Your husband is an alcoholic, I don't think there is a marriage to save, he is married to the bottle. Time to kick him to the curb and get on with your life. He sounds like my first husband. I stuck it out for 28 years, mostly because I was JW and thought I was stuck. Leaving him was the best thing I ever did in my life. I had gotten so used to it I didn't realize how much it was affecting me. He wasn't evil, just a self centered user who didn't know how to play well in the sandbox. I did everything, cooking, cleaning, laundry, even though I worked full time. He never said anything nice, we were basically roommates, we didn't even watch TV together. He holed up in his den with his beer, tv and computer, that was his life.
So finally I get up the courage to get a divorce and he is moving out. He had given me the flu and I was really sick the day he left. I am laying there with a temp of 103 and he comes up to me and says "there are no clean towels!". I lifted my head andjust looked at him. So he says "what will I use this dry myself off with?". That's how big of a baby he was, and it was partially my fault because I stayed and took it, and didn't demand he be better (good little JW wife I was). He never owned up to anything, it was all someone else's fault. I married someone else, so he refers to me (to our children) as "your mother, the whore", classy, right? They can't stand him either. Don't waste another minute on this loser.