Posts by LisaRose

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Aspeger's syndrome, ASD and Autism - How do you know if you have it?

by KateWild in

on another thread i was asked by fadetoblack about my asd.

sorry ftb i didn't respond, but here is your post again and i will respond on this new thread.. i'm curious to know how you know you were born with asperger's syndrome.

it seems to be extremely hard to clinically diagnose, but popular to self-diagnose.

LisaRose

I've always been curious about Autism spectrum disorders, I wonder what could have happened to children to have something affect them in such a profound way, and how parents cope with it, how some children are able to get better, while others not so much. I was painfully shy and socially awkward as a child (truthfully, I still am to a certain extent) so I can emphasize with those who are on the spectrum. I read the book The Mysterious Case of The Dog in the Night, which is a mystery involving a boy with autism and his father. Although it is fiction, it really helped me understand how someone with Autism thinks.

I worked with someone who I realized after the fact probably suffered from the disorder. A brilliant man, he helped me a lot when I first started working with him as he had a lot more experience and training in programming, which was a part of our job. Then he became offended when I didn't take take his instructions the way he thought I should and began shunning me, it was very difficult in a small group of five people. Then he started playing practical jokes on our senior manager and didn't want to stop, even when she specifically said it was not appreciated anymore. I wish I had realized it at the time, I think I could have handled the situation much better. We did eventually work things out, but he was laid off, he had done the same thing to others, so he was one of the first to get axed when the company failed. I really felt bad for him as he had a family to support.

There was an interesting article in the Washington post this morning on some research currently being done. They are using prairie voles, as they form strong family bonds much like humans. When they blocked oxytocin receptors in the brain, the voles did not respond and give comfort to other voles who had been given an electric shock, as they normally would have.

The researchers said that breaking down the role of oxytocin in empathy may help us better understand and treat psychiatric disorders, such as schizophrenia, as well as developmental disabilities, such as autism spectrum disorder, that appear to be related to a disruption of a person's ability to detect and respond to the emotions of others. The researchers suggested that this indicates that oxytocin may improve social engagement in autism

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Evolution is a Fact #11 - Tiktaalik

by cofty in

one of the biggest gulfs that life has had to cross was the transition from sea to dry land.. fish have conical shaped heads, reptiles have flat heads.

fish have no necks; their heads are attached to their shoulders by a series of bony plates.

land-dwelling animals all have necks; their heads can move independently of their shoulders.

LisaRose

I remember the old evolution book, one of their reasons for not accepting evolution was the lack of fossil record, that there weren't any transitional species. Of course this was a giant whopper, there have always been, but it's true that at one time there wasn't a huge amount of such fossils that were known.

Part of the problem is that many of the transitional species died out so long ago, bones don't last that long, there had to be very specific circumstances that cause bones to turn into a fossil. But they have found plenty of such transitional species and more are being found every day, by scientists like this that use targeted searches.

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Sick! "Stoning of Two Transgenders in Dortmund, Germany Prevented By Police In The Last Minute."

by park ave boy in

this is what europe is becoming?

my work colleague in germany sent my this article in an email and it is perhaps one of the most disturbing things i have heard yet.

i have been hearing about many of these recent homophobic and transphobic hate crimes taking place across europe but this one slipped through the cracks.

LisaRose

I am sorry this thread was derailed by a discussion on Muslims. This was partially my fault as I made a comment about some very hateful racist things some one posted on my Facebook feed. It was actually a comment on racism, but not a comment about Muslims, so I don't know why anyone would bring that into the discussion. I generally try to stay out of the threads on Muslims, but since this has been raised, I feel I have to respond.

Of course rapists must be dealt with, I don't think anyone would question that, but it makes me sad that people have become so intolerant and hateful towards anyone simply because of their race, religion or sexual orientation. There are millions of Muslims, of course some of them are going to be evil, bad, horrible people and it's true that some Muslim cultures treat women very badly. But I still don't believe that we must condemn every Muslim simply because of their religion.

I think people have become fearful, as people are always fearful of those that are different and that fear makes them intolerant. I think those fears have some basis in fact, but the danger is greatly exaggerated. Anytime you have any large group of immigrants you will have issues, sometimes serious issues. I don't know what the solution is, but I know the solution is not hatred, that just makes things worse.

As Jehovah's Witnesses we were often looked down upon by others because of our religion, we all know what that is like, it didn't feel good . Of course now we know our former religion was a bunch of lies and did not help us or make us better people, but that did not make US bad or evil, just mistaken, we all tried to do the best we could with what we thought to be true at the time. Still, we did things that are wrong, like shunning others, and we even would have let our own children die because of what our leaders told us to do. I imagine most Muslims are just doing what they have been raised to believe is the right thing also and their religion is also just part of who they are.

But obviously I am in the minority on this issue, I've tried to avoid the subject, but it's impossible, so I think it's best if I take a break from this place for a while and focus on more positive things in my life.

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Sick! "Stoning of Two Transgenders in Dortmund, Germany Prevented By Police In The Last Minute."

by park ave boy in

this is what europe is becoming?

my work colleague in germany sent my this article in an email and it is perhaps one of the most disturbing things i have heard yet.

i have been hearing about many of these recent homophobic and transphobic hate crimes taking place across europe but this one slipped through the cracks.

LisaRose

I rest my case.

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Sick! "Stoning of Two Transgenders in Dortmund, Germany Prevented By Police In The Last Minute."

by park ave boy in

this is what europe is becoming?

my work colleague in germany sent my this article in an email and it is perhaps one of the most disturbing things i have heard yet.

i have been hearing about many of these recent homophobic and transphobic hate crimes taking place across europe but this one slipped through the cracks.

LisaRose

I am constantly shocked at how intolerant people are everywhere, it makes me sad. Someone I knew and liked that was a Facebook friend "liked" something that I found to be racist, mean spirited and factually untrue. It was shocking to me. I unfriended her and told her why, which of course DoD not go well, but WTF. I don't think she realized that anything you like on facebook will show up in the feed of all your friends. But when did racism and hatred become socially acceptable? Is this the Trump affect? The man says hateful, racist nonsense and his poll numbers continue to rise. Are we going to move backwards as a society as far as tolerance for gays and lesbians and people of color?

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New here

by MarkofCane in

hello and thanks to everyone for participating on this forum it has really been of much value, for those of you that post here know that your words are not lost you never know who is reading your expressions, lives are being changed and nonsense challenged.

i’m not much of a writer so excuse my untrained writing style and grammar but i want to share my story to help anyone who is visiting here to see that we are real people, fathers, mothers, sons and daughters who have come here for answers, there is no agenda, just searching for truth.

i hope my story will help others as so many here have helped me..

LisaRose

Welcome. Despite your apologies, that was very well writen and quite moving. I think we can all relate to the shock of realising how much we had been lied to. I look forward to the rest of your story.

Lisa 🌹

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Why don't people believe Facts?

by The Rebel in

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i have enjoyed some fascinating debates on the forum.

i have found it interesting when" facts" have been presented to support a viewpoint, yet the " facts" have then been rejected.. what does this mean?.

well the " truth" is as a dub, i was often presented with " facts" that the organisation was wrong, yet as this information challenged my belief system i convinced myself the " facts" were either completely wrong or misinterpreted, .

LisaRose

Confirmation bias, we accept information that confirms our beliefs, reject that which does not, because we have to protect our fragile ego.

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Are You Raising An Introvert?

by darth frosty in

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its not easy being an introvert in an extrovert worldespecially when youre a kid.

it is even more difficult if none of the adults in the kids life recognize that the child is an introvert.

this doesnt happen only when the childs parents are extroverts, but also with introverted parents who have never understood their own introverted nature.. .

LisaRose

Hmmmmm, I got mastermind, which I am not sure fits, I kind of expected healer.

I an totally relate to being lonely but not wanting anyone in my space. I had to dump a friend because she wouldn't stop calling me and coming over.

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Why continue to suffer??

by Tigerlove in

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i occasionally come on this website because i have my eyes on a particular user.

because of that, i end up reading a lot of people's post.

although very interesting and hurt breaking, a lot of them are very strange.

LisaRose

People continue to suffer because they have been systematically programmed to believe that their needs and wants are not important and that following the dictates of the religion is the only moral choice and to do otherwise will result in them disappointing God, being shunned by everyone they know and that they will be destroyed at Armageddon.

It's pretty simple really, fear obligation, guilt.

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First time here

by BarelyThere in

okay so here goes...this is my first time on here.

i'm lost and confused and am feeling very hopeless.

i was dfed in september and i am still wrapping my head around everything.

LisaRose

Barely there, Welcome, so glad you posted. Getting disfellowshipped is really rough, I think it's one of the most cruel things you can do to a person. My situation was much the same, married too young and stupidly, instantly regretted it, but I was stuck. I also had a brief affair, which I deeply regretted, but I was young and very unhappy and weak. So don't be too hard on yourself, we are all only human. Unfortunately my first husband didn't want a divorce so I went back so I could get reinstated. I had to live like that for another twenty years, it wasn't worth it, I wished I had just told them all to pound sand, but I didn't know enough then.

Take some time to figure things out. Many times people are so miserable from being shunned they go crawling back to the organization without thinking about whether they really believe it or not, and of course that is the whole point of it. Be glad you have some who will talk to you and start making friends outside the religion, friends who won't shun you because you made a mistake and aren't sorry enough in the eyes of some. They don't know what is in your heart, do they? As Jesus said "let him who is without sin cast the first stone". Of course they ignore that part of the bible, too busy ruining lives by making an example of you. In my experience they come down harder on the women, especially for sexual sin, there is a double standard. Or how else do you explain pedophiles who only get private reproof?