received this email from a family member who still thinks i am a active jw.. good morning all,.
just a bit of sad news, in case you have not already heard.. beloved member of the governing body, brother carey barber finished his earthly course yesterday morning.
he would have been 102 years od this july.
Received this email from a family member who still thinks I am a active JW.
Good morning all,
Just a bit of sad news, in case you have not already heard.
Beloved member of the Governing Body, Brother Carey Barber finished his earthly course yesterday morning. He would have been 102 years od this July.
dubs just stopped by.
saw my husband working outside and literally chased him around the back of the house and pounded and called through the sliding glass door.
when we ignored it, he went around to the front and pounded and called through that door.
I had sort of a similar experience yesterday to my horror. See I have been quitely hiding for years now from them after fading and moving to a new home 7 years ago. I never answered the door when they came to the door and they don't know my husband. So, here I am yesterday morning sitting on my loveseat, which is full view of the front door talking very loudly and I hear a hard knock on my open door. It caught me so off guard! Who is it but an old elder from my old congregation saying he is just in the neighborhood inviting everyone to the memorial. He hasn't recognized me yet but I am so flustered, I just get up and go to the door and kind of turn my head and not look him in the eye, take the invite and then he says "SISTER xxxxxxxxx???" I about died. I was hoping after 7 years I would not be recognized but he did of course. I just closed and locked my screen and walked away. As I slumped back into my living room my face was red and my husband and kids were asking what was wrong. I can just see it coming from now on. They know where I live and will be bugging me now. I have quitely faded without my family who live back east knowing. I don't know what's going to happen now.
My mother has provided the bread for many, many years at her expense. She has never been offered reimbursement for the things she had to purchase and she is sick and on a fixed income since my father (an elder) passed away 8 years ago. She had to buy everything for the table, including the cloth and make the bread. What a huge ordeal for her but she would never give it up until finally this year they gave the resposibility to someone else. My mother is on dialisis every other day and is nearly blind and they still had her doing this. I am glad she doesn't have to anymore. She would go out and by new pans to cook the bread in and serving dishes and everything so nothing was tainted!
my grandmother just passed away this weekend and is a witness as is alot of my family.
i have been out for so long and haven't had to deal with death in my immediate family.
i need to know what is the jw view of sending flowers or arrangement to the memorial service they will be having at the kh.
Thanks, I didn't think so but one never knows for sure with all the "new understandings" that seem to come out. I just wasn't sure because I seem to remember something about not putting flowers on peoples graves.
my grandmother just passed away this weekend and is a witness as is alot of my family.
i have been out for so long and haven't had to deal with death in my immediate family.
i need to know what is the jw view of sending flowers or arrangement to the memorial service they will be having at the kh.
My grandmother just passed away this weekend and is a witness as is alot of my family. I have been out for so long and haven't had to deal with death in my immediate family. I need to know what is the JW view of sending flowers or arrangement to the memorial service they will be having at the KH. I can't ask because my family still thinks I am active (so should know this). Any advise would be appreciated as I really don't need to stir things up right now and give them more things to worry about.
does a jw upbringing simply confuse a child or is it really damaging?.
i have no doubt that a jw child is, at least, confused with life.
in my own case my wife brings up my 2 children (aged 5 & 2) as jw`s.
I was raised a JW by good, decent parents. Although they were strict they were loving and kind so as a smaller child my life was really idealic. No argueing around the house, very close knit, lots of family oriented activites. I really never had any problem missing out on holidays because since I never celebrated them I really didn't know what I was missing. As I started getting a little older is when the troubles started. I started realizing how much I actually hated doing everything that was required of me. I felt guilty all the time and wondered what was wrong with me. Why couldn't I feel Jehovah in my heart??? I lived a lie, trying and trying to get that feeling, that closeness with Jehovah but no matter what I did it just never happened. So here I am at 45 years old, living across country from my JW relatives, still pretending to them that I am a JW because I feel too much guilt and shame to tell them that I have not been to a meeting here in almost 9 years! I don't see them much but when I go to visit them (due to illnesses, they never come here) I go to the meetings and keep up the charade. I can't bring myself to try any other religion so have given my children no spiritual guidance in life and still live with the fear that the BIG A will happen at any moment and I will see my beautiful children's life cut short like in the scary pictures in the watchtower that I grew up with, (hugh burning rocks pelting us to death from the sky, dark clouds, people lying dead in the streets all around us). I still freak out every time the phase "Peace and Secruity" comes out of any political figure on tv. I am still a mess and don't think I will ever get over what being raised a JW has done to me.
this mornings events have got me thinking about things.
i love peanut butter, not the sweet kind but i like the old fashioned peanut butter, usually laura scudder's with no sugar or preservatives - it just tastes better imo.
i put it on everything including pancakes which are really good with peanut butter and maple syrup.
Nacho Dorito's with banana's and Karo white syrup mixed with butter on biscuits. Yum
since i left the jw's i never wear a neck tie!
i probably have 75 to a 100 of them, but they don't seem to wear them in any churches, do not wear them to weddings and funerals, or even to exclusive restaurants.
i'm certainly never going back to the kingdom hall!.
I remember once after the meeting I was called aside by an elder and told not to wear the skirt I was wearing anymore, that it was not chaste. It was a really long skirt too but had a slit up to the back of my knees.
a lady i know told me today that in the original film, while dancing on the yellow brick road, someone on the set actually killed himself by hanging in the woods in the background and that it was visible if you had the tape.
anyone know if this is true?.
i asked why they did not just cut the scene - she thought it was because it occured in relative darkness in the rear of the set, and that in those days they didn't make as many retakes for a film.. anyone?.
I don't know how true the "on set" suicide story is but my daughter told me about this the last time it was on TV and I watched that portion very close and was surprised to see what really did look like someone hanging from a noose from one of the far off trees.
just because the watchtower society is wrong doesn't mean that there is no god, nor does it mean there is a god.
it would interesting to now how former members have adjusted thier cosmology, or whether they are now atheists and why.
i personally see religion as a more personal matter, rather than belonging to an organization.
First time posting but I've been a long time reader here. Anyway, I was just wondering if anyone else has the same problem that I do. I was born and raised "in the borg" as so many of you have put it so well. I was DF'd at 17 for having sex with a worldly boy (my boyfriend) and promptly left home and never came back. Because of the shunning by my family, after being out for about 10 years, I did everything I was suppose to and was reinstated. After about 3 years, I couldn't keep up the cherade any more and faded quietly away and have been out for about 7 or 8 yrs. Anyway to get to the point.
Since I was taught only the WT BS I still feel very unsure what really is the truth. I sometimes think that it is the truth but I just wasn't cut out to do it and will take whatever is coming to me at armmaggodon. I just can't seem to do anything but just hope that it really isn't the truth and if it isn't what really is????
