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  Have You Been Divorced, Or Getting A Divorce?

  by Outaservice in

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  divorce is much more common in the jehovah's witness community than they would like to admit.

  probably more so than the population in general in my opinion.. if you have been divorced, do you think that the watchtower society contributed to the divorce, or caused it, or is it just possible you married some jerk or abuser and divorce would have occured no matter what religion you were, or even if you had no religion?.

  possibly you got married way too young as the end was coming and there is no marriage in the resurrection if you died.

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  wonderwoman

  I have been married /divorced twice.
  1st ex hubby was a jw, we were young- 19& 22 - fooled around a lot had sex, married in 9 months. We split up 4 months later, elders came over to 'counsel' us and found out about the fornication part (his big mouth, I was fine keeping our secret) we were dfd. He is the father of my son. We did ok for a while, then fell aprt all over again with cheating on both sides. We divorced after a total of 2 years of marraige.
  I definitely blame th WBTS for these young marraiges. You meet someone, maybe fall in love or don't, but it's a natural part of life to be a sexual being, and they make it out to be so evil and disgusting.
  I can say I truly loved this man. He was never abusive, never domineering, just loved me plain and simple. We were way way too young to even think about settling down.
  2nd ex hubby was just a big bad mistake. Never a wittness. But was alcoholic, controlling and emotionally abusive. The only good thing I can say about this one is I have a beautiful daughter because of him.
  I wish sometimes I could start over like a 'normal'person, but I feel even through all this crap I am a better person for it. And I have fantastic kids that have made me grow up and deal with the crap.
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  What reaction would the JW's have if you walked into the Kingdom Hall?

  by JH in

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  for those who didn't attend meetings for a while, imagine that you just walk into your kingdom hall 10 minutes before a meeting.

  what would be their reaction?

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  wonderwoman

  Well, since there is a cookie award for the first one that 'gets' me, I am sure there would be a big ugly jw stampede.
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  August In Photos (OFG Is Still Alive)

  by OpenFireGlass in

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  bonus pictures.... bear scratching post.... .

  some of the mess i have to clean up..... .

  my dog waiting for me in cab of the truck.... .

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  wonderwoman

  Welcome back!
  Stunning photos. Thanks.
  cute dog.
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  Questions for those born or raised in the truth

  by The wanderer in

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  raised in the organization

  "for those not born into the organization .

  not having been born into the organization i believe.

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  wonderwoman

  It was very hard.
  There was no playing with the neighbor kids or friends from school. No after school classes or activities. (All I wanted was to play drums and soccer. Dad said no. Worldly association.) No birthdays or holidays or sport related school things like the football games or dances even if during school hours. We (my sisters and I) went to school with a handful of other jws which made it easier to sit in the counselor's office while everyone else cheered on our team. But then again those jw kids ended up being backstabbing holier than thou hypocritical brats.
  Other kids either felt bad for us or thought we were weird. I had a couple friends that always gave me a little X-mas or birthday present.
  Having a boy as a friend was as frowned upon as dating. We were tomboys so most friends were boys and we constantly got counseled on that.
  They assumed (the elders) that every boy was a soon-to-be-lover.
  I read a post about finding work while still in school. That was difficult because of availability. And I had to drop yet another night because of family study which always seemed to be on masturbation. My father had issues.
  When I got into highschool I wanted so badly to be an artist. But of course as we all know, it's foolish to consider going to school. I was never encouraged to follow my dreams or pursue a passion. My parents told me that if I married a bethalite possibly I could get myself into the art department for the WBTS. Oh yeah!! Really??? This was the worst part of being raised a jw. No support or parental back-up to BE SOMEBODY. Follow your heart. It was always get married, pioneer.
  I never really found out that it was all a lie. I always questioned it in my heart. After I left for personal reasons, it became easier and easier for me to see the lies and deception. I only found JWD a couple months ago and I'll say it again and again, I love it. I never knew YOU people were out there!!
  I am so relieved that I am out and my kids will never have to experience that life.
  WW
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  I couldn't believe what I heard

  by snarf in

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  i posted last week about wanting ideas to bring up for a visit from my old teacher and her elder husband.

  the visit went awesome, they only managed to stay for 3 1/2 hours then made up a lame excuse and bolted out of here as fast as they could.

  i am very grateful for the responses i recieved, although we never made it to those issues, i didn't get a chance.

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  wonderwoman

  **So, they were telling me that a one night stand is more forgiveable in the eyes of Jehovah than a long term respectable relationship resulting in marriage. ; ;
  
  Am I way off here or is this really stupid thinking on their part?**
  Isn't it??
  No sex with your supposed life partner, the mother/father of your possible children, your mate. BAD BAD!...but taking home that hotpants from the bar after too much whiskey is forgiveable.
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  Have you ever fallen asleep while praying?

  by JH in

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  i don't know about you guys, but i never pray before eating and never pray before going to bed.. first of all i like a hot meal, so i don't pray before eating, and i also never pray before going to bed, because i might fall alseep before i say amen.

  been there done that...

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  wonderwoman

  Mine were always shorty and sweet,
  Can't say I didn't during Bro. Blowhard's prayer after the Sunday meeting tho. lol
  It's dangerous to fall asleep while standing...
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  No to soaps.

  by Moomin in

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  during the time leading up to my baptism and even more so afterwards, my study conductor and her friend were always telling me how i shouldn't be watching the soaps.

  (i had mentioned to them at some point how i enjoy watching emmerdale and coronation street).

  they described them as being unwholesome and encouraging of immoral ways.

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  wonderwoman

  I loved 'Good Neighbors"!!!. My aunt was a huge fan and I would sneak it at her house.
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  No to soaps.

  by Moomin in

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  during the time leading up to my baptism and even more so afterwards, my study conductor and her friend were always telling me how i shouldn't be watching the soaps.

  (i had mentioned to them at some point how i enjoy watching emmerdale and coronation street).

  they described them as being unwholesome and encouraging of immoral ways.

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  wonderwoman

  I was raised with the same 'soaps are evil' mentality. I knew a lot of jw that watched them, even pioneers. It was a 'do as I say not as I do' issue, (like most jw issues.)
  My big thing was the 'R' rated movies. We were constantly warned at meetings, watchtowers and assemblies to resist the temptation, but I knew so many people including elders and their bratty kids who watched them on a regular basis.
  Just one of the many things I missed out on because some pig-headed man said so.
  WW
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  Can anyone find anything wrong with this?

  by agapa37 in

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  this is todays text!.

  saturday, august 26.

  [jesus will] be regarded in that day with wonder in connection with all those who exercised faith.2 thess.

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  wonderwoman

  Welcome goldencalf/
  loved your post.
  WW
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  Has Anyone, or, How Many Have Written to WTS...what was the response?

  by Pioneer Spit...oh, i mean Spirit in

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  i wrote for the first time 5 months ago.

  one of my sisters, a hoho, was married 27 years to an ms who has abused her mentally, emotionally, physically, and this was well-known to most everyone who knew them including family.

  when she filed for divorce, i heard that our parents, other family and ex-friends yelled at and criticized her, and then the elders called her into a meeting and condemned her, i was furious.

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  wonderwoman

  **We found that any type of correspondence with NY was futile and a waste of our precious time and energy**
  I wrote a couple letters to the bosses a few years ago. My responses were pretty much the same. I was lying and rebellious. I had no proof. I had no rights. Don't ask questions. They suggested I find myself an older sister to study with me (never mind I was raised nazi style in this crap). I was also told to pray and go in field service more, as this would help my spirituality.