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  JW upbringing - the gift that keeps on taking

  by Simon in

  1. watchtower
  2. beliefs

  the things they take from you:.

  first they take your childhoodthen they take your familyfinally they take your memorieswe all know that you limit your social interactions so you have few school friends who are not jws.

  they openly promote this in their magazines and it's repeated at meetings throughout your formative years.

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  Dagney

  Pictures of outings and trips from days gone by? They become reminders of loss and pain instead of good times, even if they were good times when you were there.

  No kidding. Many times I can look at a picture and feel the good of it, and even laugh with others about the "former friends." Then other times the reminder seems to put me in a funk and sometimes makes me angry. I hate that.

  Yes, it has affected me. I haven't tried to make friends. I also know that I subconsciously numbed myself after I left to protect me from the feelings of loss as I tried to figure things out. I am surprised at how little feeling I have for some I was so so close to. I should say "no" feeling. Am I the same as them but just on the other side? I wonder.
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  Are You Upset My Miley Cyrus' Performance On MTV Awards?

  by minimus in

  1. social
  2. entertainment

  i'm not, even a little bit and i don't understand what the outrage is all about..

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  Dagney

  Upset, no. The snippets I saw on the news were just bad entertainment. But what's with the tongue? {{{shiver}}}
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  God's good for "$66 dollars"

  by Separation of Powers in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  last week's watchtower study related an experience of a sister who prayed that god would help her with her rent.

  she needed $66 dollars.

  she went to her waitressing job on an off night and would you believe?

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  Dagney

  When something "good" happens it's always from Jah, not the hardworking, kind people that may have provided windfall.

  When something "bad" happens, it's always a test from Satan...raise in rent, car repair, gas prices etc.
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  Never say never

  by zed is dead in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  i really thought that i would never go to another memorial service at a kingdom hall ever again.

  i found out today that a man that i truly respected as a man passed away recently.

  his daughter call me to let me know.. even though i haven't spoke to them in years, i still consider them family.

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  Dagney

  Sorry for your loss. Considerate of the daughter to think of you. RIP.
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  New

  by rod.henderson in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  hi,.

  completely brand new to this site and to witnesses.

  a friend introduced me to the jw and i'm just learning all i can..

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  Dagney

  Hi Rod! Welcome! Any subject you are studying has further research and commentary here, just "search". I gurantee you will find it worth your time.

  Take care and great to have you with us.
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  The final chapter in the confusedandalone story...

  by confusedandalone in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  this morning i get a frantic call from my sister (who has been baptized 1 year and one month and never attends meetings anymore).

  in tears she tells me that this morning my father picked her up in the car and told her that i was am apostate.

  that i no longer loved jehovah and that i was going to be disfellowshipped.

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  Dagney

  Welcome to the first day of the rest of your life. You have what really matters in life, your family. This religion is crap.

  There will be ups and down with family and employees...but just keep looking forward...because that is where you are going.
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  Effect of family life (me, wife and young boy) if I am df / da and wife zealous jw

  by Daniel1555 in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  i have a question and hope to hear some experiences of you who went or are going through this situation:.

  actually for several reasons (blood policy, disfellowshipping policy and some more) my conscience is telling me quite strongly, that i should not anymore be a part of that organization.. my wife and even elders know about my doubts (except blood policy).

  however i continue to join the meetings actually just to please my wife and to be together with our baby boy.

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  Dagney

  Really good advice here. My .02, be the best darn dad and husband in the world as you extract yourself from the organization. Spend quality time with wife and baby boy.
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  Former Elders? What did you not like about serving as an elder?

  by JakeM2012 in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  a few of my pet peeves were:.

  the po/cobe knowing that he needed to have an elders meeting after the meeting but not telling any other elders.

  humm, but his wife knew.

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  Dagney

  Reading this shows why guys are here at this place. You have heart, courage, empathy, and love for justice and what is right. We are glad you all made it out and made it here.
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  Was Your Leaving The Witnesses A Very Gradual Process Or A Quick One?

  by minimus in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  for me, it took many years.. even when i would read all the changes over the years from the "truth", i still would ignore it and "wait on jehovah" and try to be a positive force in the congregation.. eventually, i just couldn't take it anymore and resigned as an elder, and slowly but surely made my fade.. what about you?

  were you out, in a short or longer time?

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  Dagney

  I wanted to add, even though I didn't leave until 2001, the 1995 thing was HUGE to me. I started actually paying attention to crap. I started using a NJB instead of the NWT, brought it to all the meetings and started reading all the scriptures in context. I started questioning the elder friends about inconsistencies. I sat next to the BS conductor with my big NJB rolling my eyes during my last Daniel book study.

  But I would have defended to death it was still the truth. Until I snapped one day and I was done.
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  Was Your Leaving The Witnesses A Very Gradual Process Or A Quick One?

  by minimus in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  for me, it took many years.. even when i would read all the changes over the years from the "truth", i still would ignore it and "wait on jehovah" and try to be a positive force in the congregation.. eventually, i just couldn't take it anymore and resigned as an elder, and slowly but surely made my fade.. what about you?

  were you out, in a short or longer time?

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  Dagney

  (waves to shop )

  Quick. I had sort of a an "out of body" moment of clarity during a Sunday WT study, and suddenly felt like I didn't belong there. My whole life flashed in my brain and what the consequences probably would be, almost like the split seconds you hear about before death. It was my last meeting. I didn't know what I was going to do; it was not planned. I was just done. And it felt absolutely like the right thing to do. I was so sure, I have never questioned it. I had no influence from the internet or anything. I read up on that stuff after I left.

  As I think back on it, it was really strange how it all happened. But I am sooo glad I ripped the bandaid. It probably would have taken me years if I had thought it through and weighed it all out. Phew.