

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friends

ok, here's the situation.. i have no friends that live close to me and i'm up to my eyeballs in bills.

i have applied to a few jobs that could potentially help me turn things around.

the things is, because i don't have parents/friends or any other people in my life.... 1. how do i get a babysitter when i have to go on the interviews?.

LisaRose

Could you try and find another mother that you could trade babysitting with? Don't be shy, check around, ask everybody you know, get the word out. Sorry for your tough time, hope things get better.

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Feng Shui Anyone?

by snarf in

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friends

i am trying a new aproach on life while entering my mid 30's.

i want a more peaceful environment, less stuff to work around, etc.

anyone try this in their homes?

I have a book on it and done a few things. I'm not totally conviced of the validity, but find it interesting. The funny thing was I read that I should put the picture of a person I admire in the fame area of the house. I had an Oprah Winfrey magazine so I placed it there, since I admire her. A few days later a neighbor called me and asked, "Did you know you were famous?". It turned out my picture was in a newsletter that goes out to all the residents in my area. I was dressed in my "flower Fairy" outfit at the Pumkin Fest a few years ago, and they used that picture in a retrospective of the activities center. Of cource I'm not really famous, I just thought it was interesting she used that term. FFF (famous flower fairy).

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Pulling The TriggerThe Watchtower's Discipline

by The wanderer in

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pulling the triggerthe watchtower's discipline *disclaimer: .

the approach of this topic requires that you temporarily disconnect your emotions.

connected to the watchtower society and view this case from a different perspective.. the perspective of the thread.

LisaRose

I feel I learned self-dicipline and some moral structure from the dubs. However in the long run it held me back in so many ways and limited my life and choices. Having left the organization, I am a much happier, more self-evolved person with many more interests, and I am no less moral and diciplined. Just saying the org provided dicipline doesn't really say all that much IMHO. The Natzi's were diciplined also.

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Lurking behaviour explained

by rose petal in

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hi all, as a librarian i get all sorts of stuff across my desk.

here's something that i thought would explain all the lurkers out there!

sorry the formatting and links did not transfer across.

LisaRose

From one rose to another - I am in the 9% category, just don't have the time to contribute regularly. Ahh for the days when I had a corporate job and could cruise on the internet for hours a day!!! I also think there are more lurkers here because the Watchtower has brainwashed so many people into thinking anything other than official party line is evil, apostate and dangerous. So they may feel unconfortable posting, espcially at first. It takes time for the mind control to loosen. I was out 7 years before I even went online to do research.

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As Time Goes By - Do they all begin to look alike to you?

by AK - Jeff in

i mean, religions.. while i am far from being anti-religious, organized religion, especially of the more 'fundamental' sort, is all beginning to blend into the same puddle for me.

i have not given up on god, or spirituality, and in fact still consider myself christian.

i just don't feel any desire at this point to participate in the formal nature of religious groups at all.

LisaRose

Yeah, they all look alike to me. I still believe in God, I feel I have a spiritual side and I have deloped my own sense of morality. I don't need to go to a building to express that.

This sums it up for me.

"The kiss of the sun for pardon, the song of the birds for mirth, one is nearer God's heart in a garden than anywhere else on earth"

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Newbies - Give us your stories....

by AK - Jeff in

most of old posters have hashed and re-hashed our backgrounds, history, and method of discovering the 'truth about the truth'.. your turn newbies!.

those who are lurking without the benefit of registration - it only takes a minute, and you too can give us your stories!.

those registered lurkers - what holds you back?

LisaRose

Thank you all for sharing your stories. I can relate to all of them. We all took different ways and timeframes but all came to the same end result. Keep it coming.

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meditation: your thoughts? :)

by DeusMauzzim in

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friends

the wtbts always has meditation as a topic on conventions.

they always state that eastern meditation makes the mind "blank", so this is a no no.. of course we know that it is actually the convention that makes the mind blank :).

so what are your thoughts on meditation now?.

LisaRose

I try to meditate every day. It has been helpful with pain from fibromyalgia and also helps me keep focused. I laugh when I think how I avoiced this practice due to the Wachtowers stupid thinking.

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Buying High end Appliances,...worse than the standard!..don't bother!

by restrangled in

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i have had to buy appliances for 2 homes....don't ask!

with the first i bought midrange and the best refrigerator out there leaving it to the new buyers.

(french door refrigerator) i loved it, but it was too big for our latest digs.. spent over $7000.00.....which my my mom got credit for.......she spouted who cares, yet she got top dollar for her condo because of all the appliances we replaced and included.. for my home i purchased a $1000.00 german stove, (bosch...a floor model that was much more expensive) .... which as been a major pain in the a##.

LisaRose

I have had the same experience with coffee makers. I've had every brand and price range and none lasted more than a year. I've gone back to a cheap Mr. Coffee as I feel the simpler the less there is to go wrong. And if it does, I can toss it and buy an new one.

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Out of the Family...

by saywhat29 in

literally and figuratively.... if you don't know my story, its the basic "i'm gay and from a family of jws" and lately it hasn't been going well.

i'm still saving up to move out, but that "meeting" i was suppose to have with the elders is scheduled tonight.

it was scheduled tuesday night but i dodged that bitch hard.

LisaRose

((Hug)). As a mom and former JW I can *sort of* understand your mom's pain. But you know you are what you are. If she wanted you to have brown eyes and they were instead blue, all her nagging and guilt trips wouldn't make bit of difference, you can't make youself be hetero anymore than you can change the color of your eyes. Hopefully she'll come to terms with it all, but if not, you'll be OK. Even tho you know it's not the truth, the JW Brainwashing is still operating (Being gay is a choice!!! Gays are all promiscious!! What crap!!!) and making you conflicted. It will fade in time. Hang in there sweetie.

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Did you ever end a relationship because you were a JW?

by TheCoolerKing in

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friends

a few years before i left the jws for good, i broke off a relationship with my worldly girlfriend.

we were in love, but i ended it because i felt guilty and wanted to be a good dub.

then about three years after we broke up, i left the org.

LisaRose

I met my soulmate in High School but wouldn't date him because he wasn't JW. Fortunately we reconnected - 30 years later - and are now happily married.