Although it is seldom used these days, referring to a married woman in this way was considered proper etiquette, it wasn't something the society made up. I think I was referred to this way once or twice when I was first married, It never seemed right, I have my own name, thank you very much. My sister got divorced and remarried. She didn't like her husband's last name, didn't want to keep using her ex husband's name, so they picked out a new last name together, sort of randomly, by sticking a pin in a map of India, it was the name of a town.
LisaRose
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What are married women called who attend pioneer school?
by usualusername inmany many many years ago i attended the pioneer and have just recalled that the married sisters were listed on paper as mr jane doe (mrs) or something peculiar like that.. .
is that custom still followed?.
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40 Furry, Tiny, Sweet and Adorable Baby Animals. Guaranteed to brighten your day!
by ohiocowboy inif you are looking for a cuteness overload, here's a link to 40 pictures of baby animals.
enjoy!!!.
http://www.flabber.nl/linkdump/plaatjes/daily-cute-40-absurd-schattige-babydiertjes-13870.
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LisaRose
Thank you, that did brighten my day. Why is it that the baby version of ugly animals are even cute? There is a website that has similar pictures, part of the Cheezeburger group that does LOL cats. it's http://icanhas.cheezburger.com/squee
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What brought you here?
by leaving_quietly infolks here all have one thing in common: they are somehow associated with jws, either were one, are married to one, have a relative who is one, has a romantic interest in one, are are currently one.
perhaps you are not one, but something about jws bugs you enough to have found this forum, and read it and contribute to it.
what brought you here?
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LisaRose
Leaving_ quietly, I was in a similar situation, except my husband was disfellowshipped. I left the religion, as I had reached my breaking point, I just couldn't believe a God of love would wish me to suffer like that, I was married 28 years, none of them happy. I feel that divorce (without "scriptural" grounds) May be a sin, but is it so bad one needs to be disfellowshipped? Did not Jesus say let he who is without sin cast the first stone? Isn't cutting a person off from family and friends almost as bad as stoning? Why cannot there be forgiveness? Divorce is not to be taken lightly, but why does it have to ruin your life?
I left, and for good measure married another (I know, what a hussy I was!). In fact, I lived in sin until the divorce was final, in for a penny, in for a pound as the Brits would say. I didn't even feel guilty. I married the guy I wouldn't date in high school because he wasn't a dub, who wrote in my yearbook that maybe in some other time and place we would be together. We have been together 12 years now. Anyhoo, I was doing well, but after 8 years the fear of apostates wore off and I got curious. No one in my new life knew anything about this religion. I was happy to find kindred spirits, there were other people who hated the Watchtower as much as me! Such a relief to talk about the things only a former dub would understand. Who else would get the Smurf reference? I may leave for a few years, then check in to see what is going on in the Watchtower world.
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Its been a long time since i last posted, but life is being rough again
by akafreelife init has been a long time since i was on here and life has gone many different ways since then.
been married and getting divorced, and now have a son.
life has not been kind to me since i have left the org.
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LisaRose
It sounds like you rush into relationships because you are lonely. This is not good because when you had sex with someone so soon, you get involved before you know if you are comparable, then when it falls apart it is more traumatic. Sex too soon can mask the fact of basic incompatibility, take it slower next time, much slower, get a dog if you are lonely, seriously. Most women are turned off by needy men, so you will scare off the good ones.
Do not have sex on the first few dates, get to know her as a person, see how she behaves, decide if you want that in your life, It would be better to wait a few months, see how she acts in different situations, probably too much to ask of you, but it would be better for all involved. Be especially cautious if she has children. Little ones get attached, and then it is traumatic for them when you leave, you don't want to do that to a child. Don't move in until the relationship is well established. If you are a decent guy, you will find somebody, but don't expect her to fill all your needs, get out there and find some more guy friends also. This will help you increase your social circle and improve your chances of meeting a girlfriend.
Hang in there, you will find someone. The fact that you are asking advice shows your heart is in the right place. My husband and I are two nerds that just happened to find the perfect partner in each other, if we did it, there is hope for everybody!
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Have You Prepared For The "Flu" And Do You Get A Flu Shot?
by minimus ini try to keep my hands clean regularly and stay away from areas and people that i know are sick.. i have never gotten a flu shot and i do know that many that do get one, get the flu anyway.. still, the flu is considered very very bad this year..
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LisaRose
To me what is important is whether or not getting the shot will be more likely to hurt me or help me. All these anecdotal accounts may be meaningful to the person it happened to, but it is not really meaningful to me, there are a lot of wacko cures out there, but I am not going to take them all on the off chance they will help me. The flu shot has been tested and shown to help, obviously it's not 100%. If only one person out of a hundred is actually prevented from getting the flu because of the shot, well I may be that one person, and that might be a huge difference for me, I am older and have health issues. The shot also can help you get better faster, even if it does not prevent the flu.
If someone prefers to not get the shot, fine, but consider that while you may quickly get over it, you may give it to someone else who isn't so lucky. I don't think anyone should be forced into it though, the numbers aren't convincing enough for that.
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LisaRose
Moderate alcohol produces a state of mild euphoria, everything seems just a bit more fun. It is a central nervous system depressant, and helps you to temporarily to relax and not feel as much anxiety, which may help you enjoy things more. Sadly the effect is temporary, and if you over indulge, your anxiety may be worse the next day, creating a vicious cycle. In my experience, those who become dependent on alcohol often have some form of depression or anxiety, and they are self medicating with alcohol.
I knew a person casually who was telling me all about the bar she went to the night before. They had karaoke, and she and her friend had quite a blast, they were pretty good singers, she had even recorded the experience. She showed me the video, and it was pretty sad, it was just two drunks thinking they were rocking it, when actually they were just pathetic. I guess the moral is, never take videos of yourself drunk, that way you can preserve the illusion that you are smart, funny and talented when you are drunk.
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"I just want to keep them alive."
by cedars indoes anyone ever feel this way when they see older family members (parents, grandparents etc) growing old or experiencing failing health?.
do you ever feel that you should be able to somehow keep them alive - and feel frustrated and hopeless that you can't?.
cedars.
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LisaRose
I have a friend, she was given three to six months to live, that was nine months ago. She has had multiple cancers in her life, the first in her early twenties. She is 60 now, the chemo back then was not as well targeted, so it caused much damage. She has had bone and blood cancer, she has had blood transfusions, which also caused damage, her body cannot make red blood cells, plus she cannot make antibodies. They don't even know what to do with her. They had her on pain meds and all kind of other things, her body couldn't really process it, her liver and kidneys were so swollen she couldn't function. We all assumed she was going to die. But somehow weaned herself off all the meds, and who knew, she is still alive. Through all of this she has lived on her own (with help from friends) What is it about her that she keeps on? She doesn't know, for some reason she hasn't died. She is amazing to me, I cannot understand it. By all accounts, she shouldn't have even lived this long, what is it that keeps her going? Her life has been filled with tragedy, abused sexually and physically by her adoptive father, her husband left her when she got sick, he got custody, due to her illness. She lost one child at birth, another ended up a drug addict, she hasn't seen him in 10 years. Yet somehow she keeps going on, and not just that she has a good attitude, no whining. I look at her and it helps me when I have my struggles, if she can keep going, so can I.
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What's the funniest/strangest name you ever gave a pet?
by JH in.
i was given a cat whose name was "piti".
i found it strange, but i kept it.
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LisaRose
I was adopted by a stray cat, my ex husband called him Hemorrhoids, not kidding. I tried to name him something else but somehow Hemorrhoids stuck. I had to take him to the vet, and when they asked me his name, I blanked out and couldn't remember his nicer name, so I just told them he didn't have a name, I am sure they thought I was an idiot.
My current cat is named Lizzie, I had intended to name her Lucy, which my husband immediately changed to Lucy Fur (Lucifer), but she wouldn't answer to that, she seemed to prefer Lizzie. Lucy Fur actually was probably more fitting, she has a devilish streak. She likes to hide out and then sneak attack. She was hiding out under the bed and grabbing our ankles for a while, it got to where we would dive onto the bed to escape her. Now she waits until I get into bed and stick her paws up under the covers right as they are coming down and claw me a bit, not enough to hurt, just to startle me. Then she runs away to escape punishment.
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Terry, the advantage we have being 60 and older, we are smarter.
by jam inhow many folks knows the answer to these historical events, lol.. 1) after the long ranger saved the day and rode off into the sunset.
the grateful citizens would ask, who was the masked man?.
invariably, someone would answer, i don,t know, but he left this.
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LisaRose
Not quite sixty, two years to go. I got all but one and 14. I remember the Alka Seltzer guy, but not the name. I remember watching Red Skelton, Fredie the Free loader. I most remember his seagull jokes though. The Lone ranger was before my time, my family didn't get a TV until 1960.
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Why WTBTS Disfellowshipping Works...
by AGuest into the household of god, israel, and those who go with... may you all have peace!.
i just wanted to share with you, briefly, what i have come to understand as to why disfellowshipping by the wtbts works... why it can continue being fomented as it is.
i realize there are pages and pages of studies regarding cults and cult mindsets, etc., but i am not going to inundate you with such but rather try to keep this simple.
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LisaRose
When I was JW, I truly thought the practice of disfellowshiping was justified, if you chose to be a dub, but did not want to live by their standards, then leavell. But since I left, I have thought about it a lot. The scripture most commonly used to justify disfellowshiping is 1 Corinthian 5:9-11. "B ut now I am writing you that you must not associate with anyone who calls himself a brother but is sexually immoral or greedy, an idolater or a slanderer, a drunkard or a swindler. With such a man do not even eat."
First of all it say "anyone who calls himself a brother" . But what if a person just leaves? They are not calling themselves a brother, So why would the organization feel they must treat that person any different than any other non believer? What scriptural basis is there to shun someone who has left the organization and no longer says they are a Jehovah's Witness? None.
The second part says "anyone who calls himself a brother but is sexually immoral, or greedy, an idolater or a slandered, a drunkard, etc" This scriptures seems to indicate, to me, that it is those who make a practice of sin while still associating with the Christian congregation. There is nothing here that indicates that the congregation needs to sniff out any hint of sin, to form committees, to force people to confess. It seems to me, that those who are known to practice sin, that is, their sin is a practice (not a one time thing) and it is known (all are aware of it) but who continue to associate with the congregation are the ones to be shunned. The scriptures say nothing about those who may disagree about scriptural matters.
There is no need to form a "committee", no need for elders to determine guilt or innocence, there is no justification in the scriptures for that at all. As Christians, we all sin. It is only the habitual sinner, one who's sins are known who should be shunned. The WTBTS has effectively used disfellowshiping to effectively silence all dissent, to isolate and punish those who have simply made a mistake. There is nothing loving about it. It is a harsh and dictatorial practice that has harmed so many. It has resulted in many broken families and pushed many to commit suicide.