They would turn and stare at me and then whisper during the meeting about me, whether I was still dating or remarried or living with someone (I am not), depending on what I was wearing they would probably have something to say about that too. Skirts become shorter and heels taller and shirts lower cut by the time the talk goes through the grapevine.
okie46
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What reaction would the JW's have if you walked into the Kingdom Hall?
by JH in.
for those who didn't attend meetings for a while, imagine that you just walk into your kingdom hall 10 minutes before a meeting.
what would be their reaction?
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How do you know if she likes you, I mean really likes you?
by Honesty inwhat kind of signals (this is a devout christian girl in her 30's.
never married.
never been a jw.
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okie46
I think she is wanting to get to know you better. If she is very devout in her faith, with no experience really, then she would invite you to a group setting to get to know you in a safer setting. It may be for herself or for a friend. I would bet it is for herself. Some women are very obvious when they are interested in a man, but usually really, really religious women would not be too obvious at first. Just go and be yourself, don't read too much into it at first, just go into it with the attitude of making a new friend and then see what develops from there.
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Thank-you All I am doing ok
by hambeak inas i have posted about getting colon ca and having surgery and now going through chemo, the stress on me for keeping up my responsibilities at work and keeping up a home.
here is an update.
i am doing ok and jake is finally doing housework as i just don't have the energy to do it.
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okie46
You will survive, you are a sweetie and I am cheering you on!
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Have You Been Divorced, Or Getting A Divorce?
by Outaservice indivorce is much more common in the jehovah's witness community than they would like to admit.
probably more so than the population in general in my opinion.. if you have been divorced, do you think that the watchtower society contributed to the divorce, or caused it, or is it just possible you married some jerk or abuser and divorce would have occured no matter what religion you were, or even if you had no religion?.
possibly you got married way too young as the end was coming and there is no marriage in the resurrection if you died.
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I understand Earthtone, and I don't think it is fair for the society to make someone feel they have no choice other than to do something they know is wrong. But if you don't get free, then you never have the chance to start a new life. I don't think Jesus admonition that only death breaks marriage bonds is practical nor applicable today. In the old testament, men could divorce their wives for no reason at all.
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So, I have this kitten...
by KennyC in...and she is cute as can be.
we watched her grow and learn to play with new toys without freaking out over them.
one toy is a little stuffed bulldog with a harley davidson black jacket and a bandana.
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okie46
It won't hurt him, better than him getting beat up all the time or getting into fights over girl kitties. He is just thinking deep thoughts.
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So, I have this kitten...
by KennyC in...and she is cute as can be.
we watched her grow and learn to play with new toys without freaking out over them.
one toy is a little stuffed bulldog with a harley davidson black jacket and a bandana.
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okie46
So how do those Persians do it anyway when their hair is so long. Seems like it wouldn't make any difference to THEM what sex they are when they can't even get any action anyway. Do the breeders shave them before mating them up, or what ?
FOTFLMAO... Well Kenny, I don't really know, I don't know if they made a true love connection or not!!!! As hard as it is to cut a cats claws, no way in hell would I even attempt to shave a kitty. From your picture it looks like you may have more experience in that area than me? You look sorta Persian?
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I wont have the interweb for a while
by IP_SEC ini just moved into a new place and wont have internet for a while.
i got to get it ordered and installed... you know cable companies .
love yall.
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okie46
I already thought you were back on? Glad you are back IP freely.
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So, I have this kitten...
by KennyC in...and she is cute as can be.
we watched her grow and learn to play with new toys without freaking out over them.
one toy is a little stuffed bulldog with a harley davidson black jacket and a bandana.
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okie46
I had an adorable half red persian kitten, long orange hair and huge copper eyes and she was already named daisy when I got her, I liked the name so we kept it. I got Daisy a playmate, a little girl, grey striped tabby, I named Princess. After a few months, I couldn't figure out why Daisy kept humping Princess, so I took them both to the Vet to be spayed and that is when I found out that Daisy was a boy kitty!!! You couldn't tell since Daisy's fur was so long and thick. Even the Vet thought it was very funny.
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Have You Been Divorced, Or Getting A Divorce?
by Outaservice indivorce is much more common in the jehovah's witness community than they would like to admit.
probably more so than the population in general in my opinion.. if you have been divorced, do you think that the watchtower society contributed to the divorce, or caused it, or is it just possible you married some jerk or abuser and divorce would have occured no matter what religion you were, or even if you had no religion?.
possibly you got married way too young as the end was coming and there is no marriage in the resurrection if you died.
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okay. This is LONG and very embarrassing to tell, but here it is. I have been married and divorced 4 times, 3 of my husbands were JW's.
Husband 1: A witness, met him when I was 14 and he was 16, he had already left home and I had just moved to a new town. We dated in a group setting, I got baptised at 15 because if I didn't the brothers and his parents said we couldn't date anymore. At 16, I married him and then finished high school. My home life was very stressful and he and I wanted to start our own lives. He was very controlling and emotionally abusive, and had even hit me a couple of times before we married. I never told anyone, my home life as a child was controlling and abusive and I didn't know any different way of living. He is the father of my children, when I was 25, I was a lonely, tied down young mom, with 3 kids under 7 years, I fell under the spell of an older brother in our cong. who considered naive, young women like myself fair game. My husband sometimes worked many, many long days and many times never came home before 10 at night, unless it was meeting night. As I had grown up, I had started wondering about alot of different things and this caused friction with my husband. He was a good father and a good man, but could be emotionally cruel (he never hit me after the children were born). I was stupid enough to have an affair with this predator in the congregation (who was on his way out). In fact, he was so proud of himself, when I put a stop to seeing him, he called the elders and proudly proclaiming he had been having sex with one of their precious little sisters (by then he was df'd). When my husband found out, I had already stopped seeing that man, the elders told my husband that if we were going to stay together, they wouldn't disfellowship me, but if we weren't, then they were going to disfellowship me (this was before my judicial committee even met with me). My husband and I were unable to resolve our problems afterwards and divorced. He dropped out of the children's lives when he remarried, the day our divorce was final. He is now an elder also. I was reinstated within the year. I blame myself for what happened, because there is no excuse for adultery, no matter how unhappy you are. I blame the society also because I believe if we had went to marriage counseling, we may have been able to have a better marriage but were counseled against seeing worldly counselors.
Husband 2: A witness, introduced to him by witness family members who knew he was an alcoholic, wife beater who had been accused of being too familiar with his own daughters and other young girls in the congregation. Of course, none of this was made known to me. We married, too soon, after 6 - 8 weeks of dating. I left him 6 months to the day, after putting up with his drunken screaming fests at me, being told that he didn't understand why you can discipline your kids but not your wife, telling him repeatedly to quit kissing my daughter on the neck and then finding out that he was scaring her to death in the mornings after I left for work, so much so that she locked herself in her room until time to go to school. He then stalked me afterwards for four years. I eventually committed fornication with a co-worker and he was free to remarry, I was publically reproved. He was finally disfellowshipped for slandering me for printing out fliers about me and distributing them to people at the hall. Has since been reinstated.
Husband 3: A witness, I moved to a new city and introduced by a friend of a friend at the hall. Dated 4 months, he was slovenly pig, had no libido, couldn't hold a job and had split personality. Finally left after 5 years because I got tired of being threatened with having my head cut off while I slept or being told that he hated me and wished he had never married me. I hated to be divorced again but refused to put up anymore with his crap. This was also at the point I stopped attending meetings and left the organization. Found out after I left him that he had a secret Post Office Box in another city, I wonder why? Box number was 666.
Husband 4: Not a witness, a long distance relationship and dated almost 8 months. He turned out to be the biggest con man I have ever met, I thought he was my soul mate. I wanted to live together but he said he didn't want to disrespect me. So instead I move across the country to marry him, found out he was a big liar, he changed the moment we married, turned out to be the meanest, person. Turns out he was bi-polar schizophrenic and never stopped dating other women even after we married. Married 3 months. I moved out after he spent another night ranting and screaming about the house except that time with a butcher knife, he filed for divorce next day because he said it was evident to him I would end up dead if I stayed married to him.
SO, why did I marry all these guys??? I was trying to do '"the right thing'", you know you are not supposed to sleep with a man if you are not married to him. Now, I would never marry again without spending much time with someone, and yes I would test drive first.
The first marriage, I wrecked myself, my own stupid curiosity and weakness allowed me to do something that not only hurt myself but also my children and husband, I have much difficulty forgiving myself for this and probably never will. He is the one I miss so much, we did have good things together and could have worked it out. What I did was terrible. The others, a combination of loneliness and stupidity and being so naive and trusting. I still believe that marriage can work, but witnesses rush into marriage too soon because they don't want to commit fornication. As a result, many people marry who are not well suited for marriage or for each other. The pressure to not consult marriage counselors when there are problems also add to divorce rate. The admonition that you can only be free to remarry if there is a death of a marriage mate or adultery, raises the adultery rate, some people feel trapped and feel adultery is their only way out of a bad marriage. Being inexperienced and naive and too trusting also leads to bad matches in marriage for people who were raised as JW's with no outside influence. The results of all of my marriages and divorces, has been extremely painful and it takes alot of struggling to regain your bearings, the effect on children can be even more painful. Fortunately, my children are all amazingly well-adjusted adults, even though they had to deal with my poor choices in judgement, they have done very well. They have been grown and away from home for some time now, but it is still hard for them to know that I still am in such pain over everything. I believe for the most part they have forgiven me, I hope so. That I caused them pain is the hardest to deal with.
So a combination of the poor counsel of the GB and society and my own human weaknesses and poor choices are what I blame. I was also put under a lot of pressure when I left what I considered were abusive situations, the elders didn't approve of my reasons for leaving. But how are you to know, when you never have real life experience?
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Have You Been Divorced, Or Getting A Divorce?
by Outaservice indivorce is much more common in the jehovah's witness community than they would like to admit.
probably more so than the population in general in my opinion.. if you have been divorced, do you think that the watchtower society contributed to the divorce, or caused it, or is it just possible you married some jerk or abuser and divorce would have occured no matter what religion you were, or even if you had no religion?.
possibly you got married way too young as the end was coming and there is no marriage in the resurrection if you died.
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okie46
yes, divorced 4 times, each time a story, I will tell you after I get done with dinner.