I hear you troubled mind. I'm not df'd/. I ran into an elder (not my hall) at the market, and he froze then looked past me like I was invisible. You forget for a second that people actually choose to do that...it's not human...and I tell everybody I know about how they act.
I have 7 family members with no regular contact. My brother (COBE), when my mother died, told me he would keep the communication open even though other families would not. But since they have been cracking down on the inactive ones, I haven't communicated in a couple of years.
My heart goes out to the parents and children especially. I know it's the cult mind, it explains so much. But still...how can they do it? I know somebody will die sometime soon, and I'll be at the memorial, and I cannot wait to give a few people a piece of my mind.